Next year I will be horse shopping

[ILuvCowparsely]

I never thought I would be doing this again, horse shopping I mean. Since I lost my home bred boy to colic days after I lost my mum 2022, His stable remains empty (with his casket in). I cannot look over the door still.
Well with my ID mare like she is I need something to be able to go out and enjoy with, she was supposed to be it but hasn't worked out this way, but I feel sad that the reason I am in this position is because I lost my beloved boy, and hate the feeling as he should still be with me if it wasn't for the colic.

I would have put up with this mares issues then, if he was still here, but like one of my liveries, who has tried with her mare, who has failed to get her confidence back since the mare bronc her off badly 3 times, she is now selling her.



Trouble is when you get older you don't bounce and work is effected if your injured, not just a few weeks off school.

This mare must have had a awful first two years, I have had her since 2015, she is still very spooky and has trust issues all the time. Certain type of men she is scared of. I do hack her out but she has spooky times, she is sound even though navicular. She is happy and healthy nice temperament and one of my sharers wants to ride her as in the school but on sponsored rides she would struggle with the pollens and her breathing and vet said no jumping hence me thinking of another horse. I won't sell her.

The thing is I want to do sponsored rides again which I Have not done since 2019 due to covid then knee pain then knee replacement. She has EAD and gets stress on her own in the lorry. She has everything she want's or needs, vet-chiro, supplement and home for life.

Don't know why I am posting this just miss my boy soooooo much and hate feeling, that I have forgotten him and something else will be in my life instead of him.

Any others had to buy another after they thought that was it but because of loss of a loved one but you have too.

 

[splashgirl45]

I had always thought the last horse I owned was my final one due to my age and creaking body. I lost her at age 25 to cushings and lasted all of 2 weeks without a horse . I didn’t feel ready to give up but didn’t have any money as I had pretty hefty credit card bills due to my mare and cushings treatment, which I have never regretted… I took on a loan horse for 2 years and then my body really couldn’t cope with D.I.Y. In the winter so I gave her up , really, really wish I hadn’t but age catches up in the end.. if I was younger I would never have given up and find it difficult to cope with even now

 

[Skib]

if I was younger I would never have given up and find it difficult to cope with even now

I am sorry you miss the horses.
Could you go for a few gentle rides from a riding school? Or try out different schools and their horse? I know it isnt the same as owning but in my second year of riding I went to several schools to hack in different places.
Since then I have twice had long and happy hacking relationships with an RS horse plus two others on whom I rode dressage tests in the school. After a serious operation, I recuperated with an elderly share and when she died, I found another, so I am now on my second share. I am not young or fit and the yard staff kindly look after me as if I were a child, or indeed another horse. My only advice if you become a RS rider, is to give any school or owner time to get used to you.
It was several weeks before our YM realised I could canter. But the delay was a help as I got to know the new mare.
By the way, I am so envious of your lurchers. OH wont let us have a dog, and as long as I am riding, I dont argue with him.

 

[splashgirl45]

I am sorry you miss the horses.
Could you go for a few gentle rides from a riding school? Or try out different schools and their horse? I know it isnt the same as owning but in my second year of riding I went to several schools to hack in different places.
Since then I have twice had long and happy hacking relationships with an RS horse plus two others on whom I rode dressage tests in the school. After a serious operation, I recuperated with an elderly share and when she died, I found another, so I am now on my second share. I am not young or fit and the yard staff kindly look after me as if I were a child, or indeed another horse. My only advice if you become a RS rider, is to give any school or owner time to get used to you.
It was several weeks before our YM realised I could canter. But the delay was a help as I got to know the new mare.
By the way, I am so envious of your lurchers. OH wont let us have a dog, and as long as I am riding, I dont argue with him.

Unfortunately I was sharing a horse and fell off on the road when he spooked and spun, which was very unlike him but as I’d only been riding him once a week for a month or so after not riding for 2 years I was not a supple. I had a bleed on the brain and as I am on blood thinners and almost 78 the hospital was very against my riding as I would be likely to get another bleed if I fell off. So, after friends and family went through so much when I was in hospital I took the decision not to ride . However, if I came into a big chunk of money and could buy somewhere with land I would have a couple of ponies from the blue cross or similar so I could have my horsey fix

 

[Birker2020]

Unfortunately I was sharing a horse and fell off on the road when he spooked and spun, which was very unlike him but as I’d only been riding him once a week for a month or so after not riding for 2 years I was not a supple. I had a bleed on the brain and as I am on blood thinners and almost 78 the hospital was very against my riding as I would be likely to get another bleed if I fell off. So, after friends and family went through so much when I was in hospital I took the decision not to ride . However, if I came into a big chunk of money and could buy somewhere with land I would have a couple of ponies from the blue cross or similar so I could have my horsey fix

Rotten shame, I do feel for you.

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

Unfortunately I was sharing a horse and fell off on the road when he spooked and spun, which was very unlike him but as I’d only been riding him once a week for a month or so after not riding for 2 years I was not a supple. I had a bleed on the brain and as I am on blood thinners and almost 78 the hospital was very against my riding as I would be likely to get another bleed if I fell off. So, after friends and family went through so much when I was in hospital I took the decision not to ride . However, if I came into a big chunk of money and could buy somewhere with land I would have a couple of ponies from the blue cross or similar so I could have my horsey fix

That's one of the things my mare has done which contributes to the way things are, she fell twice on the road, once at the beginning she slipped, left me with permanent dislocation of the shoulder. Then again when a car started its engine as we were passing, she spooked and slipped always go out in knee boots now. Shoulder is buggered

 

[Glitter's fun]

Don't know why I am posting this just miss my boy soooooo much and hate feeling, that I have forgotten him and something else will be in my life instead of him.

Any others had to buy another after they thought that was it but because of loss of a loved one but you have too.

Whatever you do next wont replace or remove him. All those times you had are yours to keep for ever. Feel free to add to them with something new or not but no one can take the memories away from you. Your past is your own possession.
I'm riding a share at the moment but I don't rule out buying if that falls through or I find someone ideal.
Can you find some riding in the meantime, just to have some fun and take the pressure off yourself?

 

[SO1]

Yes I lost Homey at a similar time that you lost your horse. I never planned to get another as I thought Homey would be with me another 10 years by which time I would be 60s. Sadly it was not to be I lost him at 20.

TBH I am struggling I still miss Homey all the time. Things have not been easy with Bert which has not helped but I think I would have struggled even if he had never taken a lame step. You never know how you are going to feel until your new horse arrives.

I think if you are looking for a horse for a job sponsored rides, I used to love sponsored rides on Homey, and can find one to do that job then great but don't expect that horse to fill the space in your heart from the horse that you have lost.

 

[suestowford]

I don't know if or when I'll ever get another pony. Mine was lost to colic in 2022 also. But I spend an unreasonable amount of time looking at 'for sale' ads on the 'net. Fantasy horse shopping. So far I have not been tempted too much.
When my first horse died, I already had this pony, so he didn't feel like a replacement. But now the pony has also gone there is a gap to fill and I worry that another one would feel wrong.
OP I hope you find your perfect match.

 

[Barton Bounty]

I wasn’t expecting to lose my beloved either but I am finding that Orbi is certainly helping with the pain and I am so glad I got him. Even though I was thinking to myself.. jesus.. your 48 your no spring chicken what do you want with a 3 year old
I can honestly say that it is the best decision as he is utterly amazing. We are doing the whole journey together

 

[ILuvCowparsely]

Ty all.


My ID is the problem with her spooky untrusting self.
So got a hair analysing test done


I got the results from my mares hair analysing and it has given me hope with her so even though I said I would not ride her again, she is low on taurine for one thing and shows leaky gut also other things showed up in the test.
I have ordered the supplements I was told to get and so we shall see what happens. I will still go horse shopping next year as my mares navicular could get damaged but will just have her to less strenuous outings',


I have known of this lady a while and her reviews look good and I got a very detailed report on my mare https://kerrycampbell.podia.com/ https://www.facebook.com/ArmadilloEquineConsultingClinic

Here's hoping she changes from a spooky untrusty twat to a level headed horse. Will seems strange for another horse in boys stable, though still might put my donut ID mare in it.