Letting other people ride your horse

You are really not being rude or unreasonable. I think the best thing to do is explain how you do to us. Last year he was unfit and would just plob along, now he is much fitter etc etc. Personally I think she is taking the mickey!!!
 
Ditto the others! Sounds like it'll take a tightrope act of tact to get her to stop riding your horse ow that this misunderstanding has developed, but a little white lie should be able to get you out of the situation without feelings being too hurt. If you tried the "at this stage in his training..." tack, would your instructor back you up if questioned? Though that's probably a very silly thing to ask for. Maybe the truth, gently presented, is a better idea... :confused:

I know how pressured one can feel, though. Last week at camp, one lady's horse was lame, so the instructor suggested she borrow someone else's for the jumping exercise. Since I got the pony, only I have ridden him, and twice my instructor. We only started jumping him again this spring after some accidents last year (involving A&E), so despite the fact that he was doing very well at the camp, I didn't want anybody else sitting on him, especially over jumps. It was no reflection on the lady's ability, which was fine! Even though everybody accepted my refusal without a challenge or question, I did feel guilty and selfish too! :)
 
im sorry, ive changed my insurance providers and the new policy is for me riding the horse only, so no-one else is going to be riding him from this point on.
 
I will let other people ride my horse if I'm happy that they are competent and that they will be sensible with ground conditions etc. However I expect to make the offer and not for people to assume they can ride him as and when! In your situation I wouldn't be happy.

I would just say that as you are spending a lot of time, effort and money having lessons that you do not want to have anyone else ride him now and be firm about it. They might not like it, but your horse, your choice.
 
I don't have my own at the moment and would feel very uncomfortable asking to ride someones horse like she is! I exercise peoples horses but as previous people have said I would never ask, they ask me.

She sounds like the kind of person that would get offended even if you kindly said no (not that she has the right to be!) so I would be inclined to go with other peoples opinions and say that you feel he's a bit sharp at the mo or that you've changed your insurance.

Hope it goes ok for you, really feel for you - it's a difficult one!
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no ur deffo not being selfish ... u have clearly spent alot of time and money to retrain "YOUR" horse yourself :) i never let any1 on my horse as i dont want him getting confussed and throwing someone off lol ... as someone else said previous, just say u've changed insurance and ur not insured for anyone else to ride him :) i use this if someone asks 2 ride mine haha
 
Ha ha! I am in exactly the same sitaution myself! One of my liveries asked a friend to ride her horse when she had to go into hospital, so I lent the livery my horse to chum her friend out for a trial hack - however the friend ended up coming home on mine as was too frightened of my liveries mount.
Since then I have been getting weekly phone calls for 'when can I next ride' and she has even started dropping subtle hints about using him for some fun rides! What she doesn't realise is that my nice quite cob turns into a demon at those types of events and only has one speed........so am tempted to offer him up for a laugh, as I am sure she would then run for the hills!!!!
On a serious note all you can do is say 'no' as there are only so many excuses you can make.
Good luck!
 
You are not being selfish in any way or form. He is YOUR horse, not anyone elses. Plus, why should you give reasons/excuses as to why you are aying no. You don't have to do either!!
 
Anyone that I know who is competent is most welcome to ride any of my horses. I do not have a problem with anyone riding them so long as they can actually ride. That is my choice.

You dont want anyone riding your horse. That is your choice. You dont need to make any silly excuses about why you dont want them riding you should just tell them no.
 
Anyone having this problem should get my horse to talk to their horse. I think my friend wanted a go on Belle... then the first lesson she came to watch me, Belle turned into a bronking looney and the friend said she'd never dare get on her. :P

You are defo not being selfish - I don't really want anyone else to ride Belle and I'm not even a good rider myself. It sounds as though it's in you and your horse's best interests to keep him for yourself. :)
 
I would just tell her that you don;t want anyone else riding your horse. If you feel the need for an excuse there are many

1) you want to ride him!
2) people get sued by other people who fall off their horses. So you don't want to put yourself in that position.
3) this is why riding schools pay MAHOOSIVE amounts for insurance.......

You are not being a bitch. You thought it was a one off and were being nice.
 
There is nothing wrong with not wanting all your hard work thrown away!!!
I am a really fussy cow and no one else rides my horse, call me selfish but he is mine and thats the way i like it!

Stand your ground, he is yours after all and what you want for him is up to you!

rant over ;-)
 
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