New horse - perhaps not right - sorry a long one

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I have posted before regarding a young horse for my teenage daughter comiming off ponies. A 5 YO ex racing TB. We had several problems with her not going forwarsd, possibly due to ill fiutting saddle, bitting and bruised sides (from spurs).

Daughter worked hard and got her through it untill she was just being a normal youngster, she had a break during GCSE's then started working hard again, then horse skinned a leg on the fence and had to have 6 weeks off and is starting to be worked again. Due to my work hours (I wont alow her to hack alone on a youngster) and her injury she hadnt been out for ages, went out on wed with me and my pony and she was an absolute terror, bouncing up road, jogging etc, got her onto a fied out of the traffic jam we caused and daughter got off (too scared) and couldnt even lead her - trotting round her in circles, jumping rearing kicking and sqealing. I took over and she got away from me, she went round field (in fast canter) a few times, kept coming back and seemed to be inviting my horse to 'come and play', then she came back as if to say I am done now. Contiued to circle round me and trot on the spot until we reached the lane leading to our house and then she clicked into normal mode and was fine.

Had a heart to heart afterwards and daughter said she was scared witless and thinks she has bitten more off than she can chew. The horse seemed like clockwork when we trialed her, but she was being proff schooled every day. Daughter is worried when she is back at 6th form in Sept and perhaps gets a part time job she will not have time to even keep her at her current level.

She is devastated but thinks now that pehaps we should sell and finds something a bit older. I will suport her in whatever she decides - what do you guys think. She has worked so hard and adores the horse, who actualy is very nice to handle for a young TB. I think we were perhaps a little naive. I have a friend who may be interested in her but I dread selling her, not just because I am so fond of her but because she has been quite a handfull I would have to be honest, then I would probably not get a lot of money for her and she may go to the wrong sort of people and I would worry about her ending up in the downward spiral that so many other ex racing TB's fall into.

She is absolutely gorgeous to look at and has a fabulous pedigree. Daughter was supposed to be doing her first RC dressage on her this sunday and was realy looking forwards to it, however after the 'hacking incident' she and is worried she may act in the same way - do I persuade her to go or leave it - aghhhh, any advice greatly appreciated
 
I think you would be foolish to keep her, if you daughter has lost her confidence things will only get worse. Can you send her back to a pro yard for some schooling to sell?
 
You have my sympathies... I too have a 5yo ex-racer who has been a nightmare, though we've turned the corner now!

If it was me in your situation I'd sell up asap before your daughters confidence is knocked further and get something that has already done the PC/RC circuit and is older.
If you are completely honest about your 5yo and don't expect to get a fortune for her then I'm sure you'll find the right home for her. Perhaps the project horses website?
 
If the worst comes to the worst you could put her on the project horse web site. You can put all her quirks and foibles down without worrying about what people will think - that's the whole point of the site. Good luck in whatever you decide!

ETS oops crossed posts with Bounty about Project horse!
 
Sounds like the sort of horse that can't be dropped and picked up every now and again - and will only be settled in full work.

Sell it to someone who has the time to give it the work it needs, and get something more flexible for your daughter.
 
I would think it was time to sell on. If your daughter has lost confidence then things are likely to get worse rather than better. As she is going back to school I would think she would be better with something with a bit more experience that she can have some fun with, rather than a horse which is going to need a lot of time and effort to get right.
 
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Confidence is a funny thing..... and after loosing mine many times and having to pick myself back up and soldier on I am not even going to try and advise....... you could try posting her on the ex-racers forum.

good luck with what ever you decide
 
Ex racers are not ones to not work everyday! Sadly selling her maybe your best option. Shame to miss the dressage tho!
 
Like many ex-racehorses this horse needs serious exercising each and every day.

I would sell her before you or your daughter has a serious accident and loose your confidence.
 
sounds like shes being a typical TB ex racer! i agree with everyone else if its going to shatter daughters confindence -sell. my ex racer can still be a nightmare and shes 12! but over the years she has excepted she is a working pet as such and not a racer and a change of feed & calmers helped. but it can sometimes be a long road, settling ex racers into a new career.
 
I agree with everyone else. I think you should sell the horse before your daughter either gets hurt or completely loses her nerve. Ex-racers need consistent work. However, most of us can't guarantee we can ride every day, so in your situation I would definitely sell and get something older and quieter that your daughter can get out and about with and enjoy - best of all, you won't have to worry too much!
 
I used to work and ride race horses and they are not really my cup of tea ( sorry everyone) just due to their highly strung characters at times...I used to lead them in a chifney and even at times I was nervous...Im quite athletic and strong but even I had problems with the horses rearing and trying to bolt during trot ups...
A 5 yr old no matter what bred would be pretty bouncy and not the best confidence giver, they are mostly looking for confidence from you....maybe something older would be better just as it would much more chilled out and would hopefully be able to give your daughter more confidence again. Maybe a welsh x throughbred....
It sounds like you have done really well so far as a 5 yr old thoroughbred is alot to take on and keep under control when throwing itself around...
I spose the only other option is sending the horse away for schooling and your daughter going for regular lessons on the horse to get used to her and build their confidence together....
Your daughter would need to be very sure of her riding tthough and to be honest it sounds like this horse is making her judge herself so prob best selling on and going for something a bit more mature and easy going..
good luck with it...
 
i agree with all the others. You may have read my posts over the last couple of weeks and i was in the same boat - had nice little horse on a months loan with a view to buy - i had her i kept her 5 days! she was not going to be the one for me - too stressy - i would have lost my confidence very soon - so i swallowed my pride and sent her back - i am now in the position of looking again and will be very choosy this time and have learnt a valuble lesson. Your daughter seems to have made up her mind - i bet if you ask her to ride agin she will say 'no' and then youll have your answer! Good Luck with any decision you make x
 
maybe time to move on . i hae an ex racer who is very sharp and needs riding every day . he is my boy and id never part with him but i do have to work hard to keep on top of him. and please ThaéanAlice dont call them typical tb ex racers their not all the same!
 
I wasn't going to comment but mmmm..... no Ex racer is ever the same. my two are intermittently ridden ( ie they will have a week off and I will get on and hack out - they are fine.

she does sound rather full of the joys of being out......pehaps lunging and taking the edge off for next time.... if there ever is a next time, and avoid that field too as that is an open expanse, just begging to be galloped!
 
I think it is probably the horse rather than the ex racer. I've had 2 of them and they have both been complete dopes and you could trust any one on them as they were so quiet. She just sounds a bit sharp and your Daughter will probably have a lot more fun on something else.
 
Our 'easy to do in every way' 5 year old turned into 'psycho horse' - he was definately too much for my 14 year old daughter. Sharp, nasty and arrogant - his rearing terrified her. We decided within a week that he had to go back - even moving him to a very experienced yard showed very little change in his behaviour and if we had persevered with him I'm sure she would have lost all confidence, if not been seriously hurt. Our new boy is still a 5 year old but as different in personality as chalk is from cheese - he is a poppet. Don't be afraid to admit that it's not the right horse for you and she would be better moved on - hard though this is. good luck!
 
Absolutely nothing wrong with coming to the decision that a horse and rider don't suit. It will have happened to many people, it's happened to me and I don't mind admitting that. The best thing is to find a new home for the horse and begin again before anyone, horse and/or human, gets hurt.

In my opinion it takes a brave person to admit that they don't feel happy anymore, rather than just soldiering on and being scared. Horses are an expensive past-time and time with them should be enjoyed.

Good Luck, I am sure that you will find a home for her and a horse that your daughter feels happier with.
 
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