Not sure a share is what I actually want!!

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So I was all excited about going for a hack this morning on a mare that I am 'going' to share. I rode her in the school last week after her owner jumped her and she was lovely. Went for a hack this morning and... well... It could have been better.

The mare jigg jogged all the way round. Napped at gates and yarped at the reins continuously. The owner has only had her a few months and she does this when her boyfriend rides her but theyve not really been off road and he is a novice rider as far as I can make out.

I was fine coped fine and she didn't scare me at all. I got off and on to do one of the gates (the other mare was being a bit of a silly moo about gates too) and had no problems dealing with what the mare was doing. But did I enjoy it - no not really!!

It will be costing me £80 - £100 a month to ride this horse and whilst she is nice to school I could have a couple of achoolmaster lessons a month for that kind of money. Which is something I'd like to do too.

I went to yhl yesterday and was inspired watching Carl and Charlotte and did some Alexander technique stuff which was fab. I found a gairly local place to me that has Philip Karl acredited trainers which looks a really lovely place. that might be inspiring too. Riding this mare wasnt really inspiring. Just a bit of a pain.

Not sure the point of my post but just felt like writing it. Honey on toast for those who get this far (twas yummy!!)

Jx
 
I'm pretty sure riding is supposed to be fun. Why not try a couple of lessons a month for a while and see if you enjoy that, if not perhaps look for a different share where is horse is more happy to do what you'd like to do.
 
It sounds as though it's this share that's wrong for you, rather than sharing generally.

In your shoes I'd end the share, have a couple of schoolmaster lessons a month, and keep an eye out for a share that suits you better :)
 
I know how you feel - I was sharing a horse while looking for my own and it cost a lot of money for something I didn't really enjoy? The owner had a very rigid system of how things had to be done and the horse, although nice, was not ideal for me.
Keep looking around at different options :) good luck!
 
just because you didnt get on with the horse, doesnt mean all shares are going to be like that! I would tell the women you dont feel like this share is right for you, im sure she wont mind! then maybe have some lessons and see if you enjoy it? and then look for another share
 
I would think about hacking this horse a little more before deciding.

My daughter's mare wasn't fun to say the least on my first hack with her. She is much better now and I am enjoying her. we just needed to get used to each other.
 
I don't think she will be surprised at my ending the share tbh. She was very appologetic and I think a bit embarrased. I like her a lot and the mare too, and if she were mine I'd work through it and she'd be fine after a bit I'm sure. The thing is I shared horses all though my teans and then had my own who I sold 5 years ago. I shared again and it can work really well, but I'm not sureits righht for me at the moment.

Hollieeb and Theocat - i think youre right it'd suit me well to have lessons and maybe an Alexandra techniue clinic or two (they're running at a yard near me) and keep my eye out for a share that suits better.
 
melbiswas said:
I would think about hacking this horse a little more before deciding.

My daughter's mare wasn't fun to say the least on my first hack with her. She is much better now and I am enjoying her. we just needed to get used to each other.
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The thing is I don't want to take the pee. Neither was my boy fun to hack for a while when I first had him. Its just that it made me realise that maybe a share isn't what I want right now. Your point is completely valid and I said it to myself on the drive home.

I think I'm talking myself into canceling the share, before its really started, and giving the schoolmaster lessons a go. i've never really done that before. The couple I met yesterday were lovely....

(Trots off to look at website for place near Daventry!!)
 
I think you are right; if this has made you realise that a share is not right for you at the moment it would be best to stop there. The lady won't feel like you have wasted her time and can carry on looking for a sharer.

The lessons sound like a great idea and mean you aren't tied down and can experiment with what you want to try.
 
melbiswas said:
I think you are right; if this has made you realise that a share is not right for you at the moment it would be best to stop there. The lady won't feel like you have wasted her time and can carry on looking for a sharer.

The lessons sound like a great idea and mean you aren't tied down and can experiment with what you want to try.
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Precisely. I'm pretty sure I know now and stringing out doesn't seem fair.

Good point about the being tied down thing. I'm having to fit riding in around my oh's work and lessons can be booked for a specific time!!
 
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