Moving yards - should I tell YO what I think?

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Just been to look at new yard and have agreed to move my horses there (when the new stables are built! lol).

Thing is, haven't told current YO - she is a friend and is a lovely person but the facilities aren't good and I don't like the way the yard is run. (plus tonnes of kids and people who are v naiive about their neds)

Dillemma is - I don't want to upset the YO, burn bridges or create any ill feeling - she's been so good to us - but part of me does want them to know why I am leaving.

What do you reckon I should do - mask over it with other excuses to save feelings? Or let them know all (not that I think it will make much differnce)??

What woud you all do - and any yard owners - what would you prefer your liveries do!

(just realised my horses and location are on this post! Taking a gamble but pretty sure that they don't read this forum
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You haven't really gone into why you are leaving above but if its not something that will offend them then I think its always better to be honest. If, as you suggest, its not liking the other liveries rather than something that the YO has done then I see no reason not to mention it. Unless you are moving out of the area you may well bump into these people at shows and if you've lied about why you left these things have a way of tracking you down
 
Very hard if you don't want to upset anyone (although they probably WILL take offence).

Probably best just to say something about it being more convenient and don't offer too much information.

Or, you could play up the positive of the new yard - eg yard has "really big stables" or "super arena" then you aren't being rude about their yard as you haven't mentioned it! Leave them to draw their own conclusions.
 
You could say the new yard is quieter rather than 'less kids' (obviously won't work if new yard is v.busy). What is with regards to facilities that wil be better If you need an indoor school (now that winter is coming) or something for a practical reason then there's nothing wrong with saying that as you're not running her yard down, it's that it's not fitting your particular needs right now.
 
Mmm, usually honesty is the best policy but like you say, YO is your friend, HOWEVER, you could mention that there is possibly too many people around that don't know what they are doing and you feel it's time to move on?
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Thanks All, Wizoz, that's quite a good suggestion.

I think my problem is that there is part of me that feels I should say something else things will never get better there - but am I kidding myself that it will make a difference.
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I think people can get very defensive (understandably) when criticised about their management

but then if I'm leaving what does it matter (??). Aaarrghh
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I have just been booted off the yard i woz at for trying to add helpful suggestions!Nobody pulling weight etc(diy)!Approached very tactfully thought everything fine,had nice chat and a cuppa...........then BANG,leave x3days later!Supposed to have been a friend too!
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Not worth the aggro,if you like ya friendship say nothing as nothing changes anyway,1st hand experience!!!Experience now tells me just because you are not happy dosnt mean eveybody else isnt,u will only end up looking like a moaner unfortunately!!
 
prob about to move yard too and dreading what to say to lovely yo and suspect i shall want to go back at some stage so im not saying anything unless asked and if asked im blaming all the flies surrounding the river giving him sweet itch so its known that is nothing that anyone can do and a personal choice of mine rather than a moan or groan. good luck! moving yards is as stressful as moving house i think!
 
How long is it until the new yard can accommodate you? Personally I would not say anything until a little nearer the time you are moving i.e. when you give notice you are leaving.

I would highlight the points such as more facilities etc which are better suited to your current needs as your reason for leaving, that way it is not so personal. Thank you friend for accommodating your hors and you and leave on pleasant terms, you never know when/if you might need to go back.

It is never nice having to do this, I have just moved yards myself and YM had become a good friend, fortunately appreciated why I was moving and I left with an open invitation to return should I need to.

Good luck and try not to worry about it too much.
 
I gave my fabulous YO notice yesterday, had been putting it off all week as dreaded telling her.
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Different reasons completely, as the new yard is only 5 miles down the road for me and I wanted the move purely to economise on my time of travelling during the winter. (hate driving in snow and on ice).
The very best of luck.
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My lovely ex YO already knew as somebody read my post on here and told him I was looking at another yard...even before I had decided to leave! It was quite embarassing but at least he knew that I really liked his yard and thought he was great and not just that I was throwing a load of old flannel about!

I would highlight some of the issues in a constructive way.
 
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I would just say how much you have enjoyed your time there but it's time for you and your horse to move on.

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I agree. And if you leave on a nice note, if it turns out that things aren't as you thought at the new place then you should be able to go back to your old yard. I'm sure it wouldn't come to that, but great to have that as a back-up just in case.
 
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