irishdraft
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I don't blame you, why would you want to, specially with a 5 year old, it can be so easy to put them off with the wrong pony.
Need some perspective on this share situation please
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poiuytrewq
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A RS pony we borrowed when my daughter was tiny did the same. The biggest leap in the air spook I’ve ever seen.
It was a snake and on getting home he did appear to have been bitten on this fetlock
That sort of thing is the ONLY acceptable excuse imo
Don’t risk it especially not as your paying
It was a snake and on getting home he did appear to have been bitten on this fetlock
That sort of thing is the ONLY acceptable excuse imo
Don’t risk it especially not as your paying
Pinkvboots
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Have you tried preloved often see people looking for sharers on there.
Or see if your local area has a horse riders page.
Or see if your local area has a horse riders page.
Gloi
Too little time, too much to read.
Start going to the local branch of the pony club. You could well find a private share there for a lot less money and meet other parents and children.
maya2008
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Definitely wanted ad - in your local ‘normal’ Fb groups, not just the horsey ones. Or do what my neighbour did and politely accost the family out riding who always seem to be leading a spare pony!
ROMANY 1959
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Right, sorry this happened to you. Talk to them again and say you plan on going through their insurance for your injury
Was it first time you had been with the pony? If so someone should have been supervising.
I would imagine a mention of insurance claim would endure a refund. Can only try.
Also when I was a superviser on a RS. We did pony club for the children who did not have own pony. We would do care evenings, tack care evenings work towards PC badges and on a rota the children would have 30 min lessons during the 2 hour session. We taught to muck out, groom catch and lead into yard, tack up etc. all according to age. We would have 2 evenings a week. Grouped to ages 5/9 10/16
Was it first time you had been with the pony? If so someone should have been supervising.
I would imagine a mention of insurance claim would endure a refund. Can only try.
Also when I was a superviser on a RS. We did pony club for the children who did not have own pony. We would do care evenings, tack care evenings work towards PC badges and on a rota the children would have 30 min lessons during the 2 hour session. We taught to muck out, groom catch and lead into yard, tack up etc. all according to age. We would have 2 evenings a week. Grouped to ages 5/9 10/16
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Irish-Only
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Tbh, no matter how fed up the pony is that behaviour is completely unacceptable for a very small child’s pony.
Definitely cancel the contract
Poor you and your little girl
Annagain
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I totally understand you not wanting anything more to do with this pony and agree with your decision not to continue with him. You say the riding school has offered you use of another pony. Is this long term or just a short term measure? Would it be worth seeing this other pony if there's very little else on offer in the area? If you've lost faith in the riding school though, I can understand that too.
94lunagem
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I can totally understand why you are shaken up.
Even if this pony never puts a foot wrong again, you will always have it at the back of your mind and wondering what it is about to do. Your daughter is still very little, there is plenty of time for her to enjoy ponies and you don't want this one to put her off forever. And £300 a month is a lot of money.
I'd give notice on the arrangement ASAP and look for something more suitable.
Even if this pony never puts a foot wrong again, you will always have it at the back of your mind and wondering what it is about to do. Your daughter is still very little, there is plenty of time for her to enjoy ponies and you don't want this one to put her off forever. And £300 a month is a lot of money.
I'd give notice on the arrangement ASAP and look for something more suitable.
eahotson
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To be honest even if she had been hanging on a bit, or kicking a bit, an experienced pony suitable for a small novice child should not behave like that.
meandmyself
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Thank you all - I've been blaming myself for it and risking my daughter but reading these posts has really helped me.
Parrotperson
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having spent quite a while teaching in a riding school that mostly catered for young kids here's a few thoughts
The pony sounds very sour to me. Fed up with riding school life. He may have already worked hard the day you arrived to ride him. Or he may have been having lovely time in the field and was cross you disturbed him! Ponies are interesting
I wouldn't be carrying on with that pony. Apart from anything else your daughter will be fearful of it and it won't improve her confidence at all
If they've offered another pony to try then there's no harm in it but I suggest you ask one of the instructors to give your daughter a lesson on the "new" pony on her own before you make any decisions.
The other thing I'd just say is (please don't take offence!) but you have to be careful with young kids when they fall off otherwise you can do as much denting of confidence as the pony. If you ride you fall off. I used to tell my kids "it'll make you a better rider" Pretty sure some of them threw themselves off at times just to prove a point
So not too much fuss when it happens. Obviously make sure they're ok then back to basics. Get back on (only if the fall hasn't been caused by a stroppy pony!) even if only for a walk round. Plenty of praise here. I've seen too many parents making too much of a fuss and then the child won't go near the pony. I had one mum calling an ambulance as I was picking (perfectly happy!) child up and popping it back on the pony. Mum was screaming the whole time! That's extreme but it does happen.
Obviously this was horrible and the pony was extremely naughty and I'm very sorry you were badly injured. The next time she gets on a pony you're probably going to be nervous (and who can blame you!) but you'll have to be very matter of fact about it.
As to £300pm I guess if you ride every day it's £10 per day. But it is excessive. Contact your local pony clubs who may know of a pony you can part loan.
And don't be put off. There's also a lot of good ponies out there. You'll find one. Good luck.
The pony sounds very sour to me. Fed up with riding school life. He may have already worked hard the day you arrived to ride him. Or he may have been having lovely time in the field and was cross you disturbed him! Ponies are interesting
I wouldn't be carrying on with that pony. Apart from anything else your daughter will be fearful of it and it won't improve her confidence at all
If they've offered another pony to try then there's no harm in it but I suggest you ask one of the instructors to give your daughter a lesson on the "new" pony on her own before you make any decisions.
The other thing I'd just say is (please don't take offence!) but you have to be careful with young kids when they fall off otherwise you can do as much denting of confidence as the pony. If you ride you fall off. I used to tell my kids "it'll make you a better rider" Pretty sure some of them threw themselves off at times just to prove a point
So not too much fuss when it happens. Obviously make sure they're ok then back to basics. Get back on (only if the fall hasn't been caused by a stroppy pony!) even if only for a walk round. Plenty of praise here. I've seen too many parents making too much of a fuss and then the child won't go near the pony. I had one mum calling an ambulance as I was picking (perfectly happy!) child up and popping it back on the pony. Mum was screaming the whole time! That's extreme but it does happen.
Obviously this was horrible and the pony was extremely naughty and I'm very sorry you were badly injured. The next time she gets on a pony you're probably going to be nervous (and who can blame you!) but you'll have to be very matter of fact about it.
As to £300pm I guess if you ride every day it's £10 per day. But it is excessive. Contact your local pony clubs who may know of a pony you can part loan.
And don't be put off. There's also a lot of good ponies out there. You'll find one. Good luck.
MissTyc
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£300/month!!
You're welcome to my 14.2hh cob for your daughter lol. More seriously, I'd expect any pony loaned out to a small child to take that responsibility very seriously, even if they have a sharp engine with bigger riders. Yes ANY horse can spook, etc. But to tear away from a leader to the extent of breaking their hand is a whole other level of spook.
You're welcome to my 14.2hh cob for your daughter lol. More seriously, I'd expect any pony loaned out to a small child to take that responsibility very seriously, even if they have a sharp engine with bigger riders. Yes ANY horse can spook, etc. But to tear away from a leader to the extent of breaking their hand is a whole other level of spook.
Pinkvboots
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For £300 month they can have a horse each at mine and I would happily do them lunch on their days
exracehorse
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With a broken hand you won’t be able to drive. Tack up etc. So perfectly acceptable to cancel the agreement. Had he been ridden already that day and was perhaps saying …. No
Backtoblack
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Send it back the pony is unsuitable for a small child
magicmoments
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Too be fair if I was paying £300/month I wouldn't want it ridden by anyone else on my days, but I don't think they were allowed to come before 2pm, so I think you're right.
meandmyself
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Honestly my daughter is far less bothered than I am!
I think the best thing to do is ask for the money to be put towards lessons instead.
I think the best thing to do is ask for the money to be put towards lessons instead.
Parrotperson
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well that's very good news! Bless her heart I hope she gets on ok in the future.
tristars
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i could put your daughter on my stallion and be sure she would be safe, so that is right out of order, and i would bet its not the first time he`s done that!
dirty trick there
hope you feel better soon
dirty trick there
hope you feel better soon
Spirit7
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You said he was grumpy coming in? Is he used to being bought in alone while other are out? Could just be a combination of picking up nervous vibes (not saying you were but IF Zhou were pony would know and doesn’t know you) and spring grass….
Breather
Member
Good comment, but bear in mind that a pony's or horse's behaviour is generally a reflection of the way they're being handled or ridden in that moment.Tbh, no matter how fed up the pony is that behaviour is completely unacceptable for a very small child’s pony.
Definitely cancel the contract
Poor you and your little girl
Breather
Member
I'm blaming the professionals at the riding school; not the pony, the handler or the rider.
When I say 'professionals', I really mean the responsible individual, the head honcho/yard manager, I.e. whomever the buck stops with.
Fransurrey
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Perhaps I've missed it, but have you been asked to complete an accident form? This is legally required if I'm not mistaken?
Sounds like you're leaning this way, anyway, but yes, I would get a full refund on the basis that you have a broken hand and cannot handle ponies anyway. I would pursue the official volunteer role at your usual riding school. That sounds like a much better deal for both of you.
ETA: as for the pony's behaviour - could be absolutely anything, unfortunately. Sourness at being used in the pony day, Spring grass, first insect bite of the Spring in a tender area, hurt himself in the field or stable...anything!
Sounds like you're leaning this way, anyway, but yes, I would get a full refund on the basis that you have a broken hand and cannot handle ponies anyway. I would pursue the official volunteer role at your usual riding school. That sounds like a much better deal for both of you.
ETA: as for the pony's behaviour - could be absolutely anything, unfortunately. Sourness at being used in the pony day, Spring grass, first insect bite of the Spring in a tender area, hurt himself in the field or stable...anything!
twiggy2
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Do your riding school do own a pony days that you can accompany your daughter on?
I qould stick to lessons qhilst your habd heals and possibly put notoces up at tack shops, faceache groups and local yards looking for a pony to spend some time with once a week, to groom and fuss and take your daughter on a little lead rein walk.
I wouldnt want to be forking out £300 a month for a 5yr old to play with a pony once a qeek but to be honest at a good friendly DIY yard there may be other kids to play with too.
I qould stick to lessons qhilst your habd heals and possibly put notoces up at tack shops, faceache groups and local yards looking for a pony to spend some time with once a week, to groom and fuss and take your daughter on a little lead rein walk.
I wouldnt want to be forking out £300 a month for a 5yr old to play with a pony once a qeek but to be honest at a good friendly DIY yard there may be other kids to play with too.
Nasicus
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Slight sidebar, but you said he managed to break your hand as he pulled away. I'm sure you weren't doing so, but just in case you were (or anyone else who happens to find this thread does), please never wrap the lead rope around your hand, even loosely in a large loop, for this exact reason.
Here's some examples:
www.novicehorseman.com
Here's some examples:
Novicehorseman.com » Tips
meandmyself
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I didn't and never wrap the lead around my hand.
I've rang them a couple of times today with no answer so have left a voice message saying I want to cancel the loan and get my money back.
I've rang them a couple of times today with no answer so have left a voice message saying I want to cancel the loan and get my money back.
meandmyself
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Still nothing back.
I'm frustrated with their lack of interest or response. Honestly thinking at this point I'm going to have to get someone to drive me there so I can speak to them in person.
I'm frustrated with their lack of interest or response. Honestly thinking at this point I'm going to have to get someone to drive me there so I can speak to them in person.