redapple
Well-Known Member
I really need practical advice as to what I can do in a potentially difficult situation. Sorry, it's going to to be long...
My mum has been diagnosed with cancer, waiting until next week for prognosis but will at least need surgery and therefore some help. This is fine and I can leave work and move back home fairly easily. But there's one big problem.... She owns a very aggressive terrier that she is very attached to.
We have had multiple dogs over the years and all have been trouble. Its ownership fault and could have been avoided which I totally appreciate. So I'd appreciate not being told it's our fault, I get it. It is. But the problem already exists and is very established so I need to deal with it whilst caring for my mum. And I think the dog in question will only get worse as she gets iller.
He guards. Has never bitten but will stalk, aggressively bark and jump on people whilst doing so. He's clearly one step away from bitting.
Nobody but my mum can put a lead on. And even with her, he's hit and miss. He goes absolutely wild. He'll go for your feet, pin you against a wall if possible and it's generally an absolute nightmare.
He'll do the aggressive barking at anything on the street/in nearby fields too. Though only on his lead. Once off he's an absolute wimp but doesn't have a great recall so it's a risk.
I'm extremely worried I'm not going to be able to look after him whilst she can't. Honestly, if I had my way I'd rehome him. He's a rescue and arrived with a few problems but nothing like what he has now. My mums is clearly not the right place for him. But he's not my dog and I've already suggested this multiple times and been shot down. I don't want to add more stress as she's ill. She'd never forgive me if I forced her hand and has said in these exact words that she would never let the dog go.
She's taken him to a behaviourist who said she didn't understand the problem as he seemed so sweet(!) and made a few small suggestions that weren't really enough. She costs an arm and a leg to do house visits (where she would see a totally different dog) and we can't afford it!
Can I sedate him?! (I know this seems mental but I honestly mainly care about my mum and it's such a stressful environment it's doing her no good). I cant take him myself as I live in a flat (and she's never let me). I don't know how I'm doing even be able to start training with the way he is. I can't stand up without him going for me. What on earth am I going to do!
Anyone got any advice?! (also thank you for reading this far!)
My mum has been diagnosed with cancer, waiting until next week for prognosis but will at least need surgery and therefore some help. This is fine and I can leave work and move back home fairly easily. But there's one big problem.... She owns a very aggressive terrier that she is very attached to.
We have had multiple dogs over the years and all have been trouble. Its ownership fault and could have been avoided which I totally appreciate. So I'd appreciate not being told it's our fault, I get it. It is. But the problem already exists and is very established so I need to deal with it whilst caring for my mum. And I think the dog in question will only get worse as she gets iller.
He guards. Has never bitten but will stalk, aggressively bark and jump on people whilst doing so. He's clearly one step away from bitting.
Nobody but my mum can put a lead on. And even with her, he's hit and miss. He goes absolutely wild. He'll go for your feet, pin you against a wall if possible and it's generally an absolute nightmare.
He'll do the aggressive barking at anything on the street/in nearby fields too. Though only on his lead. Once off he's an absolute wimp but doesn't have a great recall so it's a risk.
I'm extremely worried I'm not going to be able to look after him whilst she can't. Honestly, if I had my way I'd rehome him. He's a rescue and arrived with a few problems but nothing like what he has now. My mums is clearly not the right place for him. But he's not my dog and I've already suggested this multiple times and been shot down. I don't want to add more stress as she's ill. She'd never forgive me if I forced her hand and has said in these exact words that she would never let the dog go.
She's taken him to a behaviourist who said she didn't understand the problem as he seemed so sweet(!) and made a few small suggestions that weren't really enough. She costs an arm and a leg to do house visits (where she would see a totally different dog) and we can't afford it!
Can I sedate him?! (I know this seems mental but I honestly mainly care about my mum and it's such a stressful environment it's doing her no good). I cant take him myself as I live in a flat (and she's never let me). I don't know how I'm doing even be able to start training with the way he is. I can't stand up without him going for me. What on earth am I going to do!
Anyone got any advice?! (also thank you for reading this far!)