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Shilasdair how would it be proved that it was bought as a gift?

EJ - I am unsure but the way I see it is that my dad paid money for the horse therefor it is his if he choses to sell it (hopefully if he ever did the money would be put towards another horse
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If the passport were in her name, or she registered with BSJA or whatever as the owner, perhaps.
I wouldn't advise the OP to take it back...sounds like it's much better off living in the lap of livery luxury, than slumming it in a field in donated rugs...if the other posts are an indication.
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I don't even think that counts. As far as I was aware the only real way to tell if a horse belongs to someone is a bill of sale. So...the bill of sale would be in her dad's name, so it belongs to him.

For what it's worth, I'm wondering if this is a bit of a wind up. I don't actually believe anyone could be this spoilt and selfish
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Don't know if anyone else felt the same, but I was really uncomfortable reading your original post. You are an adult, your father has a life of his own, despite the fact that you are an adult, he is still bailing you out and you don't seem at all grateful. You are more concerned about the girlfriend than your horse, and the whole thing seems to me to be a jealousy issue between you and the girlfriend.

I suggest that you get your finances in order before you start worrying about a horse you haven't seen for over a year.

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This is the same girl who can't stand to see her OH with his kids, different when the shoe's on the other foot from the sound of it.

Go get your horse, stop whining and learn to support yourself like other people have to!
 
oh god ive never been confused !!!!!

get a grip girl,to be honest if he was my dad and was being like that towards me,i would take my mare and tell him where to stick it,he will come round eventually,do you eally need a spinless wimp who lets his gf dictate to him about his own daughter ???
 
So what you're actually saying (it seems) is that you dad knows it would be mad for you to take on another horse when you're in huge amounts of debt, so he actually kept the horse for your own good. Or that's how I read it anyway. And maybe because of how you're liable to react, he felt he had to be "cruel to be kind" - tell you to keep off the yard as you wouldn't listen otherwise?
 
No. I was never in debt!!!!! by student i meant ''private schooling'' - i was lucky for him to pay for my education. Sorry, its getting confusing now, i wish i never posted, sorry.
 
Horsey_Gal, i think people are just confused, i know i am.

If you can explain the situation that bit more then the penny might drop!
 
And in fact you don't have to start paying uni loans back until you earn over £15,000 (£16,000 now for the last two years) plus until you earn over £20,000 ayear its only something like £8 a month
 
It's easier not too. I shouldnt have posted, sorry! it's getting very confusing and people are getting the wrong end of the stick. I dont want people thinking i am a troll or a spoilt brat as ive been called or anything else. I am a genuine person.
 
Horsey if you feel you have been judged wrongly over what was said and if you don't mind fully explaining the story you are trying to get across then take the time to explain what happened and why.
 
Well I now know why you are scared of being without a man in your life and from what you have said about the relationship you have with your father I now understand your relationship with your OH far more. That isn't meant as a dig, it is just an observation. Seems you never had your father all for you as he left, and now you want a man all for you - makes sense and a lot of what you have posted about your life with your OH now slots into place.

As for your mare - leave her be and work on the relationship with your father.
 
Ive just taken a look at your previous posts too, and they vary from going on holiday to eating out four times a week..how can you not afford a rug for your horse then?
If you ignore your mare for a year and expect your Father to pay for her, surely it's cheeky to suddenly demand her back?
Something doesn't ring true about you I'm sorry to say.
I think you might discover everyone is always made warmly welcome and supported on here by virtually all the forum members, but anyone who tells stories or half stories soon gets the cold shoulder.
I may be wrong but your posts make me uneasy.
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I agree in a way Weezy, never thought of it like that before, thanks for the observation, interesting.

As for the mare, i will leave it, and work on my relationship with my father.
 
I agree, i think you should concentrate on the horses you have now, work on building the relationship with your dad.

Is it really fair to uproot the mare now just to sell her?
 
I was never going to unroot the mare and sell her!! - hence i said a lot of people have the wrong end of the stick. I asked a question about selling her, if and when in years to come.
 
If your having problems keeping your current horses then i would get more financially secure before thinking about it.

How happy is the mare at your dads yard? I assume your still seeing her from your previous threads
 
I'm not having problems keeping my others. Yes, i've got a sharer as the mare is stood in a field doing nothing while i'm at work! and yes, it would help with the shoes and yes i've just had a huge vets bill so yes i am looking for a cheap rug but other than that i get them everything they need and they always come 1st!
 
What's important is the mare, not you or your dad. If the mare is happy and well looked after as well as settled in her new home now that she has been there a year, I would leave her there. You had over a year to get her back and didn't. I'd also not be too hasty about wanting to move a pregnant mare.
 
Sorry, but from the sounds of it your dad is a buisness man, he's paid for this mare's keep over the last year and he wants some money back. What exactly is she worth with a heart murmer? as a broodmare / Rc horse maybe, but not an eventer
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I hate to say it but i also feel something doesnt ring true about your posts. If you look back over your posts yourself you'll see a number of inconsistencies, and okay, not all of us can afford top spec rugs for our horses, I think other posts prove otherwise.
what about this?
http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/forums/sh...rue#Post2443788

yet in other posts it's obvious you ARE that 17 yo going out with a 28 yo
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Just be straight with people, and they'll be straight with you.
 
Afraid I agree with most of the above. I would advise you let the horse go - father clearly thinks he's entitled, having bought her. However, I would also let father go - doesn't sound as if there's much respect between you. Remember, you don't have to like your parents. Difficult for you, but write it all off as experience, and go it alone in future.
 
Whose been riding the mare for the last year? I agree with Snowhawk, you should set aside yours and your dads feelings, think where the mare would be the most happiest at.

If you decide to take the mare back i think it would only be fair to repay your dad all the past years expenses for the mare.

Please dont take this the wrong way but is it because your dads gf would be getting the foal? When my mare had a foal this year, i ended up with a huge vet bill as she got several infections, thankfully mine are insured. She had trouble foaling as her foal was so big, shes only 12.3hh and her foal is now standing at 11.3hh and only 4 months!!!
 
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I wish i was 17!!! i'd have done it all different but thats life! I will, thanks for posts anyway.

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Did you go back college to do A levels then? I'm confused by an earlier post you made. You were looking for somewhere to do A2 without going back to school

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man your story is falling apart ...... good luck with what ever you do
im a mum and i wish i could give you a cuddle .. i think you aare a bit mixed up hun
i dont think any of this is to do with the mare i think you want some attention bless ...
 
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