Nightmare! :(

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I don't post on here much but I do browse a lot. Figured I might as well give it a bash by ranting :p.

I lent a saddle to a friend a few weeks ago to try on her horse and eventually hoping to sell it. Anyway we had a bit of a fall out in which Ill happily admit both parties were at fault and I asked for saddle back (very nicely). X doesn't get back in touch so I text again; this time asking for either the saddle or its maximum value to which i get the response that I could come and get it.

As it's a while away from me I asked her to post it but she said she can't package it up. I wasn't too keen on my saddle being sent unwrapped as I could see it getting ruined so instead I said I'd take her up on her other offer of my friend who lives near by picking it up. All seems ok until she got in touch today saying she'd given the saddle to her friend as thats easier and that they would be in touch to arrange for me to get it. :confused:

Friend hasn't been in touch yet (although it is early days I guess) but she won't give me contact details either which is a bit disconcerting. She's got a lot going on atm which is fair enough but I said I only needed saddle back by next weekend so someone on my yard can get it check by their saddle fitter on the Monday. I think I've been fairly reasonable tbh; friend would have been happy to collect any morning or evening this week which would have taken 2 secs instead of all this palava! :rolleyes:

BHS legal helpline have advise to report saddle as stolen and then pursue her through the small claims court which sounds like a complete nightmare. Guess I should have listened to my mother when she said "never a borrower nor lender be" ;)
 
Small claims is fairly straight forward and not too costly to do online. Often the threat of court will scare someone into action. However to claim the offender must have some form of asset in their name ie horse, car, house etc.
 
I would grow up be the bigger person and call her to say that YOU would like to come and collect your saddle directly from HER one night this week. She needs to get it back off this stranger. If she doesn't want to then say you will be at X place to collect on Friday/Saturday and if it is not available you wil need to report it as stolen

It is just petty to not speak to her directly! If something was mine and I wanted it back it wouldn't matter how far away it was from me I would go and get it.
 
I would grow up be the bigger person and call her to say that YOU would like to come and collect your saddle directly from HER one night this week. She needs to get it back off this stranger. If she doesn't want to then say you will be at X place to collect on Friday/Saturday and if it is not available you wil need to report it as stolen

It is just petty to not speak to her directly! If something was mine and I wanted it back it wouldn't matter how far away it was from me I would go and get it.

This is great advice!
 
I would grow up be the bigger person and call her to say that YOU would like to come and collect your saddle directly from HER one night this week. She needs to get it back off this stranger. If she doesn't want to then say you will be at X place to collect on Friday/Saturday and if it is not available you wil need to report it as stolen

It is just petty to not speak to her directly! If something was mine and I wanted it back it wouldn't matter how far away it was from me I would go and get it.

I guess so :/ It would just mean I'd have to wait till the end of August as I'm at uni 9-5 then at work till 12 and working all day Sat/Sun. I don't think she'd pick up if I called plus I like the written proof that I have been in touch which you don't have with a phone call.

I'm sure it can all be straightened out fairly easily but its just stressful atm :(.
 
do you not have any free time during the day - when i was at uni i had free periods in act free mornings!

if you cant drive over there then do you have a family member that can get it or you? :)
 
I would grow up be the bigger person and call her to say that YOU would like to come and collect your saddle directly from HER one night this week. She needs to get it back off this stranger. If she doesn't want to then say you will be at X place to collect on Friday/Saturday and if it is not available you wil need to report it as stolen

It is just petty to not speak to her directly! If something was mine and I wanted it back it wouldn't matter how far away it was from me I would go and get it.

This.

And then if there is any more avoidance etc, tell her you have already taken legal advice and will be going to the small claims court if it isn't returned..
 
do you not have any free time during the day - when i was at uni i had free periods in act free mornings!

if you cant drive over there then do you have a family member that can get it or you? :)

I'll probably have a clinic cancelled at some point but atm I'm timetabled to be in all day every day (except the lucky day i need to be in at 10.30!!! :P ) My OH could have done it but the person doesn't want any men she doesn't know at her yard which is fair enough.
 
i really feel for you!
perhaps call her and tell her you want the saddle by X day and i you havent got it then you will be reporting it to the police and taking her to court. Tell her you are prepared to help to get it back and will send over (a certain person) or she can alternatively bring it round.

good luck to you! xx
 
Pretty much what I've said. She seems happy enough for a female friend to come and get it tomorrow after mentioning the small claims court which is pretty good. Hopefully it all works out now :)
 
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I'll probably have a clinic cancelled at some point but atm I'm timetabled to be in all day every day (except the lucky day i need to be in at 10.30!!! :P ) My OH could have done it but the person doesn't want any men she doesn't know at her yard which is fair enough.

Flipping hell, she's making it practically impossible for you to get it back. I would say your OH is coming on X day to collect. He can meet her at the flipping gate if she's that bothered about a stranger being on the yard. I would tell her that if she does not return it on that day you are calling the police to report it stolen.
 
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