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I have an elderly female dog, she had an operation last year to remove a nasty cyst. Unfortunately another has grown in above where the other was removed and it's growing rapidly. Last 1 kept getting infected as she loves to roll about on the floor/grass and seems to knock it etc and this 1 is going the exact same way. So I'll probably have to make the decision depending on how this cyst goes as to wether or not she is PTS quite soon:(
Last time she came through the op it was really tough on her, she's 15 now, and I'm not sure if it would be a fair thing to have her go through again.

Anyway the bit I really need advice on is about getting a new dog.

my daughter who is 9, when I explained the facts about our current dog she of course doesn't want Tess to go but understood for the most part about why it would have to happen. She also said it would be easier to deal with if we had another dog before she went :/
Now Tess is great with other dogs, we have dogs staying here for holidays regularly so she's not a problem. I just wondered if it would be fair to bring another dog in, let it get used to having Tess as company, then take that away from him/her? Does it really help the grief if you have another dog there to focus on?
 
If I was you - as you only have one dog. I would deal with her medical problems and make a decision - when you feel you need to - to have her PTS. When that is all done and dusted, I would look for another dog.

I don't think it would be fair on a new dog, to come into a new home, and suddenly his new friend disappears, especially if it's a puppy.

At the moment, you don't know whether your dog will go on for a couple of weeks, or a few months.

Oh, and I am sorry you are having to deal with it - it's rotten when they get old.
 
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You know it's going to come at some point when they get older, but still doesn't prepare you for how hard it is :( Only had her 2 years as well, but feels likes she's been here her whole life.
 
fair play to your 9 year old. shes a sharp one.

I reckon getting a pup before the end is a much better idea than getting a replacement after the fact. its te replacing that always causes an issue, and trust me, when youve just lost a dog, the pain seems easier when you have another bundle of fluff to cry into.

I dont think the pup will be bothered with the dog going, especially as you sound like its fairly soon. puppies go through the cuddly, needy stage but soon get so hyper that they piss any adult dog off anyway so the space would be needed wether the dog came back or not. Good for you for doing the right thing though.
 
ThePinkPony said:
fair play to your 9 year old. shes a sharp one.

I reckon getting a pup before the end is a much better idea than getting a replacement after the fact. its te replacing that always causes an issue, and trust me, when youve just lost a dog, the pain seems easier when you have another bundle of fluff to cry into.

I dont think the pup will be bothered with the dog going, especially as you sound like its fairly soon. puppies go through the cuddly, needy stage but soon get so hyper that they piss any adult dog off anyway so the space would be needed wether the dog came back or not. Good for you for doing the right thing though.
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Thanks :)
yes she's a bit too sharp at times lol :)
TBH won't be thinking about a puppy, would be looking to take on a rescue dog, of course saying that, it could be a rescue puppy, but I know chances of getting a young pup are pretty slim.
I think I'll ring round a few places and see what they say also about either waiting or taking on something relatively soon.Just need to get my sensible head on to do it, currently wearing the emotional 1 right now :p
Chances are i might have a fair wait anyway in finding something that gets on well with other dogs and children plus isn't a staffy. Please don't beat me with sticks for that :) just personal preference, also wouldn't have a fair few other types of breeds, just rescue centres seem to have a lot of staffys just now. That's why I picked them out
 
I'd wait and focus on your old girl. A new dog will require attention that should go to your current dog, IMO. I'd also worry that the pup would bond with the old dog and be lost without her. One of my pups adores big dog, dunno what he'd do without him.


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cinammontoast said:
I'd wait and focus on your old girl. A new dog will require attention that should go to your current dog, IMO. I'd also worry that the pup would bond with the old dog and be lost without her. One of my pups adores big dog, dunno what he'd do without him.


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Awww such a cute pair and lovely photo :D
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That is a main worry, having them bond and then ripping that apart :/ I guess it can happen anyway with other dogs, with illness and accident but of course I'd be going into getting another dog, knowing full well what the outcome might be.
Tess is well used to having doggy visitors as I take dogs in for holidays when their owners go on their hols. so the thing about unsettling her with a new arrival, I can't see that being a problem. She's fine as a dog on her own, but she also loves having doggy friends over to stay.
 
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