My share horse was PTS this morning - still shaky about it

I'm so sorry for you both, it's never an easy decision.

What I would be tempted to do, I think, is send the owner a card to say thank you for letting you ride the horse, and offer to take her out for a drink to toast her memory. It might help give you both a bit of closure.
 
So sorry to hear this. What a beautiful horse she was. I don't think it was very nice of the owner not to tell you but maybe it was a quick decision. She was a lucky horse to have so many who cared for her x
 
Honey08 said:
However it doesn't sit comfortably with me either that the owner's newly PTS horse is being put on the internet and the owner criticised either.
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I have no criticism of the owner whatsoever! I'm absolutely certain that she did what was best for the horse and for herself. There was no prospect of the horse recovering and it would have taken increasing amounts of bute just to keep her field sound, where she would have been bored to tears. Far better to PTS now while she was still bright and happy in herself, rather than struggling to keep her going through winter.

As I said, I do wish I could have had a chance to say goodbye, but also understand and respect the owner's desire to just make the decision and get it over with.

And, to be honest, when I'm talking about the horse I loved being PTS, *I* could do without the criticism.
 
EstherYoung said:
I'm so sorry for you both, it's never an easy decision.

What I would be tempted to do, I think, is send the owner a card to say thank you for letting you ride the horse, and offer to take her out for a drink to toast her memory. It might help give you both a bit of closure.
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That's a lovely idea. I think I'll do that, and invite the horse's other sharer along, too.
 
I'm sorry that you have lost a loved friend.
Try to say goodbye yourself, by looking at photo's smelling something of hers, or just remembering fun you had.
You don't have to be physically touching the horse to say your goodbyes.
Maybe the owner wanted the last hours or days to be just about her and her horse but that doesn't take anything away from the relationship you had with her.
Be thankful of the time you had and remember her often and smiling.
Big hugs
 
I didn't think that I'd said that you particularly were criticising the owner? I, just thought that the thread seems to be in general to be saying how unfair the owner was, by other posters. As I was reading the thread I couldn't help feel for the owner if they ever saw the thread. I would be upset as an owner to read a thread like that that if my sharer put it on. I would hopefully never PTS my horse without telling my sharer unless there was a good reason, but even so.. People were right in what they were saying, I just didn't think it was very nice to have a thread like this out on an open forum that the owner could be directed to by others that know the horse..

I understand that you're upset and I'm sorry you've lost a horse that you cared about. But there is an owner and another sharer, I think you said, who may well also be upset if they saw this thread. That's just my thought, and I pointed it out in case you hadn't thought of it. You do what you feel is right and nice, at the end of the day.
 
I had to retire Mac earlier this year, last winter was tough on him, and his arthritis got a lot worse. Vet is happy he's comfortable in the field for now, but we don't know for how long, praying for a dry winter for him. When his time comes, I think I will want to be on my own with him, apart from my very close friend who loves him as much as I do. I will let his past couple of sharers know before hand though, so that they can say goodbye to him if they wish to.
 
So sorry for your loss, what a beautiful horse.

I do think it was cruel that the owner didn't give you a chance to go and say a quiet goodby. I hope that you can focus on your good memories.
 
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