Nice chat with livery did not go well!

I wonder why she left her other yard? Himmmmmmm *rubs chin*

I would feel sympathy for her with a youngster etc but the moment someone is rude/ungrateful they can go sit on the sharp end of the yard broom in my opinion :)
 
You tried your best and by the sounds of it was very reasonable.

Leave her to it, I couldnt be bothered giving someone like that the time of day, you expect it from children, not a grown women.
 
Hmmm,

I think you need to cut her a bit of slack. Reading this its pretty obvious that she's scared of her horse. This fear and stress will make her act this way. Not saying its right, but I think understandable
 
I understand your position and it can upset your hack but her attitude is awful you are not responsible for her and her horse if she is a little green with her horse then she needs to either gets lessons and build up her confidence and then ask politely if she can hack out with you not just turn up and tag along. Tell her straight Im sorry but we would prefer you didnt come with us we are trying to keep our horses hunt fit.
 
I feel a bit sorry for the poor girl actually. Having been in the same position with a youngster when you are trying to get them hacking out is awkward.
Luckily there were a lot of people at my yard that were happy to come and just walk with me for the first few times.
Then I moved to an event yard and didn't hack for ages as they were all off galloping and getting their horses fit.
Then I felt bad about going with them as it was obvious they wanted to go faster and I was holding them up, and I don't normally hang around either!
Luckily a new girl came who's horse had been off for a while so we built up our hacking together.
 
cindydog said:
Why not try again, sounds if her tone of anger was out of dissapointment, make a day to hack out with her, let her gain confidence.
When I am out on a hack and riders want to do anything more than walk and trot they say to all to join or not and will wait till other riders are away out of sight to do what they want. Talk to each other about what type of hack it will be.. I know you are not a babysitter..well mybe just one more time.
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Agree with this - it is very frustrating if you have a young horse and no one will hack out with you. What if you were to get a new horse and no one would hack out with you?

Perhaps a good talk would help clear the air. Just approach her and say something like "really sorry we wouldn't/couldn't let you come with us the other day - its just that blah blah blah - perhaps we could arrange for you to come out with us on such and such a day or every other hack etc so your youngster can get out and about. Also, perhaps when you come out you could walk faster/slower do this that etc." Just a lot easier than glaring at each other across a stableyard.....
 
She has behaved in a really ungrateful way. I have been the 'nanny' on a number of occasions on my bombproof old boy, but he hates going behind and I like to take him alone so I can have a canter - some of the people I have nannied have not liked this - He is a real handful and I never canter in company unless we could go flat out (as inon some gallops or something) as its just not worth it, and he would probably wind any other horse up.

With my younger horse I have to be (still....) nannied, and am grateful if anyone will escort me and not want to hurtle about madly unless I'm feeling we can.

I would give her a specified day of the week that she can come with you if you are still feeling generous, and leave it at that.
 
Could you draw up a training schedule (so she can appreciate you aren't just going out for a hack), sit down with her & arrange one day a week when you can accompany her? I would be pointing out that you have a training programme & you are going out of your way to include her, rather than going hacking & excluding her. That backed up with you helping her n the school will hopefully improve her & her horse. You say there are others there who school, is ther one with the patience to teach her? If someone else could do this instead of you it may wean her off being so dependant on you for everything & give you some breathing space (hopefully she'll really enjoy the tuition & continue to improve her basics).
 
Like others on here I have nannied and been nannied am at the moment still being nannied on relatively new horse so seen both sides. If we go as a group one in front always asks if it's ok to trot on or to canter so all of us are ready. Nothing worse than someone shooting past at speed when you're on a spooky horse. You sound a lovely lady DM. :)
 
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