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Moonrat2108

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Hi All,

Last night I went round to my former home to collect the rest of my belongings, having previously arranged this with my ex.

As soon as I stepped into the kitchen, he became angry, saying I owed him rent money (I don't) and that I wasnt allowed to take my things. When I tried to walk past him to get my things, he grabbed me by the shoulders, threw me back against the worktop and then, still grabbing me by the shoulders, rammed me into the corner of the kitchen by the front door.

Needless to say I screamed and was scared; he was literally hissing at me in my face. I had my hands up against my face and then whilst trying to get away, dug my nails into his cheek, at which point he let go, I opened the door and ran out to my car. He was still shouting at me.

All day this has been on my mind. My neck, shoulders and back hurt when I crashed into the worktops and wall. This is not the first time this has happened.

I havent reported him previously but feel I should / do want to for this. I havent got any marks or bruises as such, the neighbours probably heard me scream, there was only me and him in the house.

What would you do? / think?

Thanks in advance x
 
Hello - god poor you, that's horrible :-( hugs and hope you're ok. I don't really have any particularly good advice but a friend of mine had an ex who was similar and she did report him; I don't think anything was really done about it but she did get the offer of support from the police if she had to go back again for more stuff, and they were quite helpful, sympathetic and supportive. I think it's worth doing - if anything else ever happens with anyone else (god forbid, obviously), at least you'll know you've done what you can.
If you have to go back for more stuff, can you arrange to take a friend?
Hope you're ok.
 
Police NOW before the scratches on his face fade.

He sounds as if he could become really dangerous and you need him warned now and an escort with you to pick up your stuff.
 
police asap. and ask one to go with you when you go to collect youe stuff as well so he cannot kick off again. best would be for it to be a plain clothes person so he shows his true colours in front of them but thats not likely to happen
 
As the others have said Police ASAP, this is totally disgraceful behavior and you really need to speak to them before things get any worse. I am so sorry that you had to go through this and you must not allow it to happen again, Do not go back there on your own. I hope you can get it sorted soon x
 
Thank you for your replies ��

I've reported it and made a statement and have to say the police were really good. I'm realistic about not a lot being done as in the great scheme of things, I wasn't black and blue, but he did scare me and I don't trust him at all. At least if anything does happen again I have something to go on.

My friends have offered to come with me to pick up the rest of my things. Now looking for another field to rent as he's been going down ( despite my asking him to stay away) and discovered he's changed the padlock code so I can't get the horses in / out of the gate! Friend is going down with bolt cutters in the morning to sort that, but I just don't want to be down there on my own and him turn up!

Thanks again x
 
Tell the police about the gate too. That is harassment and they can give him a restraining order to keep him away from you wherever you are and your field and horses.
 
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