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My horse died in January in a freak accident. Dont know exactly what happened but i found her in the middle of little pond on our farm. I'm completely devastated. I had her nearly 9 years and she was my life.
We cordoned the lake off so no other horses could go in it (its not actually a lake its just a small dip that fill with water in the winter and with all the bad weather it just filled more than usual an iced over)
Iv had a call today to say one of the know it all's on the farm has been down bad mouthing what happened. Saying it should never have been cordoned of Im milking it (my horse is dead for gods sake!!) and if a horse died somewhere else in the field would that have to be blocked off too?? She said other stuff but i didnt get passed what iv already mentioned as im that angry. Im ready to go down there now and cause hell but i know it wont help anything. Im going to go to my YO tomorrow and have a word before i see her see if my YO would rather pull her than me (probably wise as im too angry to just speak about it)

Im so upset over it all as most have been so god to me when lila died. My heart is broken over it all.
I do have a new horse who is amazing i love him to bits but this has got to me so bad
 
first off, I am incredibly sorry to hear about your wonderful Mare. I cannot imagine how hard that must of been.

However, this situation is one of those ignore the nasty person type ones. This person for whatever reason (probably insecurity somewhere on their part) feels the need to make silly hurtful comments. This person does this for a reason.. If you ignore them and do not let someone else who is not a dear friend or relative get to you, you have allowed this person to hurt you. You need to ignore them and do the best for youself...Because you know, life is so short to allow a nobody to make you feel like sh7t.

Feel sad for your Mare but that's it. Just enjoy the horse you have now.xxx
 
Sounds like your being good and rational about it. Going and having it out with this person wouldn't help, and seeing the YO is the right thing to do.

I'm sorry to hear about your horse, and it does sound like a freak accident, but I would agree that its worth fencing off the lake. If for no other reason than preventing a freak accident. Horses and "open water" don't go well. We have a bit of a lake in one of our fields too, and someone's horse got stuck in the boggy bit round the edge and had to be winched out by the firebrigade. that's now fenced off too.
 
So sorry about your horse, it sounds sensible to close an area where there was a serious accident off.
Try not to react so strongly, as this is by word of mouth it would probably be best for you to first of all try to calm down a bit, she didn't lose her horse and maybe she doesn't have the empathy she should for other peoples losses.
Secondly, as you say, go and speak sensibly and calmly with the YO and then maybe you can get to the bottom of what was said, and why she said it, using the YO as mediator. Hopefully you can come to a calm solution, she needs to recognise the distress she is causing saying such things, even if she is not a friend of yours, a truce must be made.
as i said I am really sorry for your loss and hope this is sorted out soon and you can talk to her calmly and explain how deeply this talk hurts you.
Best of luck.
 
:( Really sorry, that is an awful thing to happen, and now some unfeeling ******* is mouthing off, we are all different and handle things in our own way depending on the situation, so it would be easy for me to say go and confront them and have it out, but probably best as others have said to speak to the yard owner "first".
 
You ok hunny? Who is she? Will come with you to give her a smack if you like. Tell her shes chatting s**t if she had a clue about horses she would know why that bit has been blocked off. On a lighter note your boy looked fab today, you really suit him!

Dont let her get you down, you know what your doing she obviously doesnt, feel sorry for her horse
 
Thanks everyone. Its so hard lila was so special she ment everything to me. cant believe she could say what she has been

Thanks 4faults, Hes going really well. Shes very jealous of me and JJ to the point were she rode with me few weeks back and coz he was going well she just kept stopping on the track on purpose trying to put us of. As soon as i came out of the paddock (to get away from them) she came out and didnt like it when i went straight back in to carry on when she finished. Shes a jealous cow with nothing beter to do with her time. Just coz she cant handle her horse really not my fault
 
I think I remember your posting about this at the time (?). I can't imagine how awful it must have been for you and now to have it all dragged up must be dreadful.

I have found myself in positions like this before, in all walks of life, and I found that people who do this sort of thing are generally not brave enough to say it to your face or in front of anyone else, so if you do get to the point of confronting her, my tactic would be to have a third party there, and calmly ask her what she has been saying and why (repeat what you have been told if necessary), and then you can set the record straight, with a witness. My bet is that this person will either crumble or deny. Either way you have shown that you will not tolerate being bad mouthed. Perhaps your YO could be the third party if you have discussed it with them first.

Sorry I can't be of any real help to you, and am again sorry for your sad loss. Take care x
 
Thanks angelbones.
Im gunna try get one of the people who were there to stand with me so she cant deny it. She's childish and immature. Iv now calmed down and im gunna try face her 2morrow. But she is the type of person to try make a joke out of it which will wind me up even more. My horse was not a joke she was my best friend
 
Who is this girl hun pm me dont know if I know her. She sounds like an idiot, concentrate on your beautiful boy and have a word with YO incase she decides to as well and make it look like your fault. Everyone who knew Lila knew how special she was, she loved you to bits and had a greta life with you. Dont let the spiteful c*w ruin your time at the yard with JJ.
 
Her names claire hun dont think you will know her.
Thanks iv decided (as you prob seen on facebook) im gunna get out on J win like i know we can and laugh in her face. She nothing compared to us never will be dont know why i let it get to me but losing lila is stil very raw. Gunna have to make an album on here so everyone can see how beautiful she was and still is. xx Come see us soon xx
 
Thats definetly the best attitude to have. Your boy will be kicking arse when you take him out. Let the petty c*w carry on you know your better than her. I will do, you will have to let me know when your taking him out xx
 
Thanks hun.

Ok will let you know. Were not really allowed out untill the strangles calms down (not on our yard) so will keep u updated. Come down the yard though. You can get on and tell me what you think :)
 
Look Love, just remember what goes around, comes around and her bad mouthing will come back and bite her in her arse big time, just let it ride over you if you can and enjoy your new horse, which LILA will be looking over for you:):):):):):):)
 
That would be nice not seen you for time lol. Your gonna have to come see the neds too. I know the strangles is doing my head in scared to move off the yard xx
 
Hi,

Don't waste time and energy on things that you don't have any control over. Concentrate on your own horse and let your achievements do the talking.

Good Luck :)
 
Shouldn't this woman be thanking you for pushing to have a known hazard fenced of after such a tragedy. Sounds like she is a joke and not worth your anger.

I am really sorry to hear about Lila - she obviously touched your life in a special way, I agree with johnrobert - she is probably watching over you and your new boy :D
 
jenhunt said:
Sounds like your being good and rational about it. Going and having it out with this person wouldn't help, and seeing the YO is the right thing to do.
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Totally second this. I am so sorry to hear about your horse, must have been devastating.
You need to keep your head held high and ignore this imbecile, why people have to be so unkind I will never know, its pathetic.
 
My first thoughts when reading this post was i would go have it out with her and how dare she say such things. Most people would be sorry for your sad loss but I suppose she has shown her true colours and what an idiot she really is. I agree it would probably be more sensible to ask the yard owner to deal with her and make it known this sort of trouble causing and hurtful comments will not be tolerated. I am sure others will see her for what she really is and wouldn't scrape her off their shoes.
 
Well hun if i was on your yard and someone came to me saying what she had said i would just think what a silly silly women and it just shows she cant be liked for someone to have come and told you what she has said ... I would be thankful that someone would have the common sense to cordon off a dangerous area .. lightening can strike twice, why leave the ground open to it!

So sorry for you and your mare and good luck with JJ XXX
 
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