major rant and advice please

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well at the begining of june, i had a arguement with my grandads girlfriend, resulting in my grandad calling me and the other liveries liar's (i told him exactly what happend and so did the others), so we left the yard and we have rented a yard between us, during this time i was revising for my level 4 accountancy exam so i was slightly to say the least manic, my mam and dad and aunt and uncle had a holiday about a week after this happend, then i started to receive text messages from my grandads girlfriend, saying i was a crap mother, telling me to f, saying my grandad hated me and never wanted anything to do with me again off etc, i replied to these messages basically just saying if youre going to bother texting me learn how to spell nothing malicious (sp), in the end i just sent one back saying i dont want anything to do with any of them and as far as i was concerned i didnt have a grandad, this was the last contact i have had with them and i havent seen either of them since
one of the ladies who moved with us has had to have major surgery and can to nothing for a few month and our new yard has needed alot of work to be done to it, to get it safe for the horses, so between me and sandra we are looking after 9 horses, we both work full time, we both have children and were both still trying to get everything sorted
well i was up the yard last night when a police car pulled up, he came over and said i would like to speak to you about the harrasment and threats to (grandads girlfriend), i was like what on earth are you going on about, he then went onto say on sunday night i had threatend to hit her and every time i see her i do the same, so i asked what time this supposed incident happend, he said around 7pm, well i was at my yard then with alot of friends helping me paint the stables and i didnt leave until 10.30pm, i showed him the messages and the ones i sent, i told him i had never seen her since the 1st week of june, it got to the point where i said i want to get this sorted out i want to proceed with harrasment charges against her and my grandad as ive got enough going on without this
i have never been in trouble with the police i cant believe my grandad and her would do such a thing, i really dont see the reasoning behind it, any advice from you folks would be greatly appreciated as i dont know what theyre going to do next and i dont want to end up with a criminal record for something i havent done
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I wonder if this is more of a soapbox thread??

But essentially, in your shoes, I would ignore all texts - and not respond to them. Obviously keep a copy. And just get on with your life.

It's your grandfathers girlfriend that appears to have a problem, not you. And as she has to proove that you are harrassing you, I don't see what you have to be worried about.
 
sorry if it is meant to be in soapbox, i just needed to get it off my chest, its just really getting to me, i just want them to leave me alone and let me get on with my life
 
It may be worth speaking to your mother/father about their parent - ie your grandfather. It may be nothing to do with your grandfather - she may be doing this on her own. I agree dont respond to anything. but keep the messages on your phone. See what your parent says once they have spoken to him. This is how major family rifts start and to be honest your parents are in the middle and can possible sort it out
 
my parents dont speak to him, through a previous girlfriend and him basically doing something similar to them, in fact none of his children speak to him, their was only me that did, im definetly not going to reply to anymore texts, il just keep them just incase, i feel so down that people can stoop this low
 
It's true what they say, you can't choose your family. Put it down to experience, forget them and get on with your life. As others have said keep their txts but do not respond. Some people thrive on this sort of thing, let them get on with it.
 
Agreed. Don't reply to anything they send you, totally rise above the whole thing, ignore it, and if it does so happen that you both have to be interviewed or whatever, it'll be clear this woman is the hysterical liar she sounds like she is.

Good luck, and I can't emphasise enough how important it is to ignore her, in case this goes further you need to have your hands totally clean of anything. Could she be making stuff up about what your grandad has supposedly said if you haven't spoken to him? Perhaps your grandad doesn't know she's been doing it, or she's been telling him you started it too?
 
from what i know, shes telling him im doing these things, after talking with my other half, its my birthday today and im not going to let her spoil it, i think youre right she does seem to thrive on it, im not going to bite anymore, thanks everyone for your advice
 
Clearly a case of blood not being thicker than water! I certainly wouldn't respond at all to her messages. If she wants to proceed with legal action then let her. Then call your parents as witnesses and they will see that your grandfather, sadly, has a history of falling out with his family. I'm quite surprised that the police even bothered to speak to you. They have better things to do with their time than sort out minor "domestics". I'm afraid your grandfather is in danger of dying a very lonely and embittered old man. Shame.
 
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