My beautiful mare has just had to be put to sleep

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I had a call this am from the hospital to go in at 11 for my BP to be checked as i have been in hospial this week due to health issues with my twin pregnancy. 5 minutes later I had a call from a frantic friend saying one of my beloved horses had been in an accident in the field and needed the vet asap. I called and arranged vet and called the hospital to explain and say I wouldn’t be there for 11.
As I got to the stables, I was met by a friend who said there was nothing that could be done, the vet came out and explained – both tendons were severed in one of her hind legs. Thankfully a livery had seen it happen so we know she hadnt been in pain all night.
Shes had to be put to sleep, because of the stupid vets insurance I wasn’t allowed to hold her as it was done as I am expecting, and she was a big, strong and beautiful mare. I’ve been robbed, of those last few minutes. They wouldnt let me lead her or anything.
We took her outside onto one of the helicopter pads and it was done as I gave her a carrot from a distance. My other horses were at the field fence watching and one called out as she fell. He hasnt moved from the spot since. I’ve spent I don’t know how long sat with her until I have been dragged away as they were coming to collect her at 1.
The midwife earlier at the hospital said I should call the ward and go in this evening for my BP check but she said if its up at all I am being kept in. ERRR hello – of course it is sky high!
I’ve also now got a migraine from the stress. Please can you tell me I am not being selfish by not going for my BP check – I am so devastated by this am and I know it will be high, but for that reason not the babies. And how can I rest in there after all of this?
I’m just soooo confused as everyone is telling me I have to go to get myself checked but I know I will be kept in and right now I just want to be left alone at home and allowed time here.
My big beautiful mare is gone - how do you cope with this?????????
We had so many plans, the last time i rode her was the 18th July - just before i found out about my pregnancy. Why o why has this happened??? I never expected to lose her 1st - after all she was young and i have a load of veterans.

Rest in peace my beautiful Liath.
xxxxxx
 
You poor thing, i can understand where your coming from wanting to be alone. Having a horse is better then having best friends & the midwife probly won't understand the heartache the joy these horses put us through. If your blood pressure is normally ok can't you reschedule for tomorrow. Keep your chin & think of the good things & those 2 little bundles of fun that will be here to meet the world soon!
 
Thats so sad.You must think of yourself and the babies get checked out you will never forgive yourself if you dont look after the babies they are dependant on you to look after them.You couldnt have done anymore for your horse she is out of pain.Your main priority is your health a few months down the line you will realise that checking in to hospital was the best thing.Your horse is precious but take it from me your babies are more important.You will feel angry and resentful first but this will pass.Thinking of you good luck.
 
So sorry to hear about your beloved horse. I should go home and sit quietly for abit and then see how you feel about having your blood pressure checked. You can always take yourself in later. I know your mind must be spinning with all that has happened but accidents happen with horses I'm afraid.
 
OMG I am so sorry to hear such terrible news. I lost my wonderful mare nearly a year ago and can only begin to know how youre feeling at the moment. I hope you have people who you can turn to, its so important to have company at this terrible time. Your pregnancy is wonderful, keep it at the forefront of your mind and dont let your grief stop you from remembering that you must do what the experts at the hospital recommend. Nothing is worth comprimising that. I am so sorry for your loss, and hope in time, that you remember her in a happy way, and treasure your wonderful times together. Im so sorry.
 
Hi i am sorry sorry you have lost your special mare.

We were devastated when we lost our highland mare 10 years ago and we still think about her now. i even dream about her still, on occassions.

But, tbh you need to focus in the immediate on your babies, you need to stay well for them so please go and get checked. Your wellbeing and that of your babies must be priority.

Try to do things that remind you are your horse, write a poem about her, put your thoughts onto paper, anything so you are not holding onto and holding in your feelings.

It does get better, trust me and take care.
 
Oh how awful for you.......I know you must feel so bad at not being able to be with her for those last few minutes, but think how much more awful things would be if there had been an accident & something had happened to the babies.
You do at least know that she wasn't in pain - something very similar happened to a friends youngster years ago & she said that at least knowing that was a bit of a help.
I don't suppose anything that we can do or say is going to make things any better for you at the moment, but you know that we're all thinking of you & that we understand how much you must be hurting at the moment.
 
Oh Charlotte, I am so very sorry to hear this!

You do what you feel you need to do... if you don't want to go in today, then rearrange and go on Monday morning first thing. I understand that you would not settle tonight and don't want to be mithered or fussed, just left alone with your grief.
 
What a terrible shock for you, and how devastating. Hugs to you. I think you will have to get yourself checked for the sake of your babies, though I completely understand that you can't cope with that right now. You have far too much to come to terms with. xx
 
Heartbreaking.
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My thoughts are with you.

Run free Liath.
 
ditto what cellie has wrote, you did the best for your mare, but now you need to do the best for you and your babies, so sorry for your loss, heartbreaking news, take care of yourself xx
 
I'm so sorry to hear your news about your lovely horse (((HUGS)))
But you also have to think about your babies, and if you have a head ache!, I would go and have your B.P taken x speaking from some one who works up a hospital xx
 
Oh, Im so sorry for you
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I think you should go home and sit down , go to the hospital on Monday , of course your not being selfish , youve just lost your horse in a tragic accident ,Im sure the hospital will understand , its very sad that you could not be close to her when she was pts but Im sure she knew how much you loved her , go and get some rest and make sure someone looks after you for the rest of the day , RIP Liath x
 
RIP Liath.

You ddi all you could, her suffering has ended now.

Sit down, put your feet up and try some relaxation exercises.

You must get your BP checked for the babies sake, yes it may not be the babies causing the rise, but both their and your health could be compromised as a result.

I have 2 children and was ill at the end of my second pregnancy so know a bit how you feel. I went in for a check after leaving child 1 at minders for a few hours, they wanted to keep me in but I discharged myself as I needed to collect child 1. I came to a compromise where the community midwife popped in every time she went past (she lived in the same village).

Is there anyway way you can some agreement about being allowed to rest at home.

Please get your self checked out, even if it means you have to be checked again next week when you have come to terms with it all a bit.

Look after yourself and those babies, they are what matters now, your lovely mare is not in pain and you did all you could.
 
I am so so sorry for your loss of your beautiful horse in such a tragic accident.

However, you don't say how many weeks gone you are in this pregnancy. Seeing as how the signs of eclampsia are sky high blood pressure and blinding headaches I would take yourself off to get your blood pressure checked, however much you don't want to do it. Your own life could be in danger here. (Sorry) It may be a migraine, it may not...
 
There's not much to say except to send my condolences to you, I'm very sorry.
Yes, of course your BP will be high atm so probably the best thing would be to sit quietly for the rest of the day and let things settle down but you must take care of your babies, they are going to be the most important things in your life for quite a while. Don't resent them because they are taking your mind from your mare as that would be very easy to do just now; think to the future.
You are lucky in one way as at least you didn't have a choice in the matter so at least that can put your mind at rest; there was nothing you or the vet could do for her and it was quickly dealt with.
 
everyones worst nightmare ten fold. easier said than done but you now much absolutely do the right thing and do everything within your power to protect your two other babies, your twins, so go for the bp check and everything else and try and keep busy consoling yourself with those motherly duties. it will be so so hard and i hope you have some strong support.
 
What a terrible shock for you and I can understand you want to be at home to come to terms with things. But please look after your health and have your BP checked - letting yourself become ill will not bring your lovely horse back. Maybe see if you could have it done at home.
 
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