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michelleice

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Was sap post to be riding at 9 with girl at my yard Ive arranged a babysitter for my 2 kids to go and got early, Ive just had text saying she cant make it as shes feeling unwell so why am i p****d off? this is about 12 time in last 2 weeks she let me down she asked me to wait till 6pm to ride then text me at 6.10pm when I'm up there waiting to ride!
my boy will ride out alone but he prefers company (allot more relaxed) she keeps letting me down again and again and when she does ride out i have to re-tack her horse
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she puts nose band over bridal pieces, does her girth on funny- 3 straps on saddle 2 buckles on girth she does 1 strap on 2 and 2ND strap on 4 (this is weird to me i may be wrong though)

She is saying she wants another horse and her is a highland and "not big enough" for her but she says she wants a school master for under £800 Ive explained most horses priced at that price come with a problem shes having enough of it! she doesn't know how far to put saddle on! she doesn't know what a sweat rug is, she didn't even know to poo pick. and i can go on and on.

Ive been helping her out sorting her horse (using my msm cream on his cut nose) letting her use my old cob stuff boots, saddle cloth, bit etc but now i get feeling I'm being taken as a mug she will text me definitely riding such and such day ill get babysitter and get up there to i cant /i fell asleep/ going swimming instead. happened to much to be real stuff now and shes managed to go clubbing every weekend. Should i just start going out myself? am i being taken for a mug? i generally sort everyone's horses if they need it when I'm up sort the occasional squint rug or resort fly fringe I'm thinking of stopping this as no one does it back if needed
 
I think personally it sounds like she needs a cross between a kick up the **** and some help! It's not on continually letting you down, I think it sounds like you've been very patient so far! As for incompetence, we've all had to learn somewhere, but most of us try to learn enough efore we have a horse of our own I think! What does she say when you point out the errors? Most concerned about the ones relating to comfort of her horse - but is poo-picking really that difficult??? I think you need a medal! I really don't mean to sound harsh - but maybe next time she suggests it - just say no thanks :-)
 
Sounds to me that you are far too nice to everyone at your yard. But you see I would be the same as i'd think that poor horse not poor owner.

I would try a bit of tuff love with your hacking out "friend" don't just "do it" but tell her why it needs to be done that way.

She could be using different grith straps to help saddle stay in place, but from what you say it just sounds like she needs educating, on how to look after her own horse.

Good luck with it
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Is there anyone else up at your yard who will hack out with you? The girl you are talking about seems to be a waste of space. You've been messed about enough by her, she seems to have gone off riding as she's making some poor excuses not to go?
Have your tack back & find someone else to ride with, this girl is too unreliable.
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yeah think you right poo picking i spent 4 hours doing my horses field (he poops every where and i left it 2 weeks) she said "oh why are you doing that" so i explained and i got back "oh im not doing it haha dirty job" when i point out the faults she goes oh yes i forgot that's how riding school taught me, from what ive gathered though shes ridden at riding school that pre tacks there horses so you can arrive ride and go.
 
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Sounds to me that you are far too nice to everyone at your yard. But you see I would be the same as i'd think that poor horse not poor owner.

I would try a bit of tuff love with your hacking out "friend" don't just "do it" but tell her why it needs to be done that way.

She could be using different grith straps to help saddle stay in place, but from what you say it just sounds like she needs educating, on how to look after her own horse.

Good luck with it
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ive had to hop on and tighten her girth after her saddle slipped round on her while we were riding, she says its what people told her to do that she loans pony from i said blankly that doing girth that loose is b*****ks and she needs to tell them to but out
 
Why are you wasting your time? Just ask her to give your stuff back and find yourself another hacking partner. If she asks why you can tell her ... if she doesn't, well, maybe she doesn't really want to ride with you and is just 'not able' to say so?
And if you are worried about the horse - let her have a copy of one of the BHS's 'idiot guides to horsemanship' as a farewell gift. Maybe she'll get the message ...
 
With all the difficulty she's having with basic management, can she at least ride? I know there are riding schools that tack up the horse for you (weird as that seems to me), but her incompetence seems to defy reason!
 
she can just pass riding on walk trot but Ive never seen her canter, she hasn't ridden at all in last month we share tack room and her tack has never moved and other livery's have said the haven't seen her up there for more than 5 Min's. say her riding is beginner stages

Her horse is happy plod so he does most of the work she scares easy (beson is quite nippy in walk/trot in bridal path) she screams for me to stop and wait as he horse wants to canter up to me to keep up (dont mind this poor things only 14.hh and trying to keep up with 16.3hh poor little legs lol)
 
I started off mainly at a RS where they tack up for you. Didn't really have the facilities for beginners to learn safely (think little Victorian(?) mews stables so either in stalls on on the road!). Tried a few other places but due to over-use of artificial aids by beginners/poor customer service/poor schooling of horses always went back.

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before I started sharing volunteered at RDA and did BHS stage 1 lectures to catch up on the care side of things.

Could you recommend to her/horse's owner that she take some stable mgmt lectures/do the BHS horse owning certificate or something?

I'd def work on getting a new hacking partner/practice going on your own with your boy though...
 
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My goodness. I'm speechless. You say it's on loan? Do the owners know how incompetent she is?

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owners are dealers who keep ponies/foal on yard so see him every day and they dont care.they find it funny was told something fishy today about said horse on loan so ill have to look into it i think
 
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