Non horsey parents think everything a waste of money

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If i said to you i had a horse who turned into the corner when a bridle came out, kept her mouth open when bitted, wasn't eating as much as you think she should - you would say get the teeth done!

So i am, and my dear father thinks i'm just making excuses and wasting money on a horse thats not even mine (shes just came to me on loan, teeth were to be done before she came but the dentist forgot, so is coming out to me instead)


Why do they constantly think that animals are just always perfect health and never need looking after like humans do. I get my teeth done, why not her?! :mad:
 
I guess I'm quite lucky that my mum is just over joyed that I was able to pursue the childhood dream because she just couldn't afford to make it happen for me. So she never says anything about the cost of the horses. I'm sure my stepdad and my dad have other opinions but they don't dare voice them!
 
I have always worked for rides, at 23 and working full time I got my own horse. My parents stay as distanced from it as they can. I'm barely allowed to bring my horse up in conversation and no matter how much I need a horse item or horsey clothing they will not buy it for me as a present for birthday or Christmas but will buy something I don't need instead. My dad mocks me for my hobby. Aged 29 I've learnt to live with it, I share my horsey stories with my horsey friends, put horse stuff first so that non horse stuff can be bought as presents and thank my lucky stars I have a more fufilling life than theirs!
 
I got my first pony at 14 but could only have it if I paid for everything myself so had to spend my nights working in a chip shop to do so. Father rarely ever saw the pony never mind paying for things.
 
My dad enjoys that i enjoy horses but he is very old animal style. If it live it lives. He thinks all these new dentists and back men etc are just money making scams. He still thinks horses chew cud!
 
My parents paid for riding lessons and a few riding clothes when I was a child. Now I'm 53, have my own horse and get comments like "I don't see why you have to have a horse" and "Aren't you a bit old to do this jumping stuff now?" I always get money for birthdays and Christmas, but if I spend it on anything horsey, even for me rather than the horse, it meets with disapproval. The ironic thing is, I bought my horse because my father became an invalid and I realised that I didn't want to end up bed-ridden and regretting the things I'd had the power to do but not the courage.

Luckily I can afford to ignore them and pay for my horsey stuff myself, so if my mother asks me what I bought with my birthday money I pick something non-horsey I've bought recently and lie!:D
 
My parents see that I work hard and earn my money and rarely comment on how I spend it. As I wouldn't dream of commenting on how they spend theirs. The only time you could forgive them if it was them forking it out. Other then that even parents need to be reminded to mind their own business occasionally, gently of course. Also my partner minds his own as well, I never comment on his golf purchases. We all respect each other,
 
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My dad dosent like horses, therefore he dosent know I have one...............


I have had previous horses, but this one was bought for a companion for my mare, lost my mare and kept the companion. Shes now a lady of leisure and i love her to bits....

I am 26, work 7 days a week [yes really i am like a walking zombie]... so its my money i will spend it how i choose....


my mum however dosent get it - but supports me and listens to my tails of woe... has ridden once - never will again :D
 
I have the same! luckily I am old enough to pay for my own horses! but my dad makes comments like "deers run around in the wild with 3 legs, why do you need the vet" haha! "daddy, I don't ride deers" that said, he is very good, he does drive me and my boy everywhere we need to go!
 
Yes i've been told i'm too old for it now and i should be getting a bf and starting a family (im 27 with no interest in boys or families! lol) i think they hoped it was a phase. Its noooot. They are a lot better lately about it (mum didn't even start ww3 over my new horse but did say "what on earth will you even do with that")

Just getting sick of the constant tuts and eye rolling when i mention spending ANY money on my beloved horses. I work to keep my horses, i don't buy clothes or go out a lot or smoke or anything. They have their hobbys, which are in and around the same price, but i don't complain!
 
Cowpony said:
My parents paid for riding lessons and a few riding clothes when I was a child. Now I'm 53, have my own horse and get comments like "I don't see why you have to have a horse" and "Aren't you a bit old to do this jumping stuff now?" I always get money for birthdays and Christmas, but if I spend it on anything horsey, even for me rather than the horse, it meets with disapproval. The ironic thing is, I bought my horse because my father became an invalid and I realised that I didn't want to end up bed-ridden and regretting the things I'd had the power to do but not the courage.

Luckily I can afford to ignore them and pay for my horsey stuff myself, so if my mother asks me what I bought with my birthday money I pick something non-horsey I've bought recently and lie!:D
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Cowpony you have made my day...I could have written your post..my parents just spent three days with me, my OH and our daughter and my mother resents anytime/conversation/money that involves horses. We again had the "where are you spending Christmas" question and she cannot believe that we want to be committed to spending time with the ponies at Christmas..its almost like jealousy. They left this morning and Im afraid I pulled away from the house before they did (went to ride) with mothers parting shot..."well we know where we are in your list of priorities". Im 50...so OP there is no hope if there are folk like Cowpony and I!!
 
Midlifecrisis said:
Cowpony you have made my day...I could have written your post..my parents just spent three days with me, my OH and our daughter and my mother resents anytime/conversation/money that involves horses. We again had the "where are you spending Christmas" question and she cannot believe that we want to be committed to spending time with the ponies at Christmas..its almost like jealousy. They left this morning and Im afraid I pulled away from the house before they did (went to ride) with mothers parting shot..."well we know where we are in your list of priorities". Im 50...so OP there is no hope if there are folk like Cowpony and I!!
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Hello ladies...we could form a new club!! Also 50, also could have written Cowpony's post! I think 2 years on they have mellowed a bit thank goodness, but approval is not going to happen!
 
I'm lucky, my mum and dad love our horses.......and dad actually brought home an unbanked 6 year old in July for us. He doesn't ride but loves playing with them and taking us out. I'm 28, my brother is 25 and sister is 23 so it's not like we are children.
Anything the horses need they get and if it's raining and they haven't got sheets on I get told to go and get his babies in early so they don't get cold........
 
suffolkmare said:
Hello ladies...we could form a new club!! Also 50, also could have written Cowpony's post! I think 2 years on they have mellowed a bit thank goodness, but approval is not going to happen!
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I would join that club! I have a feeling that mother will never mellow...even more hilarious is that dad did not like ponies on his land (had sheep til retired last year) when I was younger but now he has rented most of his land out to horse owners...built in field shelters and regularly gives me updates on the "dobbins" at home! (mother just moans about folk wandering around the place). An aside - I noticed the "pony squashers" line...Ive even joined that club as I ride daughters pony out when I think he needs a change of scene in the week!
 
noodle_ said:
My dad dosent like horses, therefore he dosent know I have one...............


I have had previous horses, but this one was bought for a companion for my mare, lost my mare and kept the companion. Shes now a lady of leisure and i love her to bits....

I am 26, work 7 days a week [yes really i am like a walking zombie]... so its my money i will spend it how i choose....


my mum however dosent get it - but supports me and listens to my tails of woe... has ridden once - never will again :D
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Lucky noodle for support you get! How do you keep horse keeping secret from dad?
 
suffolkmare said:
Hello ladies...we could form a new club!! Also 50, also could have written Cowpony's post! I think 2 years on they have mellowed a bit thank goodness, but approval is not going to happen!
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The Fabulous 50s Club! Welcome ladies! Two fingers up to anybody who tries to thwart us! :D
 
Because it is, really, when I think how much extra money I'd have not spent on things. Could be put to save for a house, future, etc.

However.

It is my happiness and what I choose to spend my earned money on, so that's that. Other people waste theirs on latest fashions, technology, phones, boozy weekends etc...my indulgance is my horse instead. So swings and roundabouts!
 
My Mum thinks I spend far too much on horses especially on saddles! She's not horsey at all. Neither is my Dad. They did get me a pony on loan when I was 10 though.

My OH doesn't say a word on what I spend. He says he likes it, as when he comes home and says he's spent hundreds on a new guitar I don't bat an eyelid. Nothing compares to horsey spending ☺️
 
Well my family thought when I got marries at 20 there would be after a couple of years the sound of tiny feet, well yes there was but the sound of 4 at a time and my mother has never really forgiven me for not producing a baby but a yearling Amber. People seem to forget they have children because they want them, but seem to forget their own childhood, where they swore they would never make their children do what their parents dictated. Wish my mother would remember this. :(
 
I have similar I am over 60 and although my parents are long gone my kids are jealous of my ponies. I never used to get gifts that I needed for the ponies but now I get things that are useful like waterproof boots, gloves and warm clothing but I would never get anything that actually went on the pony
 
I am lucky to, got a pony on loan at 10. I bought my horse at 18 with my own money then fell pregnant 6 months down the line! I am so so fortunate that my parents support me & have helped me (financially for a while as well) to keep her. My mums quite happy that between my son, work & horses I have no time for boozing,smoking etc, but maybe that's because she has the grand child already?!

My oh isn't horsey but he helps out (ish) & daren't question the expense.
 
My parents aren't horsey, I had riding lessons from age 9 to 18 when I persuaded them I wanted to go to equine college. I now, age 24, full loan my own, but they don't quite understand.

My dad will come and help out and go for walks, and is fairly happy handling them. And will listen to me chatting away but doesn't really ask questions.

My mum asks every single day if I am going to see the horse. Yes mother, he needs looking after! It was my birthday yesterday and she asked me what I wanted, but then said it had to be for me, it couldn't be for the horse! So I said how about some breeches? She just kind of sighed. She doesn't understand how I spend so much time at the yard and also how much he does for me. I suffered with depression as a teenager and riding was the only thing that kept me sane, it still stems from that.
 
It took 15 years for my parents to faintly get it. My mum now realises I'm not having kids and my horses are my babies. My dad asks if they've behaved lately (the answers usually no).

My OH is fab and doesn't mind (within reasonable reason) how much I spend on them. They do have a monthly budget that I try to keep to.
 
equi said:
Yes i've been told i'm too old for it now and i should be getting a bf and starting a family (im 27 with no interest in boys or families! lol) i think they hoped it was a phase. Its noooot. They are a lot better lately about it (mum didn't even start ww3 over my new horse but did say "what on earth will you even do with that")

Just getting sick of the constant tuts and eye rolling when i mention spending ANY money on my beloved horses. I work to keep my horses, i don't buy clothes or go out a lot or smoke or anything. They have their hobbys, which are in and around the same price, but i don't complain!
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Owww what out, they will be asking you if your a lesbian soon! I was single for 5 yrs and kept getting that! "why are you single, youre a pretty girl" etc! BECAUSE my horses are my life, I am happy spending my time with them, I don't need an annoying boyfriend! I have one now but he has to work around the horses! hehe
 
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