my word!! I am never doing another favour again... how rude!

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I will try and keep this as short as possible or try to make a long story short! I have been helping out a person on my yard with his horses...one of them I adore. It has been general things, mucking out, turning out, haying, bringing in etc. This has been going on for a few weeks now. I have of late thought he was taking the mickey. He doesnt work, lives in the village, where the yard is but still doesnt get up to the yard til sometimes gone 6 or 7 at night. Last week it was well over 8. He also has his brothers step daughter come up and help or do most things also...she is just eleven years of age.
The one horse can be unruly going out and is quite strong. When you get to he gate he tries to gallop off with his headcollar on and if you hold on he rears vertically, so today I had someone stromnger take him out whilst i did the gate. Tried it on but the person managed to control him. The day went by and I was working, then I got Flint in but I didnt get the other horse in, there was 3 others out after I boiught in. At 6 o'clock my friend rang me to say she had just bought her horses in and the other horse was going mental, and said it would be best to get him him. The step daughter was there and she asked to bring in and I said no- Leave him. Because she is an eleven year old girl and knowing how this horse would be, I thought her welfare would be the most sensible thing to look out for in this case. I wondered over to the canteen, got a coke and saw the yard owner who asked me to get the horse in as he was upsetting the dressage- I was on my way up there anyway. Bought him in and shoved him in the stable. So here is the upsetting bit!!
I got a voicemail left at 8.30 tonight which said
"if you turn the effing horse out, you effing bring it in. How dare you tell (girls name) not to get him in when he's galloping around! you dont leave a galloping horse out. If i see you tomorrow I will knowck you effing out you C U Next Tuesday!" before hanging up!!
I was so angry I rang him back up where there was a lot of screaming going on, he's not very intelligent so swears alot, threatens. He is unable to debate or doesnt respond well to challenge. I'm not dreading going up the yard - im quite looking forward to the challenge but is he in the wrong or not?????? I still got the horse in, he obviously thinks it acceptable to send an eleven year old girl to get a distressed horse in. It's the last time I help ANYONE out up there and will just do Flint and get on with it- he can find some other mug to do his horses now.. the lazy dried up old cow!! Pffft! 38 and he still lives off his mother!
rant over......pat on the back if you made it this far!!
 
Oh my God.

What an appalling attitude he has
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You did the right thing, and theres no way that kid should be handling that horse if its dangerous
 
because he is nothing but lazy!! Sometimes in life there are people who just take from others- he is one of them. The only reason he spoke to me like that is because he thought I wouldnt defend myself or fight back- he picked the wrong bitch to argue with i am afraid
 
You tell him, cheeky sod! I think you have been used my dear, so I would tell him to get off his arse and do his horses himself as for safety issues you are not doing them. How rude, people like that do not deserve others to do things for them.
What a shock to the system when he has to be responsible for his own animals.
that sort of thing makes me cross too.
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Good grief!! What a lazy twat. Me thinks he needs an attitude adjustment and quick!
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No way would I send a child to get in a horse in that frame of mine. Anything could happen
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but i didnt turn it out! Just opened the gate! He wouldnt speak to the other person like that! they are not fickle and once you fall out thats it! He said when I rang that he doesnt want me touching his horses again! To which I replied
"thank GOD!!...I was getting sick of walking up that car park all day turning them out!"
 
I have been used like this a few times. The people have never helped me in return and I have never even had a thank you!
I go up to my yard, I ride and socialise, do my horse and then go. I don't bitch about anyone and I help no one unless I know from previous experience that they will help me.
Otherwise you get arrogant beggers who are just plain lazy taking advantage of your good nature!
 

If he wants somebody to dance to his tune maybe he should look up the concept of full livery.

What an utter tw&t
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As for sending an 11 year old to sort his horse out, well that makes him even more of a to$$er.

I think you're very much in the right to be honest.
 
perhaps you should bill him step by step for everything you have done for him in the past, perhaps he will get a reality check - but then again from what you say about him he probably wont. I seem to have the same problem with people, always happy to help out but then getting taken advantage of so have now decided to stop! Start to enjoy your own horse and stick to your guns, unfortunately it is up to him if he wants to put the girl at risk and he will have to face the consequences.
 
I've witnessed this sort of thing in the past and whenever I read a thread like this I ask myself the same question: If the person has so little interest in the horse(s) that they can't even be bothered to visits once a day (at least), then why bother owning horses at all?

Good for you for standing up to him, I think he has bitten off more than he can chew! What would he, and the YO, have told the father of the eleven year old girl if she had been flattened by the horse she had been told to bring in?
 
What a complete and utter w****r!!! Just reading that made my blood boil for you!!

He doesn't deserve a horse or a step daughter for that matter if he's prepared to put her safety in jeopardy. Well done for sticking up for yourself and let the useless prat do his own work from now on.
 
Couldn't agree more, he wounds like a total idiot. And how dare he swear at you on a voicemail. Lowest of the low. He should have got his lazy ar*e up to the yard and brought the horse in himself. Arrrrgh it's SO annoying.
 
Good for you especially putting the girls welfare first. Its the same everywhere I'm afraid there are always users!! Still at least you'll have more time to yourself now.
 
Prize tosser.

Personally tell him to go f*ck himself with a badger.

Don't do anything again for him - blank him. Even if his horse does gallop itself lame - sorry not your problem and I would just walk away if someone ever spoke to me like that.

I would also ask YO if she is happy for a 11 year old to bring in that sort of animal. If she has any brain she will ban the kid handling horses unless she wants to be possible held liable for when the kid is seriously injured.

Seeing red just reading your post and it takes a lot to wind me up.
 
Blooming idiot he sounds like the C u next Tue not you... I would wash my hands of this person fairly swiftly, sounds like a really lazy inconsiderate winker
 
Poor horse - having an owner like that.
IMHO a horse is a responsibility 365 days a year. (and the owners - at that)
Poor you, its awful, when all youve done is in the best interest of said kid and horse.
B****r him and let him find another idiot to do it for him whilst he sits on his a***se doing b***r all.....

I feel for you - been in the same situation..... she decided to stop doing my horse, but didnt tell me and just left him in his stable with no food!! But knew where I was when she wanted hers doing cos she had headache, gone out,doing something else, and she has kids you know!!!!! (sorry fo venting my spleen too)

I symapathise!
 
I think you've had a good wake up call, there. No doubt he'll struggle to find someone willing to help him now, if not very soon. I agree that it's disgusting to expect an 11 yr old girl to get in an excitable, galloping horse. What an idiot!
 
My old gran used to say, "No good deed goes unpunished". Used to think her a rather jaded old wotnot, but after reading this I think she might have a point!

What I'd like to ask, why didn't the YO get the horse in? Presumably the owner pays the YO livery, plus they are responsible for running the yard so they (or one of their staff) should have got in if the owner wasn't around when the horse was freaking out. Sounds like the YO has forgotten who owns the horse if delegating jobs to you. You've obviously been doing too much!

Let the misery guts who owns the horse arrange with the YO to fetch in and let out. Let him pay for it in future! Mind you, he won't bother will he, not when there's an 11 year old to do the job?

What'll it take for this sort of person to take responsibility... his step-neice in intensive care???

Grrrrrr... these people make my blood boil.
 
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