Manners - mini rant

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I find it so rude when people ask questions or ask for advice and then don't thank those who offer it. Maybe i'm too pedantic but I think it is basic manners to thank people if they try to help you even if you don't act upon their advice. If you can't even say thanks for advice then I really don't think you should ask for it.
I see it all the time, not always advice I have given but sometimes I read a thread and someone has responded and obviously put time and effort into a response and the OP doesn't even acknowledge (I know sometimes they may have responded by PM) but it annoys me so much that I get annoyed on other people's behalf when it happens.
I wonder how some people are brought up - to me it is just standard to say thanks whenever help has been offered.

In your opinion is this bad manners or acceptable?
Does it annoy you or do you not even notice whether or not people say thanks!

Rant over!!
 
Yes I know what you mean...

I did a long & personal reply by PM to someone about something quite sensitive, then got one line back that made me feel totally stupid & embarrassed for bothering...
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I personally think in the forum we have a great mix of people. I find that the suggestions and advice given comes from different backgrounds and experience and it is up to the person receiving the information to decide which bits to take. I agree that after people have posted their replies it is polite to thank them and if it is a major issue to give a follow up post. But to individually thank everyone who has given a reply would not really be workable, a thank you to everyone is sufficient.

I am sorry you feel like this because on the forum, people try to be as helpful as possible and I personally have received many good tips and advice. I am not sure if you are directing this particular post at anyone, or if it is general.

If you are replying and being helpful, I am sure that everyone out there is greatful and I hope you continue to do so, thats what makes this forum helpful and interesting.
 
I agree that it is great to be able to get loads of different advice ect so you can make a decision based on loads of opinions.
Just occasionally though people don't say thanks and it bugs me - one thanks to everyone is fine - I'm not saying thank everyone one by one!
 
As a newbie on here I've been very grateful for all advice that has been given - I think that is general politeness, but there must be cases where people have logged off their computers before a response has been given, and are, therefore unable to say thanks? Maybe they feel older questions are no longer viewed so any later posts saying thanks wouldn't be seen anyway?
PMs are a different matter though . . .
 
Seconded jem1! A little 'thank you' costs nothing but gives so much. It really grates when I see someone's efforts go unacknowledged (although this is fairly infrequent, I think).

Going to get on my soapbox now (warning: off-topic ramblings of an old-fashioned girl ;o))... Perhaps I am ott (a British thing?), but I think no service is too small to warrant a please and thank you, along with a friendly smile. From my experiences on London's commuter trains I have to say that our once-legendary British manners are in steep decline.
 
Tell me about it.... someone recently wanted a place at a yard to brush up on their knowledge so I said I'd ask my YO (who owns a private stud) if they could come to our yard. She said yes so I pm'd and rang the person to say they could come down, sent comprehensive instructions on how to get there and YO phone number and I never heard another thing from them (after being quite keen to come down).

Fine if you have a change of mind, everyone is entitled to that, but I went to a lot of trouble for this person and they couldn't be bothered to let me know they wouldn't be coming. Grrr
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They then appeared back on here a few weeks later under a different name asking about riding stables that did courses. She could have got lots of experience for free - more fool her!
 
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