New livery but need to tell her she cant come

If she did not tell you her name or name of the horse how did you manage to find out who she is?

People do change and without hearing her side of the story it is hard to make a balanced judgement unless you know the people who told you about the moonlight flits very well. Rather than saying you just don't want her to come why don't you make it more difficult to come so she changes her mind.

Explain to her that due to having a bad experience in the past where someone has done a moonlight flit all new liveries now need to pay livery in advance and that if she gets in arrears that she will need to leave immediately. Ask for a references from her last yard or instructor or vet or another professional person who would not want to put their reputation at risk by recomending someone unsuitable and also for a months deposit plus a months livery in advance.
 
When I went to visit the yard I'm at now, I suppose I was cagey. I wouldn't say were I was stabled and didn't want to say too much about who I was etc, as I had 2 horses to move and one was technically lame - we didn't know if he was going to be sound after a suspensory injury. We hadn't started riding him, so it was a really difficult time for us.

If the owner of the yard had found out I was looking for a new yard, she would have given me a weeks notice, so I would have been in a right mess.
 
I would find out more, to be honest. If she's a serial flitter, then why has she taken the trouble to give notice at her current yard? Knowing how the gossip circuit works in the horse world, there could be a whole different side to this. When I was looking for yards a few years ago, I didn't give my name until signing the contract, I don't think. Just my first name for phone number purposes!

Thinking about it, when I first ventured into horse ownership, they only knew my first name until I was on the yard! It was a rush job, though (homeless pony, which I took on as an emergency favour!).
 
Ummm personally i would give her the benefit of the doubt, firstly i would say you have to have a month up front to cover you if she should decide to leave.

But tbh its starting to sound like she has burnt all her bridges, so you would wonder if she would want to jeopodise her place with you.

Or be totally honest and tell her the truth, and see what her response is, as there is always two sides to a story!
 
Daisychain is probably right. the problem wiht telling white lies is that they come back to you eventually

She may have been cagy to tell you becuase of what happened in previous yards and didn;t want to burn bridges, or maybe she would prefer some discretion (as I am sure OP would be)

I have had to do midnight flit from a yard (even though I had paid in advance and lost £200 in the process) because the yard manager was being so unpleasant. We decided to simply move that weekend without giving her any notice, accepting that we would lose our deposit and half a month livery money paid in advance - rather than stay.

The YO was being very unpleasant, criticising us, farrier's work, our riding, what we feed....you name it....

So there may have been valid reasons for the flits
 
Are you sure its her? the horse may have been sold or there may be another with the same name

I would call her and ask for her yard history, how long has she been there, why is she leaving etc.. then ask if you can approach her last two for references and see what her reaction is. If she is innocent then you havent lost a client if she is guilty you have dealt with it in a non confrontational way
 
You have every right to refuse her, it's your place, why do you feel the need to justify to her, just tell her the box is no longer available end of.
 
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