Loaners - unrealistic expectations

I was lucky but didn't realise it. My horse was tricky to handle, not so much to ride if you were vaguely competent. I had some lovely loaners and the last is a very good friend. RIP my favourite boy.
 
RunToEarth said:
Regardless, it is not for an adult of sound mind to suggest telling a 14 year old to "piss off fatty" that is how people develop all kinds of complexes.
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Erm I didn't say that-I think you are confusing me with someone else.

My horse, my choice as to whether I deem someone too heavy for her. And at more than 20% of the horses weight she was...
 
I want to know why its acceptable for a teenager to not bother reading an ad, or read it and decide to chance their luck anyway, then get rude and stroppy when due to not meeting the criteria they are politely turned down? If someone got rude with me I'd feel no pain about being rude back. Why all the "we shouldn't be rude to them because its a teenager" comments? Isn't that how rude teenagers grow up to be rude adults? Why not pull them up on their bad behaviour in a way they would understand? I think "p off fatty" would be quite effective!
 
No one said it was acceptable for a teenager to behave like that. adults are meant to be role models for children that's why it's not acceptable to speak like that. of course there are rude children who grow into rude adults but that doesn't mean we should all be rude. no one will learn anything if we adopt that attititude
 
Fides said:
Erm I didn't say that-I think you are confusing me with someone else.

My horse, my choice as to whether I deem someone too heavy for her. And at more than 20% of the horses weight she was...
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I wouldn't let anyone on my horse who was too heavy, however there are ways of dealing with things and the poster who suggested telling a 14 year old to "piss off fatty" is IMO not a particularly nice individual for suggesting it.

Sugar_and_Spice said:
I want to know why its acceptable for a teenager to not bother reading an ad, or read it and decide to chance their luck anyway, then get rude and stroppy when due to not meeting the criteria they are politely turned down? If someone got rude with me I'd feel no pain about being rude back. Why all the "we shouldn't be rude to them because its a teenager" comments? Isn't that how rude teenagers grow up to be rude adults? Why not pull them up on their bad behaviour in a way they would understand? I think "p off fatty" would be quite effective!
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Rude teenagers aren't acceptable, however they do take their stance in life from grown ups, which is precisely why it is not appropriate for any rounded adult to comment in such a way.

A lot of children are left to their own devices on the internet, I don't doubt a lot of them over egg their abilities, however reducing an argument to name calling of quite a damaging nature is just instilling more inappropriate behaviour into them.
 
Hey guys - no one was rude to a teen. There's no point getting theoretically mad for something that didn't happen.
 
RunToEarth said:
I wouldn't let anyone on my horse who was too heavy, however there are ways of dealing with things and the poster who suggested telling a 14 year old to "piss off fatty" is IMO not a particularly nice individual for suggesting it.
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The post of mine you quoted was me responding to someone saying that I shouldn't have told a 14 year old to "piss off fatty" - I didn't. I don't think anyone would consider it an acceptable thing to say so I'm not sure why it is still being brought up...

Eta - the teen was the one who was rude, no one else was :)
 
Fides said:
The post of mine you quoted was me responding to someone saying that I shouldn't have told a 14 year old to "piss off fatty" - I didn't. I don't think anyone would consider it an acceptable thing to say so I'm not sure why it is still being brought up...

Eta - the teen was the one who was rude, no one else was :)
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I understand the context of the thread, I was passing comment that I don't think that is a sensible suggestion.

The solution is of course for parents to take responsibility for their children and educate them not to be rude - if that happened we would live in blissful peace.
 
Antw23uk said:
My words to a stroppy 14yr old would have been "piss off fatty" and then I would have hung up the phone :)
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Personally think this is quite harsh and very childish. Teenagers have enough on with exams, puberty and hormones without chucking bullying into the mix. Sincerely hope you never have children.

OP - Keep at it. With everyone who inquires and isn't quite right for your horse, you're one step closer to finding the perfect loaner. Good luck.
 
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