Moral support needed - Pony's going tomorrow

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We're delivering my daughter's pony to her new home tomorrow. Any tips on how to get through the day? I think the world of this pony, she has been fantastic for my daughter and a complete mother's dream. I am confident that she is going to a good, forever home but I feel so sad! My daughter has held up very well so far but I'm dreading tomorrow because I know I need to try and keep it together when she gets upset. Help!
 
Oh dear :(

This is why iv still got my sons 1st pony as I just couldn't sell him, oh and his 2nd come to think of it.

Big hugs your stronger than me I couldn't do it
 
Ah my heart really goes out to you, my daughters dream first ridden went in April and it was heartbreaking. I have to to say when the new owners lead him up the ramp and then he called i did not hold it together both daughter and myself were a right mess!!!! We also had his previous 2 riders there crying you should have seen us!!!! It didnt help he neighed when the ramp went up either.
But im so glad now i did it and although it was really heartbreaking i know hes making another little girl happy. We also have another amazing pony now who is making more memories for her and doing things together that the first pony wasnt capable off. Only advice i can give you really is have tissues ready, i think when a pony really looks after your child you always feel like you owe them.
 
I know how hard it is saying goodbye to a much love horse/pony- I promised myself I wouldn't cry when I had to say goodbyes to a horse, held it in when she was being loaded in the lorry esc, but then as soon as the lorry had gone out of sight, I just couldn't hold it in.. hate crying in public, but this was one exception lol. *big hugs to you* :)
 
From the other side, I'd like to say that I felt a huge level of guilt when I went to pick up my new lad from his previous owner (and the one before that, incidentally). I promised both that I would keep them updated with emails and photos, and they could come and see him any time. I even texted to say he had arrived safely. We do the same with our GSD pup's mum and family. As a buyer, I am happy to do this, might be worth asking unless you are really nearby and going to see him anyway. Best of luck as I can't imagine how hard it is.
 
I was the buyer of a youngsters first pony (old boy). I was really nice to them and they came along with the transporter. I offered for them to see where he was going to live as I know what horse folks on the bad side can be. So they came along and cried their eyes out especially the daughter. It was so sad but I offered for her to visit whenever they liked or ride. They could see he was going to a good home etc.

They did drive past to see him apparently and panicked as he wasnt in the field(I had moved him into another..but I can imagine their horror)! Bless.

But she was about to get a dressage horse?? and if it wasnt for me sending the xmas cards I never heard from them again in the past 5 years. I think they moved on quickly.

I think offer to keep in touch and have back if you can afford if it all went wrong if horse was special etc. We have kept in touch with all our previous owners otherwise even selling one horse back to the owner who bred as we always kept in touch. I do feel sorry for you as its like the end of an era with each one.
 
It was the most devastating thing when I had to get rid of my first pony! I cried for ages. But, I have got another pony, and kept in touch with the owner.
My first pony was 17 years old when I got her! She was a true lady, she was lovely. The owner, a women called Shirley had her since she was 5 years old, and she'd kept her all that time, she'd said how upsetting it was to sell her, she emails me still every feb, as that's when I brought her a couple of years ago, I know the owners who have her, and we email about her well being. In time, it gets easier, just keep thinking about how she's going to be well looked after, you can keep in touch with the owners, and if she needs a new pony, get her one, it will become easier.
Feel for you, hope it's all okay. xxx
 
Just got back from dropping my daughters pony to his new home so I feel your pain. We have both spent a lot of the day in tears. He is a superstar and hopefully be as wonderful for his new owner as he was for us.
 
No tips really, just grit your teeth and try not to bawl in front of anyone!! Didn't manage that myself though, lost half a stone in the week before she went and didn't sleep for weeks either! Don't know why it affected me so much, she went to friends from pc so I know she was going to a great home. Daughter was much more relaxed about it than me, but then I've always been a big softy!! Hope it goes well. :)
 
Thanks for all your support. We have just got home from delivering the pony. Daughter held it together much better than I did, but I think she shed most of her tears the day I said that it was time to advertise her.

So, Ponio is safely installed in her new home and all went smoothly. For all that it was a long trip I'm glad we went with her and saw where she is going to live. It is a fab place with lovely people who have promised to keep in touch and true to form, Ponio took it all in her stride :) I am sure she will be well looked after and well loved, but it's hard to let go! As soon as the sun is over the yardarm, I'll be opening the wine!
 
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