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Im in two minds weather to sell or loan Arch out. Ive not being feeling myself recently and have no motivation to ride or do anything with him. I havent ridden him for the last two nights coz Ive been so tired! I had a lesson on Monday night and all I wanted to do was get off, I didnt enjoy him at all.
I love him to bits, but Im just worried Im not being fair on him.
He's 6 years old and a fantasic jumper, but Im worried Ive lost interest. Ive even been looking at loads of photos of us competeing to see if it makes me feel any better, but I feel nothing when I look at them and have not desire to jump anymore!
Ive advertised for a sharer so I can have a few days off a week and they can even compete, but Ive had no interest.
Please help me, I feel really bad on Arch.
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You sound to me like you're exhausted! Have you given yourself a break recently? how about deciding to give him and you a 2 week holiday and see how you feel after that? 2 weeks isn't going to hurt him and it will give you a chance to see how you really feel.

Don't put so much pressure on yourself about it - everyone needs a break occasionally!
 
Without sounding too personal have you considered visting the doctors to explain how you feel?
You could be suffering from depression as it is something I suffer from quite badly from time to time.
There are times when I feel so happy that I feel invincible and so in love with the world and others where I just want to put a noose over my head and hang over the nearest bridge ( not brave enough though).
When I get the low feelings they get really bad and I feel like I have a black cloud hanging over me.
I get emotionless looking back at what were happy events. Even watching fave programmes or films, jokes etc do not move me emotionally as they had done.
I have been diagnosed with depression in the past and suffered two major nervous breakdowns. Both times needing counselling and medication.
I could be wrong but from the feelings you are describing you seem depressed.
I'm sorry if I am being a bit ignorant here as I cannot remember everyones posts on here but have you had any major changes or upsets recently as that that bring about depression.
Seriously though I would not give up on your horse. He won't feel bad that he is not being ridden.
I would book an appointment at the docs and tell them how you feel.
Having counselling and or medication is not being defeatest or showing you are weak.
Sometimes we all need a little bit of extra help.
I'm not saying medication are wonderdrugs but there can be inbalances in the brain that can cause depression and there are drugs that can restore those inbalances. I haven't got time to describe in detail as I need to go to work in a moment.
But all I can say is to seek professional medical help first and foremost to rule out anything medically that may be causing you to feel low and to get help and advice from people that are medically trained to do so, ie doctors and CPN's.
I sincerely wish you well x
best wishes
Cazx
 
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You sound to me like you're exhausted! Have you given yourself a break recently? how about deciding to give him and you a 2 week holiday and see how you feel after that? 2 weeks isn't going to hurt him and it will give you a chance to see how you really feel.

Don't put so much pressure on yourself about it - everyone needs a break occasionally!

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I think you may be right, Ive had alot going on recently and some troubles at work and I think it may have all caught up with me. Im off work tomorrow for a nice long weekend, so Ill try and catch up on some Zzzzz them!
Good idea about having some time off though, I was contemplating sending him away for a month, but Id miss him too much!
 

Cazee34 - Thank you very much for your advise. I do already suffer from depression and was diagnosed about 3/4 years ago. Im on medication, but maybe it needs changing. I did think about going to the docs, but its not easy with work, they arent always very understanding! Im off tomorrow, so I may try and get an appointment then. I just dont feel Im being fair on Arch, he's only young and wont understand.
 
Take time out for yourself! Arch won't mind having a holiday for a few weeks and not being ridden, you could jsut soend some time with him without feeling you should be riding
, hope you feel better soon *hugs* don't sell him you will regret it
 
O hun, as you say you have had loads on your plate at the mo, and even though you feel you have coped well you may not have.

I close friend of mine moved house, changed jobs and a couple of other smaller things happened all withing 2 months and it knocked her for 6 emotionally. She was diagnosed with depression and after some time off work and time to gather herself together (with help from tablets too) she is getting there but she has good and bad days. You may have just been overloaded and need some time out!

PS - if you need a hand with Arch, just shout, even if its mucking out etc (although I know how good the girls are at your yard) but just remember Im here to help if you need it!
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Stop beating yourself up! You sound whacked, give yourself a break it won't hurt him to have a couple of weeks off.

I think the weather is starting to get everybody down, people are starting to think about how expensive this winter will be and like somebody suggested you could be a bit depressed.

The other thing I'd say is would Archie winter out if well rugged? Many people are going to have plenty of grass but no effing hay or bedding so you could start thinking about roughing him off now really.
 
If only you were a bit closer to me I'd love to help you.

In my opinion I think you should loan/share him otherwise if you sold him you might feel worse if you can't see him.
Good luck
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Whatever you do, DON'T sell him now, I think, when you are feeling better, you may well regret it.
I agree, it sounds as if you are depressed and maybe your medication needs tweaking, or maybe you just need some of the stresses remved and have a break from things for a while.
Let us know how you get on.
Take care,
 
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