Lost my boy on New Years Eve 😢

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6 months ago I lost Indy. My American Saddlebred at age 24. This New Years Eve I lost my 29 year old Arab, Beau. Very suddenly. Absolutely fine in the afternoon. Collapsed in the evening. Signs of colic. Then had a horrific seizure and was PTS. Body removed New Years Day. So 5 have become 3 in 6 months. Absolutely devastated. Plus, two are ridden each day out with my sharer and myself. And I can’t leave Joker alone as he will freak. So , I’m trawling the adverts for a non ridden companion and feel immense guilt at even thinking of putting another in his stable as it feels too soon. His rugs are still hanging up. Head collar etc 😢
 

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I'm so sorry.

It doesn't feel like it now but, in time, I hope it will give you comfort that he went so quickly. It's the one thing tht gives me comfort about losing my old boy (nearly 20 years ago now) . He was fine the evening before but down in his stable when I went to turn him out in the morning. He'd eaten all his hay so can't have been suffering for long.

Don't feel bad abut getting another to keep Joker company. You're not replacing Beau just filling the physical hole he's left in Joker's life.
 
I am so sorry. He was beautiful and obviously loved as he lived such a long life. I am very sorry for your loss. As for feeling guilty - you sometimes have to be practical with horses - you remaining one needs a buddy :( RIP Beau.
 
Very sorry for your loss. Not sure where you are but World Horse Welfare have lots of non ridden companions looking for homes and will expedite the process if you are going to have one left on it's own.
 
I’m very to hear about your loss. It’s so hard.

GemmaRuby said:
Very sorry for your loss. Not sure where you are but World Horse Welfare have lots of non ridden companions looking for homes and will expedite the process if you are going to have one left on it's own.
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A rescue might well fit the bill. The RSPCA expedited me taking on a young foster pony after I was left with just one grieving horse after the late maxicob was PTS. They knew me anyway as I’d fostered from them before, but they did the required home check after the foster pony had already arrived at mine.
 
so sorry for your loss. Sounds like they both had lovely long lives and were well loved.

As other have said don't feel bad about doing what's right for the ones you have left. charities are busting at the seams currently.

Could you change the stables round a little so maybe one of your old boys friends is in his stable rather than a newbie. Might help with feeling of replacing him a little.
 
exracehorse said:
6 months ago I lost Indy. My American Saddlebred at age 24. This New Years Eve I lost my 29 year old Arab, Beau. Very suddenly. Absolutely fine in the afternoon. Collapsed in the evening. Signs of colic. Then had a horrific seizure and was PTS. Body removed New Years Day. So 5 have become 3 in 6 months. Absolutely devastated. Plus, two are ridden each day out with my sharer and myself. And I can’t leave Joker alone as he will freak. So , I’m trawling the adverts for a non ridden companion and feel immense guilt at even thinking of putting another in his stable as it feels too soon. His rugs are still hanging up. Head collar etc 😢
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So very sorry for your loss.
 
So sorry.

I went from 3 to 1 quite suddenly. Lost old boy due to field accident. Then lost my retired to hacking best boy due to colic.

The latter was completely hysterical about being on his own but with careful management became reliable enough at going out for half a day by himself. I never thought it would happen.

When I lost him my current horse Rooni was actually ok and spent almost 3 months by himself. He was more settled when he then had company again but outwardly wasn’t stressed in the slightest (there were several complications which prevented my immediately providing him with a companion).

Hope you get it sorted.
 
exracehorse said:
6 months ago I lost Indy. My American Saddlebred at age 24. This New Years Eve I lost my 29 year old Arab, Beau. Very suddenly. Absolutely fine in the afternoon. Collapsed in the evening. Signs of colic. Then had a horrific seizure and was PTS. Body removed New Years Day. So 5 have become 3 in 6 months. Absolutely devastated. Plus, two are ridden each day out with my sharer and myself. And I can’t leave Joker alone as he will freak. So , I’m trawling the adverts for a non ridden companion and feel immense guilt at even thinking of putting another in his stable as it feels too soon. His rugs are still hanging up. Head collar etc 😢
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So sorry to hear this. Try Joker on 50ml of Coligone before taking the other two out. Works on my boy who has severe separation anxiety.
 
I'm so sorry - awful to have a sudden loss at any time of year but the holiday period just seems to make everything worse.

The charities are crying out for good companion homes right now so they are worth a call.
 
dorsetladette said:
so sorry for your loss. Sounds like they both had lovely long lives and were well loved.

As other have said don't feel bad about doing what's right for the ones you have left. charities are busting at the seams currently.

Could you change the stables round a little so maybe one of your old boys friends is in his stable rather than a newbie. Might help with feeling of replacing him a little.
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Thank you. That’s an amazing idea. His bed was all made up. So it’s untouched. Hay net still hanging. Stable rug out. Can’t go in there.
 
So sorry to hear this. Your boy going downhill so fast must be horrendous for you but take comfort from the fact that a healthy, comfortable life up to age 29 then a swift end is about as good as gets for a horse. You gave him a super lifetime.

If you're in the North West, HAPPA have been trying to loan out some arab companions, if you're partial to the breed in general.
 
I am so sorry to hear that. I hope, in time, you can come to terms with the trauma of his loss and find comfort in the fact that you’ve clearly done an amazing job looking after him and given him the most wonderful life. What a super age for a horse, and although we never want to lose any horse, you should be able to commend yourself on being so quick to notice and respond and that he was so well up until having to let him go.

Sending you all my best wishes and hoping that you can find a horse who needs you right now, to help to ease the practical stresses. They would be lucky to find to you!
 
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