Loan crisis

Yes a rotten trick, but something that can easily happen with a horse on loan - that is the risk.

Anyway, once you get that receipt you've got yourself a bargain really, so all's well that ends well!

(we had the exact situation with my stepson's first pony - was initially on loan but we ended up buying her when they said they were going to sell her. To be honest it was a relief to get rid of the shadow of the owner looming in the background...)
 
You are not going to belive this but I received this text last night when i was waiting to meet her with the cash.

"been having a long think & at this moment in time I am not sure what i want to do with her. think i would rather leave her with you for now and discuss further next year"

GUTTED!!
 
Send her back then! She is playing you again. Trying to get you to keep the horse over the winter then she will try and sell her for more.

Text her back and say you've had enough of being messed about and will be dropping the horse back this weekend. Tell her that you were serious about buying a horse and if its not hers you will be looking for another one to buy asap.

Stay strong, call her bluff.
 
How nasty of her. I think you have to revert back to your original plan in that case, very sadly. Phone her and get her to take her back immediately. As hard as it will be now it will stop her messing you about for the next however many months. Very, very unfair on you and your daughter.
 
Unbelieveable. Echo what others have said.. Say you're returning her and have had enough of the messing around. She's taking the blooming wotsit.
I feel so sorry for you and your daughter, this must be awful.
 
been following but not commented but so so angry now for you !! tell her that is not an option in any way shape or form she is p*****g you about big time and will continue to do so. take horse back today and buy one of your choosing !
 
How awful! This is really not on, she's messing you around to a ridiculous level. Agree with the others - put your foot down. This is not fair to you or your daughter.
 
I had a feeling she'd do that. Agree, tell her to get a stable ready as she's on her way back. No way is she leaving her with you to pick up all the costs! Cheeky madam.
 
This is outrageous! Agree with everyone about telling her that you are bringing the horse back immediately. Maybe at this point it would be worth talking to her parents (though I know they can't technically do anything) as I know that mine would read me the riot act for something like this! Might just make her think about what a sod she's being.
 
The only good thing is that I have kept all this from my daughter so at least she hasn't been subject to a rollercoaster of emotions about this. I was watching her in her lesson yesterday and she was going so nicely. No sign of the stressy tense mare we had 15 weeks ago. Nice relaxed well balanced horse and smiling daughter. I was tempted to tell her last night we wer buying her....Glad I didn't now.....she is going to be so disappointed. I am so angry.

There isn't a stable free at her yard till January!
 
Agree with Amymay. Its not your problem, she will have to find another yard.. And be firm, don't give her an easy ride. Tell her you are pretty upset at how she's treated you and that you feel like ringing her parents up to tell them. Give her a jolt.

I still think that she may well change her mind again if things get tough. But if you're soft and offer to make things easy, keeping the horse while she faffs around you are more likely to lose this horse..

Even if the worst came to the worst, you will still have time to find another horse for your daughter before Xmas.. It would be a shame to lose this one, but you can't keep going through this (and you will if the loan situation continues).
 
Definitely - she either has her back right now or sells her to you. She hasn't done anything to deserve you being nice and keeping her over Christmas and New Year for her! Maybe if you really out your foot down selling her to you will be the only option anyway? Agree about talking with her parents, especially if Dad picks up the bills!
 
absolutely not your problem. her problem to find a yard for the horse. I would give her till the weekend. she is using you for free livery now
 
I agree, it really isn't your problem there is no stable at the livery yard, She will let you keep her till next spring doing all the work and sell her when the market picks up and she can get top dollar - cheeky sod
I hate loaning for exactly these reasons.
 
This! What a muppet - return horse asap & prevent any further heartache for your daughter.

Honey08 said:
Send her back then! She is playing you again. Trying to get you to keep the horse over the winter then she will try and sell her for more.

Text her back and say you've had enough of being messed about and will be dropping the horse back this weekend. Tell her that you were serious about buying a horse and if its not hers you will be looking for another one to buy asap.

Stay strong, call her bluff.
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And when you return the horse make sure you return the tack it came with and keep any new stuff you bought. This owner deserves nothing from you. I can't believe she wants you to keep the horse until the new year. It's taking the mickey. I wouldn't even give them until the weekend I'd take the horse back today.

She will either sell the horse to you for a fair price or she won't. There's no point holding on and hoping or calling her bluff etc. For all you know she could have read this thread. Just move on and look for your own horse to buy.

If at some future point you're offered this loan horse to buy at a fair price and you've not yet bought another, then buy her. If not, then you've at least not put your life on hold waiting around, paying out to keep someone else's horse and getting ever more attached, whilst knowing that you'll likely lose her.
 
I would call her bluff big time. Text her and say the horse MUST be returned this weekend as you have found another you are going to view Sunday. Tell her your daughter is extremely upset and you are now going to make things right for her!
 
Tell her you are buying a new horse for your daughter for Xmas therefore she must take the mare back asap, the rest is her problem as the owner. The girl is a damn fool if she thinks people are queuing up to buy quirky difficult to load horses like this mare because they're not, for £1650 you could buy something much less complex. Give the mare a month away from you and your daughter and she'll be back how she was and this silly lass will be lucky to get meat money. What a damn cheek. I am very sorry for you and your daughter.

My quirky mare got sent back on me just before Xmas last year, my father was very ill at the time and in fact died in early Jan, I was stressed and short of time. The mare wouldn't load for me or the loaner and it took us about 2 weeks to get her home (having to organise transport, 2 failed attempts, the works)

The loaner isn't a bad person at all but really didn't care about my personal circumstances. She wanted the mare gone immediately and the rest was my problem. That's the thing about owning a horse that this girl needs to remember. Grrr I am fuming for you!
 
Do people not talk these days????? Call her say that you will be returning the horse this weekend, alternatively you will buy her.
Call them on it and keep calm
Good luck
 
Just tell her that all this chopping and changing has made you totally certain that you would rather have your own horse than a loan horse, be it buying hers or buying something else... No need for dramatics. But I would be mentioning it to her parents, whether she is 18 or not, if my 18yr old had been treating people this way I would be having words with her, whether the horse was mine or hers.
 
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