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ok so since just before christmas some wierd things started happening, first of all my feed buckets were being moved around the feed room and hidden, then if i had made up a feed the cover was being pealed back and feed taken out the middle and thrown at my rugs, next my bags of paper bedding (stored outside covered by a plastic sheet to stop them getting wet) were being uncovered daily, the bricks being romoved and everything, this went on for ages but i chose to ignore it, also certain people started ignoring me and giving me filthy looks, throwing things around and making noise at the side of the school whilst i was riding, trying to spook my horse, all of this i ignored.

Next one day i was driving home from the stables, i looked in my wing mirror and realised it had been pushed back and so had the other one, i had an idea who this was but still did nothing, it happened again so i told the yard owner saying it is pathetic im not putting up with it and something has to be done! she said she would call a meeting and say to everyone this is not acceptable, this never happened, nothing was done so tonight when i got back from a dressage comp checked my car it was fine, then about an hour later i drove out the gate and my mirrors had been done again! i was furious so i reversed into the yard and went straight to the yard owner - obviously fuming! she just kinda said oh right, u sure its not been knocked by accident...errr no, so she did nothing just walked off.

so i decided to go and say something to the only family there that has a problem with me and is childish enough to do something like that and said look is anyone going to admit it then because im not putting up with people messing with my car! i was told to piss off, i said no dont speak to me like that i want to get to the bottom of it! so then i was told to f*** off and every time i said something i was told to f*** off! so i said grow up and walked off, then i had the yard owner having a go at me for going about it the wrong way and shouting at her! i said you havent done anything about it and im not putting up with it! with that i drove off.

i am so annoyed and upset as i've been there for 3 years with no problems and since they have been there its been horrible, i dont know why they have a problem with me! i've been totally singled out.

what would you do if you were in my situation? i probably shoul dhave kept my mouth shut but im not a push over and i wont be bullied out like this.

any help or advice would be greatly appriciated.

sorry its a mega long rant
 
No advice honey sorry
Have been here before though, when my ex OH started seeing the daughter of my YO. Some strange things started happening around my stable/belongings/horse
It came to a head when my horse became head shy for no particular reason, that's when i began to ask questions
Shortly after i moved
 
yeah, move would be my first thought. surely there is somewhere suitable nearby? or at least tell your YO that you plan on moving if this carries on. they should not be in a position to run a business if they cannot take responsibility for their clients, or at least try and sort out such a ridiculous situation.
we moved last year after our horse was being moved into fields full of ragwort by other liveries, without our knowledge or the YO/yard staffs' knowledge. it gets to a point where little feuds can become dangerous, especially with people clearly as stupid as these ones you have encountered seem to be. our concern was said person who moved our horse was also known to have a /very/ short fuse (who could be very violent) and had taken it upon herself to get our horse in when the yard staff were meant to be doing it. when they are willing to damage your property then its a small step to them doing something to your horse.
 
I am like you and would not be bullied BUT if they are already messing with your horses feed you don't know what they may do. For your horses sake I'd move. AND when I'd moved all my belongings and horse THEN I WOULD TAKE MAY REVENGE.
 
that's bullying and it sounds awful
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If your YO won't stop it then just move, life is too short to waste on the ignorant xx
 
For your horse's sake, I would move. In the meantime, I would turn up at the yard at unexpected times - just to keep them on their toes and realise that you are quite aware who is responsible for this bullying behaviour. I would not confront them again. Once you have moved and are settled, I would then do something about it. Revenge is a dish best served cold
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As for the YO, she doesn't deserve to have a business if she allows this sort of behaviour to go unchecked.
 
I have been in a simuilar situatuin but they took mine one step further they used to try and spook my horse and my friends so they would run us over. It is terrible and no one should have to put up with it. My advise is to move yards if the owner/manager is not going to stick up for you. I find that the main reson for this is that people are jeleous that you are competiting getting on well with your horse or just genuinly a better rider than them, unfortunatly it is in womens nature to back stab. I did move yards and it was much better I get on with eveyone on my yard we have our ups and downs but when it comes down to it if there is a problem the owner will step in and I dont think that is happening on your yard. If you need any advise let me know keep your chin up
 
What a nightmare. I would move i think, if the YO won't do anything it will just keep making your life miserable
 
God Alex I had no idea it had got this bad - thats awful. You've got the number I gave you, he's always looking for liveries and the place is awesome, u gta get away from that place!
 
I am like you and would not want to be bullied off, but this is how I look at it: this is my hobby, if I am not happy, I will do something about it!

If this is not going to get any better and your YO is clearly not really concerned what is going on, then I would start looking for a new yard. You do not need hassle like this, you have a horse to enjoy having a horse! And for the record, people like the ones your have described never change, I can guarantee that! So don't expect it to get better, if anything it will only get worse.
 
I agree with the others. i would definitely start looking for a new yard as it doesn't look like the YO is going to do anything about it. It is your hobby and it's supposed to be enjoyable. The sad thing is that this family will problably start on another person once you've gone.
 
Your YO sounds like the one ive just left behind!
MOVE!!!!!
if YO wont back you up its a waste of time trying and your best of escaping whilst you and your horse are stil safe!
 
your livery arrangements are a BUSINESS arrangement. If you are not happy with the service you are getting, (and it sounds dreadful) then you should withdraw your custom and go elsewhere. You should't be paying out money for having a miserable time!
 
thanks guys, i am desperatly looking to get out and if she thinks i'll be giving a months notice i wont, she can recover costs from them as i have been forced out! i like the cold revenge idea
 
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unfortunatly it is in womens nature to back stab.

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only some women! some men too!
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