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About a month ago i fell from the horse i was sharing, it was a bad fall for me as i was laid up on my back fro the best part of two weeks. Im an experienced rider or i thought i was right up t othis point, i have been riding since i was eight and so was lucky i think not to have fallen before. Anyway the woman that owns the horse was symathetic at first but then blamed for everything, i shouldnt have taken him on the field that morning, i shouldnt have fed him on what he had had the night before (i only gave him what she told me to give). She said that she thought that i was not a good rider blah blah blah and its knocked my confidence sideways.

Ive given up riding this horse after all this, and i feel that maybe i shouldnt ever exercise another persons horse ever again if this is what happens. Is this what happens when you ride other peoples horses and not your own? They literally blame you for everything? Im not in the position to own my own and i wish i was....what should i do? i love horses and i miss being round them everyday....

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put it down to experience and look for another horse to share. The owner sounds like she is upset and looking for excuses, but I would just stop talking to her if it is ruining your confidence. Have a few lessons at a riding school, then start looking again.
 
Unless I witnessed someone falling from my horse and could see it was clearly their fault then there is no way I would blame them.

If she didnt want you to take the horse out then she should have clearly told you that BEFORE you took it not after.

My friend shares my horse. She knows exactly what she can and cant do with him. She can do just about everything but I will not let her travel him unless I am present. She knows what to feed, when to put boots on etc. So unless she did something I had specificly told her not to or something obviously stupid then I would not blame her.

Some people just like to think their horse is perfect, she may fear that if word gets out that no one else will want to ride it. Whatever the reason I would (upsetting as it might be) forget about this horse, and like said above go to a riding school for a few confidence building lessons then start looking for another horse to share/exercise.

There are plently of lovely horses and owners out there. I hope you feel better soon and please do not blame yourself. Horses are unpredictable animals.
 
JRT that's the first thing i thought too


not all people are such pains in the behind, try and put it down to experience and don't let it stop you
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Hi you are right my guess is that she was worried i would sue, i didnt think of that at the beginning of this awful experience but when she changed into this terrible person (thought i knew her) and was sending me awful texts and emails i thouught about it but decided against it.

vicm - she told that i was to stay in the school as much as possible then i could take him in field or on roads but as slong as he had a few days of schooling then that was fine. He was so so bored and so that morning i took him round the field and only walked and trotted. thats when he bucked and took off with me and i had to throw myself from him. I stuck t othe rule she gave me and she threw it back in my face and said that she told me not to take him in the field. Would you just take a horse into a menage everyday? How boring for both him and myself? He is very spirited and deserves a bit of fun....im still really mad about it all becuase i really liked this horse.
 
In fairness to the owner, some rules were set, and you considered that you were competent to move on - events have shown that you were not, or at least that is how the owner will perceive it.
 
We had been in the school all week so thats why we went out. Its my bit of fun in a long week. I would never gallop etc as its not my horse and so would not want her to get on a nutter the following day!
 
Hi Zip
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Did you have an air ambulance, by any chance? I may be wrong, but if what I am thinking is correct it was certainly NOT your fault and you shouldn't be put off riding other horses....
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Put it down to experience - if the owner isn't open to having a reasonable conversation with you then look for another one to share but make sure you have a written agreement which covers falls etc.
 
You sound to me like you may have been a little bit over confident and if the owner is the cautious type then it may seem to her that taking the horse out in the field when you didn't know it that well was risky. Its mean for them to say you can't ride but I think they have a point in saying you bear some responsibilty for the accident. Some horses just aren't always suitable for having a bit of fun in an open field with. Agree with others that this just wasn't the right situation for you, keep looking around for something else a bit safer to share.
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hmph, zip, I am TOTALLY shocked to hear that you're being treated like this. I can't see how it was your fault, I think he just totally took you by surprise...it was an accident, these things happen, as others have said, horses are unpredictable.

I really am shocked by this.

Don't give up on riding, if this was your first fall in all those years, I think you're doing pretty well!! I fall off all the time! I'm sure you'll find something a bit more chilled out and start to enjoy your riding again.

Has your back fully recovered?
 
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