Musing on what do you want from lessons and teaching styles?

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My friend occasionally asks if I will restart lessons, and my answer is, "Not yet."

Then yesterday, I watched another yard friend have a lesson with a different visiting trainer, who everyone raves about. She had a similar style to the other trainer - a relentless barrage of critique and instruction. "Keep your shoulders back, do x with your hands, don't let him fall on the forehand, look up, push your inside leg forward, weight your outside stirrup, ride a ten meter circle, now go across the diagonal..." All of which are totally valid criticisms of pretty much everyone's riding, and this is a standard style of teaching. I see BHS-accredited instructors doing the same thing. I remember it well as a kid (and dreading riding lessons but going anyway because I loved horses, and it was the only way to be around them until I got my own). It seems like the mainstream paradigm of teaching, the US and the UK.

But on thinking about it, this is why I stopped taking lessons many years ago and did not start for a long time, and on thinking a bit more, it may have been one of the reasons for my disastrous lesson back in August. The horse was spooking at the vending machine and weird chairs in the corner, but then I was getting very frazzled by the style of instruction. Fin does not do flustered, ever. He needs calm and cool handling and riding at all times. He is more Spanish than my Spanish horse and responds quite negatively to stressed handling/riding. When he's anxious about something on the trail, finding your inner calm, happy person who looooooves trail riding is highly effective at settling him. But when there's an external person firing instructions, I can't get near that inner tranquility, which sometimes requires me to say aloud, "We are having fun!"

The other thing is that if you ask me what I learned from the lesson or could improve on, based on the trainer's critiques, I wouldn't have any idea. I don't remember any of the instructions. It's like a sensory processing fail, and whereas some riders (better ones) can be 99% aware of what their legs, seat, hands etc. are doing at all times, I've always found that really hard, which is definitely a processing issue. Somehow, I have trained my horses to compensate and understand me, despite my shite equitation, but I just have no idea that my leg has wandered to the wrong place, again, unless I consciously think about it. But most of us can only consciously think about a couple things at once. It makes it easy to get frazzled in a lesson. "Not my left leg again!"

Another friend also found her first lesson overwhelming, and she brought it up to the trainer. The trainer said something like, "Well, you're paying for my time and knowledge, and it's my job to impart as much of that as possible."

When I was teaching riding, I had quite a different style. My first job was at a yard where we were working with kids who had all sorts of processing disorders, so you could not flood them, and then when I did it freelance here in the UK, I applied those skills to my adult students. I would try to identify the most useful thing they could fix in that moment (we all have multiple bad habits!), tell them to soften their elbows/get their stirrups under them/whatever, then talk bollocks for a minute or two, which gave them a little time to breathe and to process the thing I told them to do. I hope my students found it helpful. One of them occasionally posts here, lol.

However, not every minute of our hour-long lesson was spent on actual instruction, so you could argue it was less valuable than the above trainers. I was very cheap, though.

Mark and Crissi Rashid, who both gave me the best lessons I have ever had, worked on pinpointing one issue and focused on improving that. They were super chilled, as only Coloradans can be. Obviously in a two-day clinic situation, they know they are not going to fix everything with every horse-rider combination, so that's a smart strategy. But it worked for me, and I can still remember what they told me to do. They are both very fine communicators and horsepeople.

How much emphasis is there on actual pedagogy and learning theory (for humans!) in the riding instructor certification schemes? My guess would be little-to-none, based on my brief reading of the BHS syllabus when I thought about doing the stages for all of five minutes. I wonder if we would produce more good riders out of riding schools if riding instructors had more training in pedagogy and learning theory, instead of just shouting, "Heels down! Sit up!" all the time. On this forum, we always talk about how much horsemanship across the board could be improved. If empathy towards people could be improved, from the very start of their riding journeys, then would that filter down to empathy and sensitivity towards horses? When I was a kid at a riding school, I can remember that being screamed at to "Kick harder! and to Not let him do that!!" made me feel stressed and anxious. I doubt I was the only one. Stress makes for braced, tight riders, and horses who brace in response and then need to be kicked to go. A vicious cycle.

Just musing and procrastinating on real work and going to the barn on a dreicht day.

Ultimately, I suppose, if you want a trainer, you should be aware your limitations and the style of training that suits you. As a kid, I would ride with whoever was on offer, hating it to various degrees. As an adult, I don't have to do that, but it makes me wonder if we can do better, from the first leadline lessons on up.
 
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I want an instructor that helps to give me the tools to help improve my horse. I don't need to look great just be good at improving the horse. I also don't like instructors that focus on only certain ways, I like outside the box.

I tend to stay away from instructors that want to fix or change my position. I have a few physical issues which means I can't ride perfectly but I can ride effectively and I know how to do that for myself. If that makes sense?
 

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This is a fascinating topic for me, and I too struggle with a barrage of instructions - it takes a while for it to go from my ears to my brain, then to my appendages and then for my brain to consider the outcome of the instruction, by which time the trainer has given at least 4 more things to do and I’ve missed them all. And how on earth, if I’m struggling to do this, my poor horses can keep up with what I’m trying to do, I don’t know!

Some of the best lessons I’ve had have been those with lots of walk and halt pauses to discuss how it feels to me v. how it looks to the instructor and to chat about the whys and wherefore, and possible solutions. Then I can process the information calmly, understand what I’m trying to achieve and focus on the key changes without getting stressed or rushed, and my horses seem to go better for it too.
I do think we’re seeing a move away from the more military style of disciplined instruction towards actual coaching, which is probably led by other sports / learning institutions.
 

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I feel that too many trainers over complicate things and generally whatever level you are riding at, the same things re-occur. I work best with a trainer who can identify the one thing (on that day) that will improve my horse, offers some tools to help me that I can use when I am on my own and gives me time to process instructions/suggestions instead of bombarding me with words. I've often just wanted to say, please can you shut up and give me a moment and now I'm old and a bit cranky I'm happy to express that opinion, politely, of course! I also appreciate a trainer who will push me out of my comfort zone as long as I respect them and they know me and the horse. I spent many years paying for someone else to ride my horse from the ground whilst I passively followed instructions. It really doesn't work and I made zilch progress. I also hate being told something is good when clearly it's not, I'm not paying someone to massage my ego and I'm perfectly happy to be told when something isn't good enough (because generally I already know!).
 

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Ooh interesting. Sometimes I need a coach, sometimes I need an instructor.

As a low level coach/instructor myself, my style will depend on the rider/horse combination in front of me - at that moment. On the whole though, the more advanced the rider, the more I coach rather than instruct.

It’s my job to work out what is right for the pairing in that moment and to change my approach as necessary. I’ve taken group lessons of WTC, pop an 80cm and had to instruct one by riding the horse from the ground myself, instruct another along the lines of more inside leg and coach another.

People need time to process what they are being asked to think about. I don’t believe in filling that silence with noise. When I speak, it’s for a reason - not audible wallpaper.

Ironically, I have used my equestrian coaching qualifications as an alternative to education qualifications to prove that I could carry on as a trainer for Periodic Training for bus drivers ?
 

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I want someone who isn’t going to try and make me ride in a way I don’t feel comfortable with and who is horse friendly. I am happy to be (gently) pushed outside my comfort zone but my priority is that my horse and I both enjoy the experience.
 

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I feel very lucky to be taught by two empathetic, put the horse first and really care about the clients. Both do a lot of CPD in horse and human learning and are very enthusiastic about their subjrct.

Both on the surface are very different in their specialisms - one is a biomechanical coach and quite scientific in their approach (I'm not and you can quite often see them racking their brains for an explanation I 'get' - but they always do and know when more information would be too much ? Quite often we come back to ideas or what we touched on last time and build on it) the other is natural horsemanship but both compliment each other.

I have clinics with others but I find in a group polework clinic, the style of teaching is less of an issue!
 

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On the whole though, the more advanced the rider, the more I coach rather than instruct.

^^ This!


As an instructor, it can be really hard when there are watching parents, to stop the lesson to explain in detail - I always found this frustrating! But people who are paying want 'value for money' ie. they want to see their kids doing something.

Once the basics have been mastered then I start to enjoy teaching. When you can make a few suggestions and watch the combination as they work through it together, helping out where needs be!

As a rider I need reminders - if I am concentrating on something I easily forget to sit up etc.!
 

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I don't dislike group lessons where the instructor just yells shapes at the ride and shouts at us to drop a heel or close fingers; I find it meditative somehow. However, learning wise, I do best with an instructor who’ll tell me if my equitation is getting sloppy, who’ll tell me to do an exercise but also leave me to get on with it at times, and who’ll talk though theory with me while horse is cooling down as well. My favourite lessons are the ones where I can write a full page of notes, on exercise ideas and analogies, after the lesson’s over. That’s what helps me process what others might consider a mentally intensive lesson. After all, lessons are expensive. I like to think I’m paying for every inch of my instructor’s brain space and knowledge during the 45 minutes.

Having said that, I used to teach novice kids - all the theory I like to hear would have blown their 5yo minds. Generally, their positions were better than novice adults (no bad posture from a 9-5 desk job), so all it took for a decent rising trot was practice - lots of games and gymkhana - and the occasional exercise focused on improving the hands/elbows. The only ‘theory’ I taught was saddle parts, horse breed names or saying that X would hurt the horse’s mouth. Any more than that and it wouldn’t have been fun - and all a kid doing their weekly 30min at a riding school wants is fun on horseback. I tried to make improvement a byproduct of just enjoying being on a horse.
 

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I clicked with my instructor from my first lesson. Her first prior was building my confidence and second making my position more secure which in turn also improved my confidence.

she explains why we do things and later in the lesson when he’s working from behind more and his lifted through his back explains where the warm up exercises have improved his way of going (ie. the transitions have got him sitting on his hocks and working his hind end which in turn has lifted the front end where he can be heavy). She is aware I ride a variety of horses and gives me a lot of tools for my tool box so to speak that I can apply to different situations and horses and not just her schoolmasters.

shes very complimentary and just gives one instruction at a time.
 

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I have regular (3+ per week) lessons.

I love lessons with an instructor who is relentless. My lessons at home are with one of two people, both of whom are forensic in their level of detail and have very high expectations. When I travel for a fancy lesson it's with someone who has exacting standards and has no problem saying when you don't meet them.

I must prefer that to someone who just says "good" or "how does that feel?" I recall having a lesson with a top eventer a few years ago which really consisted of him pointing to jumps in an arena eventing set up, me jumping them, him saying good and then moving on. Not money well spent.

I also seem to respond best to people telling me how changing something will help my horse. When it's framed in that way I'm all the more keen to improve and get it right.
 

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I also seem to respond best to people telling me how changing something will help my horse. When it's framed in that way I'm all the more keen to improve and get it right.

I like things explained too, it helps me know why I’m doing it and how I can then implement it when riding alone.

if I’m struggling something at home, my instructor will get me to show her what I’m doing and we break it down to find the route of the issue.
 

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There is a actually a fair amount of emphasis now on learning styles within coaching. A lot of my friends have also done the Centre 10 training for sports psych to help with clients as well. I did my ukcc2 and sat through a fair amount on teaching styles, coaching and feedback. I haven’t had what people are calling a shouty lesson for years.

What I will say is there is a an extraordinary amount of poor lessons being taught. I had one last week with a BHSI who only recently became an I and the lesson was lazy, no feedback and minimal direction. I came out absolutely furious because essentially I could have had a 12 year old kid so what the did which was adjust jumps and move poles. Luckily I don’t need the coaching and the horse was there for experience but I had a lot of riders in my group who needed coaching. I haven’t fed back to that BHSI but I have fed back to their peers.

Everyone is different about what they want. I want a world class trainer who teaches exceptionally in every lesson. On the whole I get that as I am completely anal about who I use. My preference is always the UKCC qualifications over the BHS because they are better coaches and tend to have met the competition/experience criteria I like.

I do think people are exceptionally lazy about their learning. I always do my homework as it’s a waste of time and money not to. I speak to a lot of my pro friends and very few people do their homework and the biggest culprit is middle aged women who compete at a low level. They just do not put the effort into getting better yet keep turning up for a tonne of lessons. I appreciate broad sweep with the brush in my statement!
 

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we get an instructor who comes up once a month for jump lessons and I love his teaching style. First lesson with him he tweaked several things for me to do but nothing overwhelming and I found it so helpful. But mostly he concentrates on letting the horse figure out what to do. He doesn’t want the rider to interfere but wants the rider to set the horse up to succeed.

for the likes of me and Tali he keeps it simple for us but for experienced riders he can get more technical. (I’ve watched other lessons) But he explains horse biomechanics and ways to improve strength and fitness. He puts the horse first always. He’s great but could talk for hours which is nice but could nearly do with another hour after the lesson just to speak ?

what I want from a lesson is to improve myself and my knowledge. I want to ride the horse I am on as best I can so I like instructors that look at the partnership and put the horse first. And fortunately so far I’ve had several really good instructors who keep it simple for us.
 

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Im not into micromanagement either my favourite instructors discuss feel and guiding my own thought process in how to deal with certain situations and improve things.

That said I do enjoy the lunge lesson to work on the minutiae of of position.
 

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My son struggles with exactly that ‘barrage of instructions’ style of teaching. He gets flustered, flusters the pony, and then makes a ton of mistakes we never, ever see outside of a lesson. So he has decided he’ll let me teach him. I tend to ride with him so I can demo. I watch him for a bit, pick something that needs improving, demo (with spoken commentary of what I am doing and why), leave him to practise a bit, stop and reassess and so on. I can do similar from the ground. That way we see actual progress, along with a happy child/pony combination.

I had a ton of lessons years ago, when I found an absolutely amazing instructor. Still need to try to find one as good where we live now.
 

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Much depends on what you want...do you want the horse to find it easier or do you want to improve the technicality of your seat/legs/hands etc? The two are not, contrary to the sort of common UK teaching culture, necessarily the same thing. We focus here, I have found, often on the 'picture' of the rider without perhaps getting deeper. I have had some amazing lessons, with no barrage of physical instruction that have resulted in quite profound learning and improvement of the horse's way of going as well as my own understanding of the physicality of the horse and how to develop my ability to work with that in a positive and happy way, regardless of the type of horse. That is a difficult thing though because not all teachers/coaches can get near the deep learning thing. In my view, here in the UK we don't discuss or address riding holistically enough; we don't really discuss 'feel' (I think some, higher level dressage trainers do this actually) or try to address really KEY issues that physically hold us back. One of my particular bug bears, which I won't try to bang on about, is the issue of fear which seems horribly embedded in our riding culture. I find that depressing. No one really acknowledges it or tries to address it either and so you often see fearful, tense riders who could really, truly be helped. There are some really brilliant instructors who really do focus on relaxation of both horse and rider but I think they are not particularly common and certainly not when people are starting out; that focus on relaxation and fun seems to be something that should come first but actually remains in the realm or more 'advanced' teaching!! For me, as a teacher, much riding teaching is horribly mechanical, reductive and joyless. I have been very lucky to have some brilliant instructors and teachers who have absolutely focussed on fun, relaxation, partnership and feel though so it is possible. I just don't think there is a UK 'system' for finding that though.
 

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My rule is trainers that I don’t compromise on is don’t try to learn to jump from someone who does not jump , I don’t include those who have stopped jumping because of age or injury in that .
I like trainers best who have a clear understanding on the theory of training and impart that logically over each session building knowledge over time .
I think that training position is very important and training riders is the way to get horses to go better .I see riders all the time who are being held back by sometimes very minor things that need repetitive effort to improve .
The aim should be that the rider goes away ( that can be over time ) and gets on with improving themselves having been given the tools to understand how to do that
I like trainers who give you clear homework to get on with .
People go for lessons for different reasons and sometimes it’s difficult for a trainer to work out what a new clients wants out of sessions .
That’s because often the client does not know and it takes a bit of time to work it out
 

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Teaching is a real skill and not all good riders make good instructors. And vice versa I suppose. It’s good to hear that there is more focus on how to teach effectively and on learning styles.

I’ve been with my current ins for 7 years. She knows me, she know my horses, and she tailors our lessons to me, my horse and what is happening at the time. She even schools them in a certain way to fit in with the level that I ride at, which is pretty bonkers and not something I had realised until she told me!

I don’t get on with those ins who just yell stuff at you constantly, and don’t explain what they mean, or just yell the same thing louder if you don’t get it right first time. My brain also gets a bit ‘full’ when I’m learning something new so I can only take on board so much.
 

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I like lessons where the instructor explains the why, not just ‘ do x, y and z. My best instructors both have no formal qualifications but are sublime riders who have also ridden my horse.

My brain cannot process the nowadays ubiquitous ‘mental pictures’. Eg ‘imagine your head is a balloon but you’ve got weights tied to your feet’ stuff. Nope. I blame Mary Wanless….?
 

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One of my particular bug bears, which I won't try to bang on about, is the issue of fear which seems horribly embedded in our riding culture. I find that depressing. No one really acknowledges it or tries to address it either and so you often see fearful, tense riders who could really, truly be helped.

This is an absolute thing for me as people are riding a flight animal that can pick up so much of a humans fear through their senses. Effectively every time someone is riding them being nervous or scared they are overloading the poor horses system. A lot of horses cope with it by being shut down like riding school horses, what kind of life is that for them? It’s never discussed enough.

Sure we all have moments of elevated heart rate but I have spent a lot of time and money trying to learn to control my heart rate and ‘emotions’ when sat on the horse. I tend to have all my meltdowns
Off the horse now!
 

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This is an absolute thing for me as people are riding a flight animal that can pick up so much of a humans fear through their senses. Effectively every time someone is riding them being nervous or scared they are overloading the poor horses system. A lot of horses cope with it by being shut down like riding school horses, what kind of life is that for them? It’s never discussed enough.

Sure we all have moments of elevated heart rate but I have spent a lot of time and money trying to learn to control my heart rate and ‘emotions’ when sat on the horse. I tend to have all my meltdowns
Off the horse now!

Yes. Being fearful is bad news for both parties though I think people should be able to acknowledge and address any fear. That needs to be done off the horse... It is simply NOT FAIR to take our fear to a horse. That kind of fear can result in all sorts of unpleasantness and discomfort for a horse - from clutching at the reins, generally over-active riding or stiffness to the mental and emotional impact. For the rider, carrying fear sucks both the joy of riding away but also, probably more importantly, reduces our capacity to think clearly and rationally about whatever is actually going on (rather than what we fear may be happening; the two are often very separate). I meet lots of people who are afraid of their horses, or what may happen when they are riding and it is both sad and damaging. Yet, I don't think it is something that instructors discuss or try to help with. Sometimes fear is to do with skill, other times it is to do with anticipating something going wrong/catastrophising. Yet a horse only acts in the moment so there is a real mismatch there. Being in the moment whilst also having a sense of what comes next is a skill that needs to be taught more imo. As for lack of skill, well every day is a learning day but fearfulness is a state of mind that can be changed to one of confident decision making about what is appropriate for that combination/person. I haven't explained that very well, sorry!
 

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I have cut right back on lessons this year as instructor has moved away and school at yard not that good. In theory I know what I need to do and then need the occasional lesson to ensure we are on track and help with any issues. That isn't pretending I know it all as of course I don't and I would love to have lessons every week or be coached every time I ride but that isn't going to happen - time, money, facilities, age of horse etc. If I really think about it, I know how to get my horse going well for the level we are competing at if I ride him as if I was in a lesson. In an instructor I want someone who can tell me quite succintently what I need to do, can check that I understand and feel the difference, that can get on my horse and show me how exceptionally well he can go and me go away from the lesson knowing what I need to do. An instructor picked up straight away an issue that I had, and I had it the wrong way round, if that makes sense. I thought I was doing x, but in fact x was happening because of y and y is what I worked on. On the fear/confidence issue, I agree totally. Sometimes when I have not been feeling it, my instructor has ridden my horse for me and then handed him over which has worked really well. I am quite odd (or possibly not) that happily get on and ride anywhere in a competition but have less confidence in arena at home yard.
 

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This is an absolute thing for me as people are riding a flight animal that can pick up so much of a humans fear through their senses. Effectively every time someone is riding them being nervous or scared they are overloading the poor horses system. A lot of horses cope with it by being shut down like riding school horses, what kind of life is that for them? It’s never discussed enough.

Sure we all have moments of elevated heart rate but I have spent a lot of time and money trying to learn to control my heart rate and ‘emotions’ when sat on the horse. I tend to have all my meltdowns
Off the horse now!

I hadn't realised how much my big mare had destroyed my confidence until she went off work with yet another injury and I got lessons at Mary Wanless's yard. They soon realised I was competent - their welsh gelding had a proper 'welshie' moment that I just cracked on with - but I was over thinking everything and worrying about the consequences rather than just riding. I only did 6 months of lessons before covid hit but it was enough to remind me that I'd been happily cantering horses since I was a tiny tot and I could take that confidence back to my own horses.

Schoolmasters are worth their weight in gold for dealing with rider nerves
 

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I hadn't realised how much my big mare had destroyed my confidence until she went off work with yet another injury and I got lessons at Mary Wanless's yard. They soon realised I was competent - their welsh gelding had a proper 'welshie' moment that I just cracked on with - but I was over thinking everything and worrying about the consequences rather than just riding. I only did 6 months of lessons before covid hit but it was enough to remind me that I'd been happily cantering horses since I was a tiny tot and I could take that confidence back to my own horses.

Schoolmasters are worth their weight in gold for dealing with rider nerves

Great post - especially if you're riding with a coach who allows you play with said schoolmaster, learn, find the buttons and gain the confidence in doing so, rather than being screamed at for getting things wrong. I've learnt so much and improved both riding and confidence wise just by being allowed to feel, rather than a previous coach who thought shouting was the way forward.

I'm quite pro riding with those who both have high level quals and comp experience because any decent coach should be interested in CPD, but also when you're paying high level riding school prices, I have a base line of what's acceptable qualifications and experience wise in return for the cost.
 

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I had a few lessons with 2 BHS fellows when I was eventing. One was when I was on the pony and by god she made me work - sweat lashing. Either no stirrups for our entire session or had to stand entire session if we were jumping.
I feared/loved when she visited the yard and I got so much out of it that I regret not getting more now. But I honestly believe they were some of the best lessons I had and really developed me as an effective rider and enhanced my riding via feel. I also had a couple of lunge lessons where I think my legs died. Strict, to the point and shouted - but I don’t see it as shouting; when you are at the other end of the arena how are you meant to hear your instructions without them raising their voice? Plus she was a bit of a legend in her own right.
The other fellow was softer but equally as tough and also worked on my position. I feel very lucky I was able to avail of these lessons at my yard. He was very observant.

I appreciate the honest and to the point method, I think there’s sometimes too much pandering. Or false praise.
My regular instructor was more improving the horse/tweaking my position.

All old school type teaching. However if I had only lessons with the fellows I wouldn’t have enjoyed riding as much and would Have destroyed my confidence. But with the occasional lesson from them plus my regular instructor I got the best of both worlds.


I have found that I don’t respond to shouting at me very much, not in work (some of my lovely clientele) and definitely not in the gym/spin, it kinda washes over me and makes very little impact. Has anyone else found this?
 

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It can be so hard to find the right instructor. I've ridden at riding schools (group lessons) in 3 different countries and the styles are very different. In England, they are so focused on health and safety that I was literally bored to tears and declined further lessons (the instructor actually told me one of the rules was don't fall off - never would have guessed!). In Switzerland, they're very formulaic, with basically the same lesson every week (not helped by the fact that my German is little to non existent), though one instructor went above and beyond to keep me entertained when she realised the level I had. In France, where I've ridden the most, I've come across quite a mixed bunch, but with a large amount of shouty, old-style military types.
My current instructors at the riding school are long time friends, but don't always suit me teaching style wise. I like to understand what I'm doing and why, whereas they just want me to do what they say, preferably without asking awkward questions. I need to analyse what I've done, repeat (if not detrimental to the horse) and hopefully improve. But rather than asking me / letting me figure out what I've done wrong or what can be improved, they tell me. Basically, they're not setting me up to think for myself.
I would love to have lessons with instructors more suited to my style, but independent instructors are not a big thing around here (very rural). There was a brilliant one that I've ridden with at clinics but he fell out with the management of his riding school and moved away. He now apparently coaches a veteran team. I also had another great instructor who taught me how to think for myself, but I now live half a days drive away.
 

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As a freelance coach this post has been really interesting. I'm BHS qualified and a Centre 10 Advanced Coach. I do a lot of CPD and love it.
I took the Centre 10 course because I felt I lacked the psychological knowledge to help less confident riders. However, I know I need different types of instruction/coaching depending on what I need at the time.
Is it improving my riding, helping with a youngster / particular issue, or a general kick up the backside? If I'm looking at 2 of those I love being drilled into the floor and finishing the lesson feeling physically worn out and mentally stimulated. If it's working with a young horse, then I want a much more sympathetic coach. If I'm having a confidence wobble, I need someone with empathy.
I have clients that love being asked what they think or feel during a lesson and others that just want to be told how to do something. Others want "out of the saddle" sessions to explore the psychological side or riding.
Between the BHS, UKCC & Centre 10 (plus all the CPD available) I would hope that there is an increasing number of coaches that have the ability to identify the riders needs rather than just the old school shouting.
 
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