Loss of horse of a lifetime – How to cope?

I'm on my first horse, but had the same deep loss when my dog died. It was just me & her against the world. My mum embroidered that same poem for me & I still have all her stuff. . .locks of hair. . .bowls.Toys. Can't part with them. It was 7 years ago. I had to get temazepam to help me sleep. I cried all the time. Life wasn't worth living without my wee chum. I had counselling & was diagnosed with clinical depression & went on anti depressants for a few months. I'd say it took me about 4 years to come to terms with my loss. I can now look at photos & smile ! I still blub occasionally. I'll always miss her. But it's time that's the healer - but the doc trips really helped. And my friends & family. I was a loner, but people really rallied round me & that helped a lot too. Try to keep busy. Love to you x
 
I’m so sorry for your loss - I had to have my horse of a lifetime PTS this morning following a shocking and horrific broken leg in the field! I know exactly how you are feeling at the moment as i am also there myself, but i was really hoping to be back on my feet in a few weeks! For me I am welcoming people to tell me its going to get easier, but i don’t think the sad feelings in our hearts will go away for a long time - try and be positive I’m thinking of all the good things which is removing all the horrendous images i had to see and deal with this morning. I hope for your sake it was not a similar experience for you! If you want to chat with another recently bereaved person you can PM me. (((Hugs)))
 
I have 40 years worth of memiors stored up in my loft, 5 saddles umpteen bridles, headcollars, rugs, grooming kits and when I dream of my horses it's always the old ones, not the ones I have now, time does heal the pain.
 
premiersporthorsesuk said:
This brought tears to my eyes. I totally feel for you and don't ever hold back the tears, everytime you let them out the pain eases. It doesn't get easier, you just learn how to cope without them being there.
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Couldn't put it better!

I had ten years out after my first true love went. Sixteen years on I am lucky to have found my soulmate again. I still think of my ginger prince and yes I still cry but I know I will meet him again one day.
 
Oh OP your post makes such sad reading, I really do feel for you. I lost two horses last year and was absolutely devastated, it leaves such a raw, gaping hole....

The pain does get less raw and you learn to live with it over time, there will
come a time when you can think of her and smile and the tears will be less. Utilise your friends/family and there support, don't be afraid to admit you aren't coping.

A dear friend sent me this when I lost my beloved Paddy, their are many bereavment poems about but the words in this really helped me x

I'll lend you for a little while
My grandest foal, He said.
For you to love while she's alive
And morn for when she's dead.
It may be one or twenty years,
Or days or months , you see.
But, will you, till I take her back,
Take care of her for me?
She'll bring her charms to gladden you,
And should her stay be brief,
You'll have treasured memories
As solace for your grief.
I cannot promise she will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But, there are lessons taught on earth
I want this foal to learn.
I've looked the wide world over
In my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
With trust, I have selected you.
Now will you give her your total love?
Nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come
To take her back again?
I know you'll give her tenderness
And love will bloom each day.
And for the happiness you've known!
Forever grateful stay.
But should I come and call for her
Much sooner than you'd planned
You'll brave the bitter grief that comes
And someday you'll understand.
For though I'll call her home to Me
This promise to you I do make,
For all the love and care you gave
She'll wait for you, inside Heaven's Gate.
 
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