MEN!!! ARGH!

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I know this isnt horsey but god!! What is it with men!! 15 months I have been with mine - 15 months and he cant decide how he 'feels' , doesnt know if he loves me etc (he is round at mine everynight he is onshore). If he does feel it he wont say it and its getting me down
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Its ok with horses, with them they get away with giving you a lick or a whinny, cos they are animals -0 the same(in effect) is not acceptable from a man!
I dunno what to do, I'm just not strong enough tot stnad my ground and dont watnt o pressure him in case he decides it too much stress

EEEEK!!
 
This is one of the reasons i love being single sometimes although i hope he pulls himself together and talks to you
 
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You sound like a very convenient place to stay - do you also cook, clean, wash his clothes etc????? As well as have a ready supply of lovely female 'comfort'.

Sounds like you deserve someone who will actually appreciate you for who you are - rather than a convenient place to stay when not on an oil rig!!
 
knowing what men are like makes me love horses so much more (my boyf went into one when I said he as the same importance in my life as my horse - i wonder what he would've done if i'd told the truth!!!)
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just tell him you can't be with him if he's going to be like this - he'll either stay and be worth it, or go and not be worth it!
good luck
 
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I dunno what to do, I'm just not strong enough tot stnad my ground and dont watnt o pressure him in case he decides it too much stress

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hi,

hate to say it, but in cases like this you often need the brutal truth - it seems like it's well and truly game over im afraid.
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any man that manipulates a woman enough to make her feel like she is the problem is not worth wasting time over - absolute scum. it pretty much amounts to emotional blackmail, and guys try it on all the time - and i hate to say it, but they latch on to the nearest doormat they can. by nature, guys are lazy - and if women pander to their demands and allow themselves to be brainwashed by psychological crap then they are going to take full advantage.

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god, it makes me cringe when i hear that - and i hear it a lot.

if you are too scared to even talk to him about it - or anything related to the relationship for that matter (let me guess: anytime you ever do try and talk about it - he ducks the issue and makes you feel like you are 'pressuring him'? :rolleyes:)
tghen you havent got a hope in hell's chance of being in a happy relationship.

this is one of those all too familiar situations though where i imagine however many people tell you he's a tosspot (probably everyone youve spken to about it), you wont listen anyway.

thinking on a positive note, all you need remember is that you wont feel this crap for the rest of your life. people come, people go, happiness comes, happiness goes - and so do blokes.

in a few years time, you will probably look back on this and say to yourself 'WTF was i thinking, wasting time over an arsehole like that?!' its always the way. but to get to this point you have to go through some pretty tough [****] and difficult periods.

i can guarantee that the majority of the adults here, both men and women, will have been through the same thing at some point in their lives - people encounter it at different times.

i myself was young - and an extra piece of advice! DONT get a tattoo of their name on your arm!!!

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good luck - keep us posted on what happens.
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just had a long chat with my OH. we've been together for 19 months and i just explained how ive been feeling etc and he told me to stop being silly that he loves me and that he was sorry for making me doubt him!!

hope your chat works out as well
 
Yeah, I noticed that after I posted but didnt know how ot move it!

Had a talk and as I have to change things into 'engineer' language, its on a scale from 0-100% and so he said it is so near 100% that its not quantifiable, and that he has really missed me when he was away etc!! So think finally broken through to a human being!

Yeah, he doesnt stay the night at mine, well a few nights a week he does - and I dont do his washing/cooking etc - his DAD does - cos he still lives at his parents as he doesnt have to pay rent - jammy eh?!
But he is saving hard to buy a house, so cant diss really.

I am beginning to think I am high maintenance though - haha
 
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