Loaning problem

[Willowthebee2017]

Hi everyone,
Hope someone can offer some advice. I full loan and have done since May but I'm finding the yard unbearable everytime I'm up its always something with the yard owners or even the loaner herself . The horses owner has said she doesn't want me to move the horse to another yard but I'm honestly so close to be done with that place. How do I break off a loan before I lose my mind or say something I regret.

 

[Upthecreek]

Give notice that you want to end the loan? As long as you are ending it in accordance with your loan agreement there is no need for drama ?

 

[Pearlsacarolsinger]

Just tell the owner that you are sorry but you will have to end the loan if she refuses to let you move the horse. If she stands firm, as she may well, she obviously wants to keep an eye on her horse, then give her notice as per your contract.

 

[AmyMay]

Give notice that you want to end the loan? As long as you are ending it in accordance with your loan agreement there is no need for drama ?

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[Widgeon]

Before doing that I would have a word with the owner of your loan horse, say that you feel the YO is not happy with you and you're not sure why. It may be something as small and silly as you leaving mucking out tools in the wrong place (for example) and the YO is grumpy about it. Popele often let niggly things annoy them until they get really cross, rather than just having a conversation about it. I'd try to find out whether this is something that can be easily sorted out before giving up what is presumably an otherwise nice loan. If that doesn't seem to work then you can do as the others have said. It doesn't need to be a big deal, sometimes people just don't get on and it's no one's fault. You just have to move on, particularly in the horsey world. You'd end up with enemies all over the place if you took everything to heart!

 

[Chappie]

If the horses's owner is very certain they don't want the horse to move yards, I'm afraid there will be nothing you can do, and you simply have no choice but to end the loan, in accordance with your loan agreement, and put it down to experience. Hard to do when there is a living creature involved that you have grown fond of and begun to built a riding partnership with, I know, but that is the downside of loaning; hopefully the horse is safe and has all it's needs met and is cared for by it's owner so you don't have to worry in that respect.

I've had more than one loan over the past decade, and seen many other people loan, and can with say with that experience that loaning can be a minefield, for both parties. Also being on a livery yard is like having a job, sometimes you go through a good spell with nice "colleagues" and a supportive atmosphere and it's all going great, then the tide can change and you end up in a nightmare, where you have to decide to keep your head down and ride it out or cut your losses and bail.

If there was another yard you knew of, perhaps nearby, with very obvious advantages to the horse over where it is now, it may be worth a last try by suggesting this to the owner, from the viewpoint that it would most definitely benefit their horse - you'd have to thoroughly check it out first though and be sure it would likely meet the owner's approval before even suggesting it. But the owner may have good (not obvious!) reasons not to move the horse, so wouldn't want to consider it, just bear that in mind.

 

[Lady Jane]

Have you had a recent conversation with the owner? As you have loaned the horse since May, if she is happy with you she may not mind you moving yards, especially if you don't go too far

 

[Willowthebee2017]

Hi everyone,
Thank you all for the advice, there is a few problems I have a learning disability and as this was my first loan the people who I thought I could trust never mentioned a contract or agreement all they said was a months notice and thats that. As for the YO she just nitpick everything, and if you don't do what she want you to do then she makes being up there hard and she has chased a few other loans away the lady I loan Ally off of has 5 other horses and I'm the only original loaner left. The owner cares about her horses but she just seems to like to have horses and not the work needed along with horses. I part loaned and was left to muck out all her horses and decided to full loan so I didn't get left with all her work but I'm still doing her work.

 

[Elf On A Shelf]

So you are loaning one horse and expected to look after the rest?

Sounds like she doesn't want the horse to move as she will lose her slave labour!

I'm sorry but I would walk away. There are plenty of other horses out there looking for someone to love them.

 

[Lady Jane]

You are being exploited, no wonder she doesn't want you to move yards. Find another loan and walk away