moving from private family yard to livery! Am i nuts?

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so after a hellish winter we have decided to move yards
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....but im stuck what to tell my auntie (who owns the yard why or how we are going)

so we had 4 horses ive sold 1 last week and will sell another in spring so i can have 2 nice horses - on livery!

we currently have the horses at my husbands aunties yard there is just us and 1 livery (who is at uni so her mum does her pony)so when we leave there will just be the livery pony (and my youngster till i sell the welshie)

and after the horrid winter, me not having enough time and well im fed up, angry at the stupid generator that i have to start for electric/lights, fed up at doing all the DIY which leaves me no time to ride, fence fixing, harrowing arena, stressed (which has the other health complcations) Doc told me to chill out.

so we have found a new yard and can move in 2 weeks (but the only have 2 stables at the moment) so the plan is to move the 2 riding horses and leave my 3yr old at the current family yard turned out.

but what do i tell my auntie why we are leaving - do i blame my illness? (cos its partly that, and the amazing facilities for just a bit more money!)

i dont want them to fall out with us beacuse we are leaving (they are a bit like that) but i just want to enjoy the whole social life of a yard again, people to hack with, indoor school (swoons
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) and the ease of just getting on with it and not fixing things, odering hay, straw, etc etc.

SO .......what do i tell them and do you think im mad leaving the cute family yard to a livery yard
 
I would just say that your health is suffering because you're so stressed out, and you need somebody who is going to do all the work for you so you can enjoy your hobby without being so stressed out its making you ill.

If she gets stressy about it, her problem.

Do you pay her? The only thing I'd be wary about is you've given her no real notice you're leaving xxxx
 
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yes we pay monthly buy Direct debit (and the usual price too - not family rates lol, thats the thing too that we are paying the usual price but doing the whole up keep of the place too)
we would give her 2 weeks notive b4 moving the first 2 horses, and leave the youngster once ive sold the welsh D, then he will move into that ones place, - im hoping with the new facilities i will scholl the welsh D more , and teh good facilities will help sell him too
 
Ye, I would definitely just tell her its for your health, and the facilities mean you'd enjoy your hobby more!

So long as you've given her notice so she could find someone else if she wanted then thats fine I think! Just be calm, polite, but dont take any arguements. Smile alot and just be really calm, dont get flustered! Good luck xxxx
 
Sounds like you'd be better off re your health to move for sure. The only fly in the ointment could be that you'd be swopping one stress for another - eg, more chance of your feed being nicked, the usual bitchiness that can go on, people using your stuff, the snidy remarks about your horses (cause you know someone always points out how wrong your doing things), issues re turnout etc etc.

If you are completely settled in your head the move is for you then you definitely need to go.

Good luck
 
Finding a livery yard is easy, finding one that isn't a yard from hell is harder..

As for your Aunty tell her the truth, that paying livery at the same rate as others and doing all the DIY is unfair on you and its stressing you out and making you ill.

However have you discussed this with her regards the DIY.. suggest less livery for the DIY or she finds a handy man to do the work.

Also keeping your youngster there for the time being is going to give you twice the work what with maybe still being expected to do the DIY and havign to run between two yards.

Also what if your told to take all three..??
 
see thats it, livery yards can be hell - or good fun!
The youngster will be turned out 24-7, and i pass the place to work so im hoping wont be hard to do - and touch wood the welshie will be up for sale in 6 weeks ish.
but good point because i completly forgot about that.

now the whole DIY on the family yard is an issue cos orignally the whole place was set up for my cousin, who now has moved to canada - and obviously sold all his horses so his mum n dad (who are still in mourning that hes living over there and isnt comning back allmost see the yard as a reminder of him, ) but his dad is a mans man and sont like people doing thing down there - not even us TBH, its his place and he should do things! but then again he dosnt want to do things, so fr the families sake i think we should move, but maybe i should offer to help fill the yard back up for them? do the advertising etc.

next thing the new yard is quite far away 15 mile round trip, i dont care about the fuel cost (it will take 10mins one way - all straight country roads) but still a difference from my usual 1 mile journy.

we have also asked to rent/buy the families yard but they wont?
i just dont want to be looking at the new yard with rose coloured specs! and the grass greener on the side etc.

my mum thinks the new place is too far but surely me enjoying my hobby is better than making me ill and it being a chore? (its the first time in 25years ive felt it as a chore) and the new yard also offers part/full and turning out etc so might end up paying for that if the distance gets too bad /fuel costs to teh turning out costs
 
Id keep it all nicey nice and go on more about how you miss having people to ride with etc. You never know if for some reason it doesnt work out at least you can go back.
Im on a private yard and it has its pros and cons, I too miss the company and social side of a busy yard but then I dont miss the bitchiness. My horse was forever injured on the busy yard but now I have peace of mind. The private yard has great facilities, post and rail fencing which seems to be unheard off in our area
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. I do miss the fun rides though and all getting ready for shows etc.
Good luck, I hope it works out for you,
 
I kind of understand.

I am currently on my parents private yard. But there is no school, hacking is good if you can negotiate the very fast scarey road on a blind hill top. Its very muddy in winter, I have no one to talk to or ride with and Im hardly riding as a result.

I went to look at 2 yards but one the horses seemed depressed and the other only had part livery at the time and my OH then lost his job. I too worry about the bitchyness, also that one of my horses is a welsh ornament so she would most likely have to stay behind alone. Its driving me mad trying to decide. Id like to just enjoy the hobby again.

But anyway, your aunty should be ok, least she is being paid whilst your youngster is on there.
 
yeah thats it here too, the hacking if you go on the crazy roads and ride over the M1 motorway is great but takes ermm...40 mins to get there is if you have a spare half hour you cant hack,
and the arena was great (its a sand and fibre mix) but since there son left no maintance has been done on it so the fence is rotting every jump has fallen apart, he wont let me use the tractor (its his pride and joy even thou its the oldest thing ever) so i did harrow it with my 4 x 4 but ive sold that and have a brand new estate car so no way can a harrow an arena with that, and becuase there is only myself using the arena, weeds and moss have grown everywhere they wont use weed killer,
the fields are just MUD, and the stables IMO are too small,

and there is no storage just a leaky lean too, that all my things etc wet, and mouldy, and thats not looking proferssional when im trying to sell a horse too!

Its as thou we have tried to do the DIY but get shot in the foot when we do, and now our business is picking up again i really do need the ease of if im busy putting them on part livery if required.

i think i now now in my mind what i should do, its just the mileage to the new place thats far but i suppose my new estate car that does 10000001MPG should help at least my not driving around in my tank of a 4x4.
Farrier is here today too, ill see what he thinks and check he will travel to the new yard.
 
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