Nastiness in some livery yards

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Will be getting my first horse in early spring :). have chosen the livery yard (BSH approved) which looks and feels lovely. The YO said it is a friendly yard but with a few exceptions, I take this to mean that there are a few nasty/bitchy/back stabbing types of people.

I really can't be bothered with such people, I'm a lady of mature years that can't be bothered with all of the above. I'll just want to enjoy my beast, hack out, muck out and go.

How do others cope being on a gossipy, bitchy yard (and it always seems to be women!)
 
Find some people on the yard who are not nasty and bitchy and get together with them and bitch about the horrible ones, it will make you all feel better!!! LOL

Seriously though speak to everyone, you will soon work out who the bitchy ones are then you can avoid them, don't forget the most important thing is that you are doing this for enjoyment if you don't enjoy going down to this yard then you can always move. I know there are a lot of bad yard posts on here but not all livery yards are like that, I've been lucky enough to have been on some of the good ones where people help each other and don't bitch and look out for each others horses and it really makes all the diffrence between enjoying your horse and loving your hobby.

Hope it all works out for the best.
 
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Ignore it, dont get dragged into it, avoid it like the plague!!
Some people just cant help gossiping, I tend to just nod and 'yeh' and get on with what I am doing. I try to be polite and nice to everyone and take everything they say with a pinch of salt!
Thankfully not all yards are the same.
Good luck with the new horse!:)
 
there are bitches everywhere!

jsut avoid them - dont ge tinvolved but i swear we could do an episode of eastenders on the last year i was on lol!

good luck with the horse :)
 
My yard is very well known to be bitchy but to be honest I've managed to avoid it pretty much...well one child I had to take things up with because she was writing things on a forum about the yard and people, why do people not realise forums are public???? Anyway I go there, might sit and have a coffee if horses are not needing me but otherwise I'll hack out with those who are going or alone if not and I'll enjoy a chat and gossip but never join in the nastiness. I just excuse myself and get on with mucking out etc. Find it much easier to be the 'quiet' one of the yard (always makes my family laugh at the thought of that!!) and just enjoy the horses...cos frankly that's what we are there for in the first place.
 
Not all yards are bitchy. I have a small stud and my friend keeps a few with me. We have rattled along beautifully for nearly five years now with no probs whatsoever. Along came a lady of mature years, who gave us a sob story, told us she had been on about four yards in a year, all who were horrible to her and her horsey. Like a fool I took her on and the status quo has been upset and I find myself dodging her. She is loud, brash and whilst I am tolerant she is too much for me!
My advice would be to go in quietly, mind your own, be friendly and the right "sort" will gravitate to you.
Be happy!
 
it is difficult as you find it in most walks of life. as others have said just avoid those who tend to bitch or gossip.
i tend to be in my own little world and do not take much notice of things that are said nastily.
the yard i am on is fairly friendly although sometimes things are said that you just have to ignore and rise above! :)
 
Livery yards are, unfortuantely, notoriously bitchy.

I closed my yard down a few years ago as I had 3 awful bitchy liveries that drove me to the point of saying enough is enough:mad:.

This year I have re-opened and am now full with lovely people - all of whom have been driven off their previous yards by my previous (horrible) liveries (they've become well known for it);) It's ended up like a livery rehab lol,, it is the anti-livery livery yard:D.

All I would suggest is keep your head down and just don't get involved. Bitches and gossips need something to feed off - if they haven't got it, they get bored. Good luck.
 
Another word of advice is, wherever possible, stick to doing your horse and your horse only. So often things go awry when liveries start doing things for each other, then something goes wrong and everything falls apart. I'm not saying don't be helpful, but don't get drawn into being too tied to someone else and what they are doing.

I'm sure you will have a lovely time on your new yard.
 
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