Missing Flint, still raw I suppose, its just hit me

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Well, as most people know I have bough a new horse and I needed to make a choice, heart over success and I may of been a little selfish with itm because I sold Flintus again, I think it might clear up the posts and the few PMS I have had as to where is he.
Flint in his older age has gone to a home where there is no pressure (fully vetted) and he will spend the rest of his days taking an older lady to the pub and back and hacking around the forest of dean.
I tried so hard to make him something he wasn't and he tried to be that for me but without degrading the little man I out grew his capabilities.
I know he is content, Ive been sent pics and he has been around the forest on his own, enjoying the pressure free life I wanted for him, and I've been so incredibly busy with Lewis that I havent had 5 mins to sit down and think about him, now I have Im in tears! (sad cow!) Dont get me wrong, I don't want him back, he is happy and aslong as he is then that's all that matters but I do miss me terribly now, Am I selfish wanting the best for him aswell? or does it make me a selfish person? I cant figure it out. I just miss him walking into the barb and being there!
I made the right choice by both of us but I'm sad to see him go

Sorry just needed to vent off a little
 
I'm so glad you posted this, I just saw your FB status and was panicking slightly that 'something' had happened.

Don't cry, Flint will love his new home from the sound of it. If youve done what is right for you and him then have no regrets. You are in no way a selfish person. Hugs for the tears and sadness.
 
i Just wanted what was best for him, and I know he will be tucking into a great big net net tonight but I do miss him as a person. I vetted the home twice and I always said to people on here and to him that I would never let him down again, and I just hope he will be happy! I worry for nothing, I suppose its just my sadness
 
You haven't let him down hun. It sounds like you've found him a special and loving home. That's not letting him down in my book. You will miss him but it will lessen as time goes on and as you start doing more and exciting things with your new horse. And you have those FAB godiva pics from last year of you and Flint as a wonderful reminder of him
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I think you've done an amazing thing. Not a lot of people would bother vetting a home twice, nor would they admit that they want something from the horse that isn't there to get. In a way you're grieving even though Flint hasn't died, and i suppose you just have to trust in the theory that 'time is a great healer'
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Helen x
 
Thank you to both of you, deep down I think I know it but he was such a great friend, if not the best, Im glad he cant talk, he knew too much! lol As alot of poeple know I've really struggled with life and he just made it better to be around, I hope he gives it to Jayne! I might post a Bye flint pics with the godiva's in tow in the pic gallery!!
 
You have done the right thing for you and the right thing for him. It is not easy but you have accepted that he would be happier with another lifestyle and done your damnest to find him the best set up.

Kudos x
 
I had to do the same thing at alower level as I had a cob that was great and I loved him to bits was my 1s horse etc. I went and brought a 4yr old as I want more of a project and to move up the ranks in time.

I love my new boy but still have days where I would have my cob back as it was easy. We knew each other inside out and I trusted him. But I am enjoying the new boy and when we achive something I get a high from riding him.

Stick with it its been nearly a year for me and its getting better as you and Lewis bond it will become eaiser

Also I think my old boy is happy ploddying along taking the next nervous nelly out and about and putting a smile on her face like he did mine.
 
Awww, hugs to you. It sounds as is you have made a brave decision to let Flint go to a home where he will be doing a job he enjoys and will be loved. It is always sad to say goodbye to a much loved horse but it sounds as if it was very much the right thing for both of you. Could you possibly visit Flint in a few weeks time, it might be that once you've seen him living his new life of luxury it may feel easier to you? I also think it is hard when you have a new horse, my old horse died 5 years ago and it took a long time for me to be able to feel a bond with the new one, I guess I felt almost guilty (for no sensible reason!)


Sorry, I'm rambling, I hope you feel better soon and good luck with Lewis.
 
Don't know all the background to your story but it doesn't sound as if you have anything to beat yourself up about. Speaking as "an older lady" it sounds as though Flint is living the life of riley. My own horse, an ex racer, spends his time being spoilt rotten and hacking out 3-4 times a week at a fairly leisurely pace with the odd bit of half hearted schooling thrown in. He is always happy to see me and almost always totally relaxed and chilled. You have made a very sensible decision, you and Flint are both happy, he is not struggling to do a job he cannot really manage, you are not feeling guilty about pushing him too hard and his new owner is obviously smitten and enjoying him. Of course you miss him, that's only natural but you have absolutely done the very best by him. Good luck with your new horse.
 
Oh hugs to you, you know you have done the right thing, does not make it any easier but time will. Now concentrate on making your new dreams happen and keep yourself busy
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You have done what is best for Flint hun, it sounds like he has gone to a lovely home where he is going to be very loved and have the life of leisure he deserves now he is that bit older
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I hope you will be keeping in touch with his new owner and continue to update us on him when possible
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You have done the right thing for Flint, and I have just had to come to the same conclusion with my safe cob - I am getting bored with him, but like you don't want to push him to do stuff he just cannot do because I love him so much as well. he is a great personality
I know just how you feel.
It made me cry when I took my boy to Dressage recently as he tried his heart out for me but he just cannot do the moves I felt so guilty and horrible to him, but actually he enjoyed the day out and doing the test as well.
However,I am not going to school him relentlessly to get that last little bit out of him either.
I have bought a youngster for the future and when the time comes for riding her, there are a queue of people waiting to borrow my steady safe angel, including novice rider hubby.

They are priceless, these horses and are always well loved and cared for.
Your boy is someone elses Dream horse now.

I would try to maintain contact with the new owners.
It makes them realise what a wonderful horse they have too, and will ease your pain in time, as you can always go and see him when you feel sad.
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