Nervous cat

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So we’ve had our new girl for 10 days, history is first 10 months she was in an 11th floor tower block with mum, dad and her two sisters.

Dad sadly jumped out of the window and obv didn’t survive and I think then owners decided they couldn’t cope so contacted rescue.

Don’t know what it was like in flat but it’s obvious our girl has had no human interaction.

Next two months were in a cattery with her mum and sisters. All very nervous and although had some socialisation it wasn’t loads.

First four days with us were spent hiding in various spots but would come out v late at night to eat, toilet and investigate. Did play with toys (well they’d moved around) and chewed catnip toy.

Since then she’s hidden in the day, under bed. We haven’t bothered her when she’s under there but do talk to her if we are in room.

She will come out at night, gradually been getting earlier and now shows herself about 7pm. Very cautious but loves being chatted to and there’s a huge side of her that so wants to interact.

When we eat our tea we put treats on a plate and call her, after 5 minutes she’ll come down and eat these and slowly we are moving plate nearer to us.

Last three evenings she’s played with a fishing toy, held by husband and she loves it.

She will now in evening lie on landing and doesn’t run if she see’s us, we just chat away to her.

We’ve got Feliway optimum plugged in, one in bedroom and one downstairs.

Next step is getting her out in daytime, house is quiet day and night and we don’t have visitors. Plus we are very routine orientated.

Any tips on how to encourage her out in day?

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I was about to suggest lik-e-lix. Its what I used to tame the ferals. Building up to you holding it, then you holding it while you fuss them. You will get there. In the beginning it feels like progress is glacial, but they tend to take a big jump forward once you get to the stroking them stage
 

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Our last cat was nervous but he’d been in a foster home and he knew what humans were

She is so different and even though I’m a vet nurse, I’ve never tried to tame a cat in a home situation

The good things are she is curious, she loves food and she’s not frightened of human voices

And there are chinks of real positives

I think she’s not hiding under the bed scared, it’s just her safe spot now and she’s settled under there

We absolutely are letting do things at her pace and she can take herself away at anytime and re settle herself x
 

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I would just take it very slowly and eventually, rather than actively keeping her in (which I would be doing currently), let her wander out through an open door, when you are around.
 

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I would just take it very slowly and eventually, rather than actively keeping her in (which I would be doing currently), let her wander out through an open door, when you are around.
I'd be a bit worried about letting her go into the outside world at the moment. There might be something (loud noise/swooping bird/an unknown person unexpectedly arriving) which would freak her out and she'd disappear again.
When I decided to let Rodriguez Catto out for a very short while, I kept a close eye on him and had high-value treats to reward him when I called him back in. He's allowed out for a maximum of twenty minutes now and very small pieces of cheese to reward him when he returns. He's still supervised, though.
 

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One of our older cats we couldn't touch for a long time and I used to just sit with her while she ate, and worked my way up to stroking her. Still took several years for her to sit on our laps but she can't be removed from them now without dire threats (from her to us, naturally!). Our new kitten (dumped in our field) was very frightened of anything new when we first got him although we could handle him. Anything he didn't like he'd hide. He'd go several weeks not seeming to make any progress and then would suddenly decide something was ok - so interacting with me and my coming and going from the office (his room), then the corridor, then the hall, other family members etc etc. First time outside was a military operation of blocking the passage in case he panicked (and waiting till it was warm enough to leave the door open!) and then he just wouldn't go outside! Just sat and looked at it through an open door, having been sitting and looking at it through the glass for weeks. Now he's out all the blooming time. He's still terrified of new people though. I don't mind that so much - at least no one will be able to nick him. I think if they just have options to get to a safe place they will work things out in their own time.
 

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I'd be a bit worried about letting her go into the outside world at the moment. There might be something (loud noise/swooping bird/an unknown person unexpectedly arriving) which would freak her out and she'd disappear again.
When I decided to let Rodriguez Catto out for a very short while, I kept a close eye on him and had high-value treats to reward him when I called him back in. He's allowed out for a maximum of twenty minutes now and very small pieces of cheese to reward him when he returns. He's still supervised, though.
She won’t be going out anytime in the near future as until we can 110% trust that she’s confident in all situations we can’t risk it
 

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10 days is no time at all! It sounds as though you’re doing everything right with her, I’d maybe add in a pheromone or catnip spray and use it on door frames and the corners of furniture, to spread friendly cat scent around a bit more. Time and patience, and she’ll settle in.
 

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So she’d obviously read this because last night was the most she stayed out in evening. She’s very much twigged that we relate to food!

And today she was out at 3.30pm!!! Had some food, had a play. Now doesn’t immediately run if you walk near her, does hiss but we just carry on chatting to her.

Will come over and sniff your hand xxx

Now we’ve seen her personality more, she’s officially been named Minnie the Minx
 

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It sounds like you’re doing everything right. It took a few months for me to be allowed to touch The Fluff but she purred immediately when I did. My family aren’t convinced she exists as she bombs out the cat flap if anyone comes in the house 😂 but she is very sweet with me.

I spent a lot of hours sitting on the floor playing with them and not putting any pressure on. The Fluff loves creamy sticks too. 😁
 

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She’s quickly learning what toys are, loves her fishing toy and will play for a good 10 mins but then will get a bit overwhelmed and take herself away which is absolutely fine

She’s learning that people moving around isn’t as scary as she believes and that she always has an escape route and that if she decides to not run she doesn’t need to hiss 🤣

She’s now using her tray for weeing, pooing is a bit more hit and miss but she’s always going near her tray (which is always kept immaculately clean) and hopefully she’ll twig that soon. I’d rather she missed poo wise than wee, if I had a choice lol
 
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