HJJ
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I agree with others, sounds like this will be an ongoing saga, so I'd walk away and find another, rideable horse for my money.
New part-loaner - advice needed
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JenJ
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I didn't want to rain on your parade on your previous thread, as you sounded so keen, however that post alone made me think "hmmmmmm.....". With this latest post, she's absolutely taking advantage of your enthusiasm, passion, and naivety of the horseworld.
Her situation may well be genuine, and she may well have had good intentions for the part loan. But that's irrelevant for now, as a horse you have met 4(?) times is not your responsibility to pay for and do jobs for. Her trying to guilt you into thinking it is, is unfair and unreasonable.
Continue with your lessons for now - try to get to know more people there, and I'm sure another opportunity will arise soon enough - it's already happened once, even if it didn't work out.
Her situation may well be genuine, and she may well have had good intentions for the part loan. But that's irrelevant for now, as a horse you have met 4(?) times is not your responsibility to pay for and do jobs for. Her trying to guilt you into thinking it is, is unfair and unreasonable.
Continue with your lessons for now - try to get to know more people there, and I'm sure another opportunity will arise soon enough - it's already happened once, even if it didn't work out.
Dam1
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Run for the hills x
SEL
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If she's now said don't pay for the next 2 weeks then I'd thank her and ask her to get in touch again in a fortnight if he's better and you'll go from there
JenJ
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Perfect!
Nancykitt
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My experience of a horse with lami - it’s very difficult to say with any certainty when they would be fit enough to ride again, so the 2 weeks things sounds a bit suspicious.
If the horse is on box rest, I don’t see any way it could be ‘fighting fit’ in 2 weeks though. Fittening a horse can take a long time and is usually a gradual thing.
If the horse is on box rest, I don’t see any way it could be ‘fighting fit’ in 2 weeks though. Fittening a horse can take a long time and is usually a gradual thing.
SaddlePsych'D
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Just walk away OP and don't turn back.
If one of the things you were hoping here was to learn about good horse care/management, it doesn't sound like the sort of place you will get that. The owner doesn't sound particularly respectful of you, and if it's not this it will be some other drama you get pulled into later on.
When I had a share horse that wasn't able to be ridden (short term) one owner gave me the additional ride at another time when the horse was able to be ridden again, and for another share I didn't pay during that time because I still went up and mucked out etc. which either the owner would have had to have done or paid someone else to do.
I'm an RS rider only at the moment and have shared in the past with a mix of experiences. Definitely you can get more time and experience around horses with a share but there's also quite a big risk of learning poor management/handling/care from people who either don't care or themselves haven't ever been taught properly. I have always kept up RS lessons alongside sharing to keep in touch with an instructor to check in with things I've not been sure about and/or to make sure I am learning good riding/handling etc.
If one of the things you were hoping here was to learn about good horse care/management, it doesn't sound like the sort of place you will get that. The owner doesn't sound particularly respectful of you, and if it's not this it will be some other drama you get pulled into later on.
When I had a share horse that wasn't able to be ridden (short term) one owner gave me the additional ride at another time when the horse was able to be ridden again, and for another share I didn't pay during that time because I still went up and mucked out etc. which either the owner would have had to have done or paid someone else to do.
I'm an RS rider only at the moment and have shared in the past with a mix of experiences. Definitely you can get more time and experience around horses with a share but there's also quite a big risk of learning poor management/handling/care from people who either don't care or themselves haven't ever been taught properly. I have always kept up RS lessons alongside sharing to keep in touch with an instructor to check in with things I've not been sure about and/or to make sure I am learning good riding/handling etc.
Skib
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I did not pay when my old share was off work. In her old age, I sometimes led her out to graze in hand but no money was paid either way. And i could have a good canter by hacking at another RS.
I did the same. A hack and a lesson until Covid lock down. I started hacking again, but lessons proved a problem. I may try again next winter.
Cloball
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I've also been a sharer, loaner and part loaner and I would recommend for the future that you see a horse ridden and trial ride yourself before agreeing to anything. I have absolutely been the one desperate to ride and grateful for any opportunities and have learnt the hard way that people will absolutely use you as a crash test dummy on horses that they aren't prepared to ride themselves.
That said I had a fabulous loan my instructor found who had a short term lameness and the owner sourced me another pony to loan and I ended up with 2 fabulous ponies.
There are good arrangements out there but the horse world can be wild! Where else would someone expect you to pay to muck out their lame horse with no contract!!
That said I had a fabulous loan my instructor found who had a short term lameness and the owner sourced me another pony to loan and I ended up with 2 fabulous ponies.
There are good arrangements out there but the horse world can be wild! Where else would someone expect you to pay to muck out their lame horse with no contract!!
Auslander
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If that were my horse, I would not be charging you. I'd encourage you to keep coming to visit and care for him, if you were interested in continuing with the share, so that you could get to know him, but no way would I be charging you to look after my horse for me, until such a time as you were able to enjoy the fun bits of horse "ownership"
Sanversera
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Sounds like the owner cannot actually afford the horse.