Moving yard and nervous

AlDestoor

AlDestoor

Well-Known Member
Joined
22 March 2012
Messages
327
Location
Midlands
Visit site
I just need let it out on here.

I've basically been a recluse for the last 4 years, with horses being kept at home with just me that rides.

I've decided to move to a yard with an indoor and other people to ride with.

My last experience of yards wasn't a good one (psycho YO and b!tchy liveries) which is why I decided to move to be on my own.

4 years on, I'm bored riding on my own and I'm generally just feeling a bit lonely. I'm only 28 and want a bit of excitement.

I suppose I'm just a bit anxious. I'm going keep myself to myself anyway and just enjoy my horse again. I'm just anxious about being on a yard again.
 
I know how you feel. After being on some really stressful yards we finally ended up on a lovely one. Now husband got a new job and we're relocating and going back into the unknown. The yard before this one was so bad I'd actually say it was a traumatic experience so the thought of our new yard being like that is terrifying. But needs must so will just have to see and hope the previous experiences means we would spot if a yard was going to be dreadfully bad before we moved there.

Are you able to keep an "escape route" for if it does turn out awful? So you can go back to bring on your own say? I have a little get out clause in that the ultimate plan is to purchase land/have them at home so the new yard can be temporary if we don't like it (have to say it all appears lovely etc but once you've had a bad experience you're always warey). That helps.

Listen to your gut feelings about people and keep everyone at arms length for a while until you sus them out. Make it really clear that you won't gossip with anyone about anyone... If you don't get involved with gossip you're less likely to get drawn into any madness. As you say, keep yourself to yourself and see how it goes.
 
Yeah, I have own land at home but it's really getting me down. It's sad but I feel like I'm becoming more withdrawn from people the more I'm on my own.

I want my own friends away from my partner as well which is another biggy.

I've been on some horrendous yards (one used to sweep underneath my rubber matting and leave it on the yard, saying I'd left it a mess and also, used to tell me how to look after my mare), so the thought of this is making me feel a little worried.

The yard I'm going to seems lovely with some genuine lovely people who just want to enjoy the horses. It's pretty laid back which is what I wanted. I've been on fancy concreted yards before and didn't enjoy them.

I suppose I'm just a bit wary and also, I'm hoping my mare will settle too as we've both been on our own for years. I think it will be good for us both and we'll both come on amazingly on there. It's like you said, just the unknown.
 
There's always a worry with yards - before I bought my last horse (and first one as an adult) I had heard horror stories and I was really worried as had only ever been on private yards loaning the owner's horses. My yard has its dramas but when I moved on (originally loaning someone's horse) I found myself a couple of really good friends (who are also now very good friends outside of the yard) and then when I got my own I was lucky enough to move to a stable next to them, share a tack room, feed room, haylage and field so quickly settled myself into a routine and have been there almost 4 years now and loving it. I just try and stay out of the drama and keep my opinions to myself and I find people do the same, they might say things behind my back but ignorance is bliss. I think if people see you as a friendly person who is just there to enjoy your horse then you will naturally attract similar people. Drama attracts drama! I hope the move goes well and you both settle in and enjoy having people to ride with :)
 
I'd rather be lonely than go back to livery, hahaa but on a more level note I know what you mean about being lonely. I have two ridden horses at home and just got a new sharer for this season (I turn away in winter) and its nice to have the company to ride out with but i must say im not sure i would go back to a livery yard now ive had the freedom of my own place. I dont particularly want a livery either which some have suggested.
 
Antw23uk said:
I'd rather be lonely than go back to livery, hahaa but on a more level note I know what you mean about being lonely. I have two ridden horses at home and just got a new sharer for this season (I turn away in winter) and its nice to have the company to ride out with but i must say im not sure i would go back to a livery yard now ive had the freedom of my own place. I dont particularly want a livery either which some have suggested.
Click to expand...

Yeah, we've had sharers but they could only ride my mums mare which can barely get out of a trot!

It's a big decision I've made to move and one that I've not taken lightly but it's depressing me when I've only ridden twice over winter because I get bored on my own. Plus the hacking isn't great around us either which also makes a difference.

I've been look at a few yards over the last 6 months so for me to say yes to this one, I must have felt comfortable. I've seen some where I was just like no way.
 
Super easy if you have options to move back to home if it doesn't work out! I know how hard it can be at home on your own, I totally lost my confidence with my previous mare when we had her at home and ended up rehoming her as my confidence went to rock bottom. Be positive about the move, don't stress, see it as a holiday and enjoy, if it doesn't work out then just move home, simples ;)
 
I'm even being a worrier about things like "what if she doesn't settle?"

I'm that silly I feel guilty about taking her away from her friends XD
 
You'll be fine. You got a good vibe from the place and you can always go home if it doesnt work out (what a luxury remember) I'm half tempted to go on livery in winter to a yard a 100 yards up the road from my place. A floodlit school and a circular gallop track and then just go home come spring :)
 
I am sure it will work out great. Like you say you will have others to ride with and you are bored.
I moved from a livery to my friends with just our horses. It suits us she doesn't ride all the time but I am happy riding on my own.
Plus my horse hates too much going on so being on a smaller yard suits him a lot better. Just having fun at the minute as his feed has changed him haha.
 
Well I moved her last night and went to check on her this morning.

She's trying to make friends in the field but being run off by a boss mare as per.

She travelled so quiet. Shes usually a timid little thing but bless her, she just took it all in.

Hopefully the start of something new and we both enjoy it here.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top