Max the Orphaned Exie. Vibes please.

Luci07 said:
Not offering much practical support (bit like your in-laws!) but just to digress on the tears front. This did happen to me, and I am not a crier. Long story short (and with other symptoms) I did then find out that being weepy (the Lloyds ad with the handicapped girl getting onto ride made me cry) can be a symptom of the peri menopause. I have been researching it, Mother Nature is incredibly unfair on us, and if you want to have a quick off line about it, pm.

But the weekend will be over and the in-laws gone, Max is gaining strength and there is nothing like having a proper nights sleep to make you see the world in an entirely different way.
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Thank you and might PM you one day but at 38 and desperate for children...I'm just going to pretend I didn't read that for the time being.

I've always been the same with tears so not too worried. Thank you though xx
 
This is very embarrassing to admit, but since Sunday night, I have worn the same clothes. Only had undie changes and quick pit and bits flannel washes as just on autopilot and showers wake me up for hours so would stop me sleeping.

However, I've just spent 20 minutes in the shower and all clean clothes on and I feel utterly amazing. I also no longer smell of baby milk ������

Sorry peeps, felt the need to confess.

Max is doing great. Really feeding well now and looking much stronger bless him. He has his last jab in an hour but he doesn't seem to hate me for doing it thankfully. Xx
 
You are crying because you are tired and it is an emotionally charged time. But mostly because you are tired. Ask anyone in Pregnancy Box how on the verge of tears they felt after a night of no sleep. You have had several. And you have in-laws to boot. Great practice for those children... but not what you want to hear.

When he can take the bucket with a titty on it himself (sometimes I wish they were more like lambs), you'll be feeling so much better.

In the meantime, please learn this new mum's mantra, and repeat several times 'This too shall pass'. I also urge you to learn a little supplementary antidote to extreme conditions resulting from in-law invasion, and that is to write 'F--- -ff' on the roof of your mouth with your tongue whilst staring them in the face. I know yours are generally lovely, but I find it very useful when I reach tipping point with a lot of people. I think it makes your eyebrows arch slightly and gives you an air of stern concentration. They think they're getting your all, you know you're not giving a whatsit, and everyone's happy.

Now, please try and get some more sleep. And you're doing a fabulous job.
 
_GG_ said:
Thank you and might PM you one day but at 38 and desperate for children...I'm just going to pretend I didn't read that for the time being.

I've always been the same with tears so not too worried. Thank you though xx
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oh sorry... sleep deprivation is also seriously underrated (and nothing to do with hormones). I had one severe episode of massive sleep interruption and deprivation and didnt' put 2 and 2 together. Thought I was losing the plot but turned out I just needed a couple of nights proper sleep!
 
good luck on the baby front too my daughter is 40 next month and after a lot of sorrow along the way has just had a baby girl 5 weeks old now but 4 weeks early both are doing well. She is still in awe of it all can't quite believe it but the reality has hit hard now baby doesn't sleep much
 
Thanks all. Yep, I'm just over tired but it's not too bad.
Don't be sorry...always good to share ideas if you think it can help. I've been pregnant before so I know at least that I can get pregnant. Just hope I can keep the next one. Not fun after the first trimester but that was over 10 years ago now.
 
And as for the MIL...I set her to work deep cleaning the bathroom, she's currently on hands and knees scrubbing inside the cabinet under the sink.

Great you might think. Then she said, "I know you're very busy darling, but could you find time to bake a cake for Jim please for his birthday as we won't see you on the day".

I said yes...but I'll buy one while she's in bed in the morning, lol
 
I am really enjoying this thread - that may sound wrong, and I want to slap your in laws - but what a journey for the little chap. All the best for him, and for sleep.
I am the worlds most evil bitch when sleep deprived, so I am impressed you just cry, I am vile!!
 
Clodagh said:
I am really enjoying this thread - that may sound wrong, and I want to slap your in laws - but what a journey for the little chap. All the best for him, and for sleep.
I am the worlds most evil bitch when sleep deprived, so I am impressed you just cry, I am vile!!
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At the moment. She did tell me about 12 times in 3 minutes how thin the neighbours cat is and how hungry she is and that she's asking for food and isn't she so thin.

I ended up saying, "I know Pat, I heard you and responded the first dozen times you said but she's had 3 sachets today already so she's not having more until later or she'll be ill. Like I said, she gets stressed and loses weight. She's fine".

She said, "where did you say her food is? In the big house? I can go and get it".
The big house is the main farmhouse that Dan and I might live in one day but our very dear elderly neighbour is still alive and living there but Pat has tried all sorts of reasons to be able to go and have a peek. I said only people the neighbour knows are allowed in the house or she'll be scared.

She said, "I'll go and tell Dan then as you won't leave the foal or let me feed him."

My reply, "you just told me you carry the herpes virus and Max has zero immunity so you know why you have to stay away and don't tell Dan til after 5...he's working and busy".

She left. I got back to the house...to Dan moaning that she laid it on thick about the thin cat and us not wanting to feed her.

As the cat, 20 horses, 3 sheep and 4 dogs are in my sole care, it's a wonder I manage to keep any of them alive apparently ;) lol
 
Once you have had a sleep you will feel 100x better. There is a reason sleep deprivation is used as torture!

And don't worry too much yet about little Max being behind developmentally - he's not milking from a mare so he will inevitably be behind for a while. Fingers crossed he should pull through.
 
apercrumbie said:
Once you have had a sleep you will feel 100x better. There is a reason sleep deprivation is used as torture!

And don't worry too much yet about little Max being behind developmentally - he's not milking from a mare so he will inevitably be behind for a while. Fingers crossed he should pull through.
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Yes, he should now. Keeping him in and good job I love the smell of jeyes fluid but hopefully the plasma transfer will be done over the weekend and he'll be out soon. Xx
 
HeresHoping said:
You are crying because you are tired and it is an emotionally charged time. But mostly because you are tired. Ask anyone in Pregnancy Box how on the verge of tears they felt after a night of no sleep. You have had several. And you have in-laws to boot. Great practice for those children... but not what you want to hear.

When he can take the bucket with a titty on it himself (sometimes I wish they were more like lambs), you'll be feeling so much better.

In the meantime, please learn this new mum's mantra, and repeat several times 'This too shall pass'. I also urge you to learn a little supplementary antidote to extreme conditions resulting from in-law invasion, and that is to write 'F--- -ff' on the roof of your mouth with your tongue whilst staring them in the face. I know yours are generally lovely, but I find it very useful when I reach tipping point with a lot of people. I think it makes your eyebrows arch slightly and gives you an air of stern concentration. They think they're getting your all, you know you're not giving a whatsit, and everyone's happy.

Now, please try and get some more sleep. And you're doing a fabulous job.
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We here are all trying the supplementary antidote. We like it. Other than that OH often finds himself in extreme conditions on the phone and doesn't think he could pull it off then.
 
Good god GG. I think I may have lost it by now with what you are going through. I take my hat off to you. Now for pity's sake, get sleep when you can and the next time someone turns up at the "wrong time" tell them to p*** orff!!!!! :p
 
The tears are from lack of sleep love, and the stress. You're doing okay trust me, you are FABULOUS. The more i read about this little one the more i have a thought he may not have a mother..i know mares will let them bed down and sleep but i struggle to see a mare let a foal thats only a day or so old out of her sight - even a wild mare. If there was no horses about at all when the walkers picked him up they very well may have saved him. As for the dry milk on the nose, that could have been from him trying to "suckle" and waving his head around the bottle which probably had more freedom of milk than a teat would (or someone may have been squeezing it to get him interested)

Just theories obviously. But put it this way, he would not be here if you had not taken him on. People can try their best, but without actual foal knowledge, time and courage to imply that knowledge (as in phoning a vet at 2am) there is no chance he would have survived.

MIL...well just deep breaths and try some positive reinforcement...give her a polo when she listens to you :p
 
MIL did a wonderful job on the bathroom and credit where it's due, did the washing up after Dan went to get a Chinese takeaway. Not too much credit though, she's made a fair few quips and snide remarks this evening, lol.

Not feeling teary anymore, just all overwhelmed me a bit yesterday.

Hard to feel teary when I've just fed THE cheekiest little **i* known to man. Uploading video tonight because it's just too good not to share. Who the hell has that much energy between 2 and 3am???

Hope he's a bit quieter for Dan who, without me asking once, has made sure I've had 4 hour stretches of sleep the past two days and is doing one of the overnight feeds for me. I'm a very lucky girl. For 7 years he didn't see the point in horses. For the last two years he's fallen in love. Now he waves and says, "hello horsies" when we pass a horse lorry or horses in fields. Max has him totally besotted but...for the least experienced horse person I know, he's probably the only one at the moment that I can leave to do Max, knowing he'll pick up on the tiniest change, nip any naughtiness in the bud and handle him properly for Max, not him.

As for the little !%$@=*€/"÷/^/ well, yes...he's feeling very much better and I cannot wait for his plasma and safe IgG levels now as I'm desperate for him to get out and play.
 
He has got to be the luckiest foal in the world, considering how he was born. It is a miracle seeing that he got no colostrum that he didn't develop an infection through the umbilical stump. Obviously born like that there was nobody there to swab it and protect against infection getting in.

I've seen a fair few maiden mares where this happens, they don't have the patience and experience to stand long enough for the foal to lock on to drink. Poor baby can't get the teat right in his mouth and the mare walks off. Most will stay around the foal, but it's heartbreaking to see the weakening foal trying to drink and the mare not standing still. That's where the owner comes in of course....

Maximum Luck should be that foal's name - he is one very lucky boy that he made his way to you😊 Glad to hear you got some good out of the mother in law on the cleaning front!
 
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