me and new mare aren't gettin on confidence lost already!

She's 3. She's away from home, she has probably never had her feet done before. I would expect her to be confused and erratic until you show her that it is ok.

If you are nervous then the problem will get 100 times worse. You cant expect her to behave like an older horse. My advice is cut your losses and send her back so that they can find someone more experienced to take her on or send her off to a professional now.

Sorry, young horse+nervous handler=disaster
 
Crikey!! She not what I'd call a rearer yet! My young mare reared a few times before being backed (she hated long reining) and hand on heart she has never ever lifted her front feet off the floor in 2 years of ridden work including exciting stuff like hunting etc.

Gembob, if you still have time to send her back and thats what you want to do then theres nothing wrong with that. I doubt she was on calmers, rather that she is a young mare who has moved to somewhere she doesn't know, new person/slave, new horses, and new routine, and she's feeling very insecure.

While your ribs heal, let her settle in, don't work her (this is if you decide not to return her) catch her for a feed and brush and feet, feed her last thing so thats what she remembers. Don't worry about working her, if you are feeling wary sore and worried, she'll pick up on that, when really you need quiet confidence.

I had an accident last week and have badly bruised/broken a rib too, but I've plenty of experience with youngsters if you want me to pop down?

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SEND HER BACK!!

Sorry, but now that you have said that she is a rearer, I would never take any chances with such a horse.

If I bought a rearer, I'd get rid as soon as. It is far, far too dangerous to take a risk on such an animal. All it would take is for said horse to fall over on top of you and that might be your riding days over for the rest of your life!

It requires a very experienced person to deal with that sort of thing and you certainly don't want to lose what confidence you have dealing with what is a very dangerous vice.

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What a nightmare for you. TBH I don't think this young mare is for you and vice versa. She is very, very unsettled and she has obviously frightened you. If you are not used to mares, they can be quite challenging and you don't want to be getting into a battle of wills with a very inexperienced 3 year old. I agree with Boss - if you are nervous and not that experienced with youngsters, then it is a recipe for disaster with a horse like Chloe. If you can send her back, then I personally think you should and cut your losses, draw a line under the whole experience and move on. You have already been hurt, it could have been a lot worse or someone else could get seriously hurt. We all make mistakes when buying horses - I recently got well and truly caught out when I bought a pony for my granddaughters - pony turned into a complete nightmare, totally unsuitable and unsafe for children. The dealer was most unhelpful, so my old farrier sold said pony for me, I lost loads of money but what a relief when the pony was gone. Sorry Chloe hasn't worked out for you, but chalk it up to experience!
 
I am fairly new to this forum and am really appalled by some of the posts here, I agree with Bossanova and LindaW sounds like Gembob has bought a horse way beyond her ability (as many of us have done - you can only learn from your mistakes) however, dont blame the old owner or the horse, I know of a 9 yo new forest pony that was sold recently an absolute angel at home but had new owners ringing up preparing old owners to take the pony back within a week, however yard owner who sounds fantastic told the owners to give it time, let the pony settle in, its trying everyone out, lo and behold within 2 weeks the same pony reverted back to being an angel, but how easy for everyone to jump on the bandwagon and say it was sedated when it was tried, the owners sold a dangerous pony and give the old owner a bad name! I know as I am sure alot of you do there are some very very unscrupulous people out there as there are in life!
 
send her back if you can, having a horse is expensive and supposed to be about having fun not being terrified (and rightly so) every time you try and do anything with her. Did you get her vetted and if so did the vet take blood? maybe she was doped when you viewed her. My vet took blood for this reason and told me it would not be tested for drugs unless the horse was significantly different after purchase then it would provide some sort of comeback against the seller.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do xx
 
On the other hand have just read LindaW's post now!!!
My new horse has terrified me at times and i posted here complaining then someone from the forum contacted me and has been schooling him every 2 weeks and has helped hugely.
Its a very kind offer and would be well worth considering if you feel able to persevere. xx
 
If you have broken ribs already I would get rid. My mare was very missunderstood when I first got her and she was especially awful with the farrier, however she was always respectful! She never hurt me, and she has turned into the most fabulous horse.

Its never easy getting a new horse, especially a youngster and you do have to put in blood, sweat and tears. I think you know in your heart of hearts wether shes a decent soul that is worth perservering with or if she is just too messed up or crazy in which case it is just not worth it.
 
The poor horse!She is a 3 year old tb x han(!) who had never even left home before,now she is with somebody who doesn't know the first thing about mares' seasons and even worse, hasn't even read up on that!and on a busy livery yard by the sounds of it,no time for the horse to settle in and has obviously formed a strong bond with another horse as has no faith in the new owner.This horse was going cheap, I saw the ad myself..they always go cheap for a reason... what did you expect?! It takes at least a year to form a strong bond with a horse, expecially a mare..getting feet done, trying to work her and preparing for backing in the first week?! If I sound harsh I am extremely concerned for this poor filly who could be being ruined for life by an totally unsuitable owner..if this person doesn't even know about seasons she obviously hasn't a clue as to the psychology of why young horses rear in the first place...I let somebody ride my perfect beloved mare a few times, and have spent the last 4 months repairing the damage the idiot did,this type of ignorant person should not have horses full stop.An these posts do seem to smack of attention seeking, 'poor me, look at my bruises'..over 400 posts from this person since they joined 2 months ago?Not an experienced person obviously.Questions regarding was the horse vetted,advice re not having enough experience or confidence are ignored, but sympthetic replies are responded to.Broken ribs within the last few days?You have trouble breathing with broken ribs,it would be highly unlikely a novice person would be able to handle a young horse,put the headcollar on etc never mind try to lunge it if they had broken ribs,those of us who have had this injury can confirm. Something just doesn't seem right, looking back at the posts from this person, people did say if you need strangers' advice on even wether to buy this poor horse in the first place, should you be buying?Well said that person, such a shame this individual didn't listen.Hope the breeder takes this filly back urgently and takes more care who she sells to next time.
 
leah3horses - blunt! but probably not far off the mark unfortunately.

The best outcome would be for this young horse to go back. She needs firm confident consistent handling and some understanding too.
 
Gembob posted on 13/6 that she hadn't got any broken ribs.Also that the mare was so quiet when she had her 'saddle put on for 1st time' and even posted a pic of that!There are so many 'contradictions'posted by this individual about this youngster.A lot of novice owners must ruin horses but most of them don't broadcast it in writing and make themselves look even more disreputable.
I stand by my posts,am sure am not the only one who researches posts when something seems so extreme! This person does not seem to have any integrity and is exaggerating at the very least.Will leave you to make your own conclusions.I've blocked her posts now so I don't read any more lies about this poor filly.People like this make things harder for genuine people who want to use this forum to learn and do the best for their horse,not just attention seek.
I'm going out to my stables to say goodnight to my 3 beautiful horses and wish for a nice owner for that poor youngster and all the other unfortunates that end up with people who leave a lot to be desired.
 
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My advice is cut your losses and send her back so that they can find someone more experienced to take her on or send her off to a professional now.

Sorry, young horse+nervous handler=disaster


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Well put and on the nose I would say. Send the poor mare back to her owners and have a serious sit down and re-evaluation of your experience and scope where horses are concerned, then go out and get yourself a schoolmaster (gelding!!!).

Mares of any age are generally (not always) not for the faint hearted and certainly a 3 year old of this breeding needs time to settle and experienced handling. Of course she was quiet when you tried her - she was probably being handled correctly and confident in her environment and this would probably have continued for a short while on arrival at your yard. She's now been uprooted, being handled less confidently, so she is taking control because she feels she has to - her life is out of control - wouldn't you!!!
 
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