Non- horsey - dad might have cancer

Hi this isn't anything to do with horses, but is something i would like peoples opinions on. I found out yesterday that my dad might have cancer. He had these lumps in his mouth and he hah, had them a while they would bleed sometime too. Anyway me and my family kept trying to make him go and see someone, but he wouldnt, then yesterday he went to go see the dentist, and he said to him he didnt like the look of it, especially since there was more than one around his mouth. So he said he has referred him to the hospital as an emergency. This has really worried me, as it looks like its cancer and if it is then hes had it for months and it has progressivley got worse so what if it has spread?
Anyway basically I am really upset about this and feel down a lot of the time and find it hard to eat and its just generally really affecting me. Is it normal to feel liek this? As my sister is acting normally and although my mum was upset when she found out she is also acting like normal. And i feel anything but.
I dont know what the point in this thread is but basically am i over reacting?
Thanks sorry about the long thread. x
 
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So sorry for your dad.... people will all deal with this type of news in different ways and you might find they are putting a brave face on things to stop you from worrying too much.

Good luck for your dad.
 
Sorry to hear that. I dont have any experiance with your situation, but I guess everyone deals with bad news in their own way.

hope everything turns out ok.
 
As everybody else has said people react in different ways and perhaps they are trying to keep everything normal for your dad. Hope all works out for you all.
 
Cancer is a scary word but remember there are types of cancer, malignant, non-malignant, aggressive, non-aggressive, many, many types are treatable nowadays and when you get more information you will probably feel less scared. Try to keep really busy til you get more hard facts. And force yourself to eat and keep healthy so you feel stronger in yourself. Us horse people are born worriers - it goes with territory!
 
listen don't get upset yet you don't know anything.
my aunty had a weeping lump on her breast and we all got told it was skin cancer.
but she had tests and it turns out it is a skin thing so she has to go and see a dermatoligist.
i hope that you have a similar thing. Cancer is not a death sentance any more medicine has come on leaps and bounds.
my youngest goes to play school and his teacher had it she is grand now she had chemo and you would not know any thing had happened.
i hope this gives you hope i will be thinking of you let us know how you get on!!!
goood luck.
 
Hi,
I'm in the same boat as yourself, my dad does have terminal lung cancer which also in his lymph nodes, we have since found that his tumours have increased in size and that it has spread into his throat. He did smoke in his younger days, but gave up over 15 years ago.

I fully empathise with how you must be feeling, I personally have gone through a range of emotions including shock, anger, sadness, positivity and other emotions along the way.

Take each day as it comes and cherish the time that you have with your father. Everyone deals with news like this differently, the only other advice I can offer is not to pretend that it's not happening and talk to your dad about it.

I found that the Macmillan website has lots of useful information on it and also people are on the site for the same reason, they have either experienced or are experiencing cancer weather directly or indirectly, it may be helpful for you to look at their site.

Finally, please look after yourself and ensure that you have a healthy balanced diet and that you don't neglect your own needs, get support too if you need it. You will be of better assistance to your father if you yourself are healthy.

Good luck
 
Hi
Very sorry to hear about your Dad. You must be on a roller coaster of emotions right now, but it is important you allow yourself to have these. Many cancers are treatable and curable with modern medicine. Try to take one day at a time and not focus on just being with your Dad in every way you can.

It isn't easy to always stay positive, but make sure you eat little and often so you keep your strength. Don't bottle up your emotions and talk to your mum and sister and even your dad. You'll be surprised, but you will find the inner strength to cope.

God bless to you and your dad. Talk to us or PM me if you need a chat!
 
You are going through a really tough time so no you are not over reacting at all, but its true what Ibot said, try and take each day as it comes as you don't know its cancer, and hopefully it won't turn out to be. Its easy to think of the worst case scenario, I'm the worst at doing that, but it could be anything, and even if it is cancer, it may not be sinister, there are lots of different types. My dad had cancer so if you want to talk, you are welcome to pm me as well. Take care and I hope it all turns out ok.
 
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