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Aren't you feed up with people take advnage of you? Okay I go to this college (Which I really enjoy studying at!) and of course I do equine but because of being treated differently Im losing my confidence in riding and becoming self concience of myself. One day I was just about to have a riding lesson on a stallion which I was excited about as I loved riding him but someone, one of the girls on the course decided that is would be nice to tell me before I got on that the horse had a broken jaw now obviously I was going to be slightly nervous and stiff while riding. So I had to be careful to abay the horse movements as he is quite fast and dosen't lisen to you, while he was play up I found it hard to pull the reins as I had the worry of him going worse, he bucked and I don't mind the fact if I fall off but I was scared as I didn't want to make he's jaw any worse than it was, I did do half halts while he canted but I went in the center of the school because of lack of control, then he bucked and I thought to myself im just going to let go because it's going to get worse and I was worried about the other riders as they were on mare's and I didn't want anyone to be crushed.
Since then on every horse I've felt the need to stiffen up because I get so worrried now about how the horse is feeling while riding, I refuse to use a whip as Im terrified of what might happen. I feel that I've wasted 8 years of riding because someone that selfish could effect my confidence.

I hate the fact some of my classs mate's can be that spiteful.

Take care all!!
 
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Never mind, I gather you won't understand *Sad*

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Well we don't really understand what you're saying that's all. You appear to go to Hadlow College, and are doing an equine course there. However, you are implying that you were put on a horse with a broken jaw - which made you concerned for his comfort when riding him. This in turn has made you loose some confidence when riding other horses, as there might be something wrong with them.

Surely your college wouldn't put you on a horse with a broken jaw, in huge distress and suffering?

As for your 'friends' - well, apply some common sense.
 
Um – why would the college put you on a horse with a broken jaw? And did you not ask your instructor about it/the best way to handle it?
 
I too went to a very well known Equestrian college and i also had to put up with some very unkind,nasty people.I had my own horse there at the time with me and the slagging off i used to hear about me and my horse,i never did or said anything to them or behind their backs about them i just think in the end they try to pick on someone vunerable and at that time i was going through a lot personally so i quess i was an easy target.I left college early in the end and did my National Diploma from home with no help like they got (we had a whole library devoted to horse books at college) i ended up passing with Merit and i went back to collect my award etc along with my new born baby that i'd had whilst away from it all.They either failed or just scraped through and on hearing about their results i realised that all that time i was better than them not in the big headed sense but the grown up,get your head down and work for what you want sense.I think at the end of the day you have to try and concentrate on you and try to ignore them.There was many a lesson when i'd get put on a horse that was not the most popular and they would laugh at me thinking i was put on it cos i was rubbish but i just tried my best and i always got good comments from my trainer which shut them up as they were always getting told off for chatting to much and being rude.They werent popular with the staff.Looking back now in an adult way i think they were just jealous of lots of things about me and the only way of coping with it was to be nasty.I went on to do very well and did more qualifications at a more local college to me,i made so may nice friends their and no one at this college was horrible,it is a case of hit and miss when it comes to E.colleges.I would never recommend that college i had problems at as it wasn't just the people i didn't rate,i would however recommend my more local one as it's so friendly and helpful.I only went to the one further away as it was supposed to be THE best,it's in all the horsey mags and i didn't think once that it may be horrible.Just goes to show that however good something is rated it's not always for everyone.
 
In the nicest possible way, if you were that concerned you should have said you didn’t want to ride the horse. Everyone falls off – its part of the deal when you ride horses.

Horse riding centres/colleges have so much ‘red tape’ now with regards to health and safety I doubt very much that your instructors would let you ride a horse that they thought was unsuitable. It sounds like you were nervous and this probably transferred down the reins.
 
Im sorry but i dont think they would have put you on a horse with a broken jaw???? i dont really understand your story here>?? are you losing confidence because they put you on a naughty horse or because your friends are being funny with you??
 
arrrh i see now! Just ignore your friends and if you dont feel ready to ride something like that it is nothing to be afraid off! Everyone is afraid at some point but if you love riding and horses you gotta keep getting back on otherwise the 8 yrs you have been riding may be wasted!
 
Well clearly being brave hasn’t got you too far, maybe next time you should be brave on a horse that you are more suited too – it will make you a better rider to ride quieter horses well rather than highly strung horses badly.

This is not meant to sound as horrible as it does!
 
I found when I was at college there was alot of pressure to ride the naughty horses and not moan about it.

If you raised concerns about the mount you had been allocated for the lesson you were just told to get on with it as you wouldn't be able to be so picky in "the real world".

I lost alot of my confidense froom riding at college.

I'd have a word with your tutor about how your feeling.
 
Poor old you. Peole who are being bitchy and nasty are normaly being that way beacuse they are jelaous or are feeling crap themselves. If you are having a confidence crisis speak to your teachers openly and honestly about how you feel, if neccesary make an apponntment with them so you have time to explain things properly. Confidence is a fragile, thing and you tutor will understand, we have all been there. Just try not to read too much into things, when you are feeling vunerable and sensitive things can escalate and get much worse than they need to - good luck
 
Hi all, I know the college, horse and students in question here; I would first like to confirm what has been suggested, that the horse does not have a broken jaw, this happened in the past and is healed, the college would not allow an injured horse to be worked. The student who informed the rider about the jaw, was incorrect, but meant well, not meaning to scare the rider.
Students are always encouraged to talk to their instructors about their horses and feelings, and this is taken into account when choosing horse for lessons.
I think what make our writer here so annoyed is the actions of fellow students, and that misunderstanding between them is hurtful. This is something which our writer and her fellow students need to talk about so that they can solve it, and go back to being friends! S
 
Hi all, I know the college, horse and students in question here; I would first like to confirm what has been suggested, that the horse does not have a broken jaw, this happened in the past and is healed, the college would not allow an injured horse to be worked. The student who informed the rider about the jaw, was incorrect, but meant well, not meaning to scare the rider.
Students are always encouraged to talk to their instructors about their horses and feelings, and this is taken into account when choosing horse for lessons.
I think what make our writer here so annoyed is the actions of fellow students, and that misunderstanding between them is hurtful. This is something which our writer and her fellow students need to talk about so that they can solve it, and go back to being friends! S
 
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