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I've put a previous post up about this pair who are being funny with me over turn outs etc. This weekend I had to keep my girlie in all weekend because theirs didn't go out. This was no problem, as I worked her and the weather was a bit dodgy anyway (and, as it has been pointed out to me it is my problem, not theirs).
Anyway, this morning was gorgeous and they were turning their horses out, so I thought 'yippee' she can go out.
My girlie is only on hay - hayledge just doesn't agree with her and never really has. She has only ever been on hay and this is well-known on our yard, especially by this pair.
Well, when I got to our field they were spreading something around and then walked out, very quickly, without saying anything to me. What they were spreading out was three massive piles of hayledge.
Which meant that, for a third day in a row, my horse can't go out.
Am I being paranoid, or does this seem deliberate now?? I can't believe someone who is supposedly 'horsey' would do that through sheer thoughtlessness...
 
I don't understand.
Why can't your mare go out?
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I think this is a bit of an overeaction. It is your horse that has the problem - not theirs. Why should they feed hay because yours can't have haylage - it may be that theirs can't have hay. Is it a behavioural problem that yours has that means it cannot be turned out on it's own? in which case you need to address that problem. As a yard owner I am well aware of how one horse can be a huge problem. I have one one my yard. The owners are fantastic - but the horse can't be on his own, he destroys fences, gates and himself trying to get to another horse. i f I put one in with him he gets overly attached to that and the problem gets worse - so he has to fit in round the other horses, having to stay in when there is no one to go out with, having hay or haylage depending on what the other horse needs. The owners are great - they appreciate that it is their problem and they just fit in with whatever I can do for him. If he has to stay in because others are not available to go out with him then tough. He stays in and gets worked and they graze him in hand so he gets the grass.
 
I'm sorry but this really sounds like it is your problem. If they put their horses out and feed haylage, that's their perogative! If your horse can't go on its own and can't eat haylage, that is down to you to either:

fit in with the others,
keep your horse in, or
move yards

I'm afraid on a livery yard you can't get everyone to work around you and your horse is yours is the problem. What happens if she is on haylage?

I mean, you've be just as livid if the other people only put 2 piles of haylage out and there was a kicking match in the field over it so it doesn't sound like they can win. Aren't they doing you a favour having yours out with theirs anyway?

I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, I don't mean to be, but if you really don't like it, I would look for another yard and fully explain that your hrose needs a companion and can't have haylage etc.
 
Didn't you agree to move your horse in with theirs at the YO's request due to another horse being ' naughty' ? I thought you made everyone aware of your 'conditions' for doing so too?

If so then I think it's time to make a stand and remind them of what was said and agreed by all parties. Good luck
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In this situation i can see two sides - you thought you were being nice by swapping fields so that the other people didnt have to worry about the naughty horse right? So you put yourself out for them right? I presume you told them about your horses quirks before doing so?
I think you did them a favour and in some respects they owe you one- but at the same time you cant expect them to change the way they do things for you- what happens when your mare eats haylage? does she become sharp or is it a health thing eg she colics? if its serious you need to point it out to them and remind them of their end of the agreement, if its not serious grin and bear it- its a livery yard!
 
Thanks to those of you who can see my side of the story. The problem that I have with turning my horse out with three massive piles of rich, sweet hayledge after she has only been eating hay, is that I don’t particularly want her flat out with colic tonight when I come to get her in.
There is not supposed to be any hay in the field. We are not allowed to put hay or hayledge out in the fields, so I don't know why they did it in the first place.
And to not say anything to me when they know it is not something that she usually eats is irresponsible in the extreme. The deputy YM was as livid as me when I told her.
Sorry if some of you think that I'm being a prima donna over this, but I am sure you wouldn't be impressed if someone else decided to feed your horse something over the stable door or the field gate that it had never eaten before. Well, it is the same principle here.
 
So get the YM to remind them they must not feed hay/haylege in the field.
 
If they aint supposed to put hay or hayledge in the fields and thats the rule then they are in the wrong, it's not complicated, what part of not putting hay or hayledge in the field dont they understand, I dont think your paranoid.
 
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