My b****** of a father!!

im sorry but you whining on is not on.
i am 22yrs of age, live with my boyfriend and pay half of the bills and work full time to pay for 5 horses. my parents only help out with vets fees but i do give them £500 a month to pay for such things and the horsebox mot and stuff.

either get your act together and pay for your mare completly without handouts from daddy or just let her be with your dad who after all DOES own her.
im sure if you really wanted her back you might of done it sooner than a year later.......
 
I dont see the point in ranting at the girl for something that does not read true. It is very doubtful she does have this mare or indeed this situation is in anyway true or factual. If she is lucky enough to have a father who shells out for her, that's his business. It just so happens the world if full of spoilt children who do not appreciate their parents. Nice cats by the way.
 
i posted above post after only reading the first page. it made me angry so i posted.
anyway, now after reading everything i still stick by my first post but also suggets you start telling the truth a little more.

people on here will listen, talk to you and help with any ickle probs you have but you have to be straight with them first.
had your story not had so many holes in it people may of felt sorry for you ( which i do to an extent as nobody deserves that sort of relationship with their dad) but it is VERY difficult to beleive a word your saying.........
 
I do believe there is a horse, she does mention the horse in other posts. Horse_Gal if you do read this then i do think your going through a hard time, but i feel that some of your thread has been stretched a bit.

OH and me had a huge fight the other week because i told him off for pulling Maes mouth, called each other all the names under the sun. I know this sounds horrible but all i could think about is if we dont make up, he might make me sell Mae lol.

The days i dont get to the yard does get to me, ive a bad back so find it hard to get out of bed sometimes. On those days i quiz OH when he comes home from the horses lol, asking him "Was mae looking for me" lol
 
Your first post really makes you sound like a spolit brat
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I would be suprisedif the gf has done something unforgivable,maybe giving your father a box of chocs/bottle of plonk for her this christmas as an icebreaker/peace offering would be a good place to start??
The mare is your fathers,but he still has her so IF you do care about her start building bridges with him and his gf.
Most people would consider 4 years to be a serious relationship, not "just 4 years".
Even if she is only after his cash, he obviously loves her to still be with her after so long.

Be thankfull for what he has given you and dont moan about what (from your post) seems something very trivial.
 
Sorry to bring this up again but i've only just read it.
From reading the whole thing I'm not sure what is true and what isn't.
But my answer to the OP would be that my dad also bought my horse for me, and paid the livery until I was working and I took over. If I was in trouble financially he would always assist me with my livery bill (not that it's happened but he's my dad and I know) but there is no way on earth he would ever claim that my horse is his. Because guess what, he's my dad and I'm his daughter and no one else could ever do or say anything to change that. Obviously your dad doesn't feel this way. This may be down to what happened all those years ago when your parents split up, or it maybe down to his GF. But if he doesn't want to act like a father to you then forget him. It sounds to me like he trys to buy you through guilt. You should stop letting him do that. If he thinks he can be there for you through money just turn it down and make him actually prove himself as a father.
As for the education debt - if he is the business man with the money that you claim then he wouldn't still be paying that off!! I had a private education and that was not a debt but an investment my parents made. And it is paid for at the time.
In the situation you are in I would leave the mare where she is as she is now pregnant. You haven't fought hard enough for her in my eyes. And if you dad is going to be a w****r about money then in his eyes yes she probably is his, seeing as I pay about £5k a year for full livery and she has a dodgy heart then I'd say he probably thinks he's bought her from you.
You can change your life whenever you want to. Have 1 horse that you can afford to keep, ride and enjoy, that way you'll never be forced to depend on your father ever again. And if he isn't prepared to put anything into your relationship other than money as I've said before. Forget him.
 
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This is just like Judge Judy!

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LOL No definately Jeremy Kyle!!!!

IMHO, you need to sit back and let your Dad get on with it!

I 21 always had a great relationship with my Dad till he met a woman 4 years ago and he dis-owned me last year! I asked him to LEND me £40 so i could get my provisional license and he said no!
But now we are fine i just have nothing to do with his OH.
I have NEVER asked him for anything even when i was basically homeless and pregnant!
2 weeks ago i plucked up the courage to ask him if i could BORROW £500 to buy a cheap run around car, i was so scared asking him and he said yes! i am paying him back £50 a week. I only work part time, have a house, daughter and horses to keep and im managing it.

But the way i think about it is that if i pay him back religously if i ever need his help again he'l be there!

Im sorry I can understand the B**** GF but i have no sympathey for you!!! I dont think you realise how lucky you are!!!!
 
for the OP, get over yourself, I too have had a private education and my ponies bought for me, im currently in uni and am very very lucky that my parents look after my 5 when im away. However if they did decide to pull the plug, i would sell 1 (the youngster ive bought to bring on), give 3 to the VHS (my first pony, second pony and a field ornament all of whom are fully retired) and find a way of keeping the other one (my 18 yearold superstar who i love beyond reason and can still ride), even if it ment i had to work all hours under the sun i'd find a way.

As it is, in summer my mum washes her hands of the horses and i do everything, the only thing mum will do is drive the lorry for me (which i bought myself and i saved damn hard for, i'm doing my lorry test at easter so hopefully wont have to rely on her for that this summer). I pay for everything in summer and I pay for the ponies insurance, I pay for the maintance and tax on the lorry and I pay for feul and entry fees.
Not easy to do when your a full time student, but i do it and i work my but off for it.
My mother has said that she will keep the horses untill i have finnished Uni and gotten myself a job, then i have 6 months after that to find livery and find a way of paying for them

I think your father has plenty of right to take the horse concidering your attitude to money and him, also you left the horse for a year!! If i'd loved the horse that much or wanted her half as much as you proffess you do, i'd have taken her and found a way of keeping her rather then sponge off your dad, even if it ment that i had to send a proffessional transport company and a friend to collect the horse, she would have been collected the day i was told to get off the yard.

So grow up, get a life and start paying your way in the world. Im not scared of asking my parents for money, but im very very grateful when they give it to me. you sound like a spoilt brat who doesnt appreciate just how much your father has shelled out for you, and now that youve had the money flow stopped your throwing a temper tantrum!
 
And at the end of all this you have grazing and stables at home? So you didn't even have to move her in the first place because presumably you weren't paying livery to your mother?
 
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