money gone missing.. help

weesophz

weesophz

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so both my sharers usually leave their money in my grooming kit and will text me to say when theyve left it.

last tuesday newest sharer text me saying he left his in the box, i collected it the thursday i went up. didnt hear anything from other sharer over the weekend but thats normal for her as shes shared fox for 2 years and i know she'll usually have left it. i was up on monday, there was no money, then was up today and there was still no money to be found so i gave her a wee text just to ask if she'd maybe forgotten. she told me that her friend had left in the box for her on the saturday as she forgot to leave it on the friday. so now im not sure what to do. i dont want to accuse anyone of anything as i trust both my sharers and the girl who left the money for my sharer. ive turned the box inside out and its definitely not there..

how should i go about this? i dont want to ruffle and feathers or upset anyone.
 
Elsiecat said:
Why don't you ask them to give the money to you from now on? I'd let this one slide.
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cause i cant get up the days they are there to get the money off of them, thats why i have them so they leave it hidden in the box. thats how its been for the past 2 years and this hasnt happened before! (hope i dont sound like a cheeky cow, always worry things come across wrong on here)
 
Text her to ask where exactly in the box did her friend leave it and is she sure she got the right box as you can't find it.
 
Could you not ask them to post the money to your house from now on? That way you know your getting the money? If they are paying to share they should be happy enough to drop the money through your door?
 
Tell her what's happened. I'm a sharer and do a similar arrangement. I would want to know if it had gone missing to rectify situation one way or another. Do say something, though. It'll fester with you otherwise and there may be a reasonable explanation.
 
Nobody can prove anything, so in this instance I don't see what you can do. I think it's unlikely that the sharer will volunteer to pay again? And if you push it you could sour the relationship with them.
You need to come up with a more secure method, regardless of what you've done in the past. I suppose leaving cheques would be one option, but bank transfer would be more sensible and straightforward. They could set up standing orders.
Problem now is - you've got too many people to accuse. The sharer could be lying. Her mate could have pocketed the money. The other sharer has access and might have taken it. Not to mention whoever there is who goes to the yard that might have rummaged in your storage box and found it. Lock the box maybe, depending on how big it is, but it's not the best idea to leave cash about in this way.
 
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moodymare_1993 said:
Could you not ask them to post the money to your house from now on? That way you know your getting the money? If they are paying to share they should be happy enough to drop the money through your door?
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i feel like i would be asking too much, especially since one lives quite far from me and it wouldnt be fair to ask one to do that and not the other. im thinking i could get them to leave it in envelopes with their names on so ill be able to see it should it move from the box and ill know whos is whos?
 
Unless you want to upset anyone I think you'll just have to write this one off and accept that its a risk for them to leave the money as you want them to

You cant expect the sharer to pay again so there isnt much you can do

A bank transfer or standing order arrangement would be far safer
 
Do a standing order to your bank account then..
OR why don't they just pay once a week, surely you see both of them at least once a week?
 
weesophz said:
i feel like i would be asking too much, especially since one lives quite far from me and it wouldnt be fair to ask one to do that and not the other. im thinking i could get them to leave it in envelopes with their names on so ill be able to see it should it move from the box and ill know whos is whos?
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Envelopes can go missing also :o
 
madmav said:
Tell her what's happened. I'm a sharer and do a similar arrangement. I would want to know if it had gone missing to rectify situation one way or another. Do say something, though. It'll fester with you otherwise and there may be a reasonable explanation.
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she does know its missing but ive told her not to worry about it as its not her that misplaced the money. just told her to make sure she doesnt rely on someone else to do it. dont like to think the girl was supposed to have left it would steal so ill just assume she maybe dropped it or something!

Tinypony said:
Nobody can prove anything, so in this instance I don't see what you can do. I think it's unlikely that the sharer will volunteer to pay again? And if you push it you could sour the relationship with them.
You need to come up with a more secure method, regardless of what you've done in the past. I suppose leaving cheques would be one option, but bank transfer would be more sensible and straightforward. They could set up standing orders.
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i wouldnt ask her to pay it again as it wasnt her that lost it. but yes i agree i need to find a better way of getting the money
 
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So walking to a post box is too much to ask lol? If money has gone missing this time, who's to say it won't happen again :/ I would set up a bank transfer if posting wont work? At the end of the day, this is the only absolute way of proving that they haven't paid?
 
weesophz said:
transfer via bank would suit one but not the other as she doesnt have an account and her parents pay. i could talk to her about that, just worried they feel im hastling them! im such a wimp
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It would take less than 5 minutes to set a standing order up.
Much easier than going to a cash machine weekly for the money!
 
weesophz said:
transfer via bank would suit one but not the other as she doesnt have an account and her parents pay. i could talk to her about that, just worried they feel im hastling them! im such a wimp
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If they parents are paying I'm sure it will make their life easier setting up a standing order rather than finding cash each week.

Phone the friend and ask if she'd confirm exactly where her friend put it as it might have ended up in someone elses box.
 
You could ask them to pay you via Paypal.

If you haven't aleady got an account it's quick and easy to do online, they can transfer the money online by just using your email address that you set up your PayPal account with,

You can leave the money on PayPal or transfer it straight out into your bank account.

Transfers are almost instant and are free.

At least doing it that way the amount they pay can change unlike a standing order.
 
I imagine her parents may find a standing order easier. I hate having to remember to get cash out and would much prefer to do it electronically. Don't get them to post it, post can go missing!
 
Spit That Out said:
You could ask them to pay you via Paypal.

If you haven't aleady got an account it's quick and easy to do online, they can transfer the money online by just using your email address that you set up your PayPal account with,

You can leave the money on PayPal or transfer it straight out into your bank account.

Transfers are almost instant and are free.

At least doing it that way the amount they pay can change unlike a standing order.
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^^ This :D

My former sharer paid by this method - all they need is your e-mail address to pay into your paypal account and being a personal transaction rather than a business one no fees to pay.

It's more secure (no need for them to have your bank details) and the amount paid can be altered if needed - you can transfer the money from paypal directly into your bank account :D.
 
Aw, it's a difficult situation to be in. :(

I would def ask for bank transfers though. I don't think you'd be hassling them if you word it nicely. Something like saying that someone's money went missing this week, accidents happen and you accept that leaving money in the grooming box is risky so from now on, you wonder if it would be possible for them to pay you by bank transfer or standing order (which is a bank transfer that is set up to pay on certain dates and a set amount, so they would never again have to actually think about it). Standing order is good (it's what I use as a sharer) but only if the amount doesn't change (mine is the same regardless of how much I ride).

Hope you get it sorted!
 
thanks for your replies everyone. going to do a full sweep of the yard tomorrow and see if theres anywhere it could have been misplaced, although i doubt it! will speak to sharers about bank transfers, im sure they will feel better knowing their money isnt lying in a box aswell!
 
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