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As most of you know I lost my mare last week... as i had no stable, or actually wanted to look at another horse i sent her field companion (my youngster) away on field livery about an hour away (came reccomended)

Ive always viewed my youngster as "my mares mate" never as my future ridden horse....I know thats awful but that was her main job...and now that jobs gone, i sent her away until shes rising 4 and ready to be broken (12 months +

I saw her today and realised how lovely she actually is :o (yes this is the same horse that walloped me for a feed...)! but she leg me lean over her while messing about while she munched her hay (in th emiddle of a field i should add)...

Im very tempted....rightly or wrongly to bring her home. I really miss her and looking after her BUT at the same time...a break to save up some money, have more time and sleep ins would be on my list of things to do at the moment :o

I know thats selfish but shes happy where she is but i would prefer her closer to home....so mabey I could go once a week (where she is now takes me 2 hours roundtrip on a good road)!....and as I generally work stupid shifts in work and have other commitments its just not do-able more than every few weeks...

Shes on full grass livery there, people are lovely - place is lovely but i feel a pang of "i want my pony back"... i know i will be shoveling **** but im going to miss the important bonding time before breaking....?? and take her to in-hand shows....and just brush her daily etc.

Virtual slaps needed. I have time for her...and nothing will be changed before christmas anyhow in regards to where she is...as i dont have a box atm.

I cant really talk this over with any of my friends as they keep saying "bring her home"....

independent views please?? leave her or bring her back in a few months!? She wont be broken until spring 2014.

:o
 
I can only say what I would do if she were mine, not tell you what you should do :)
I would bring her home, making sure that she had at least one, if not two companions at home. If no companion, I would leave her where she is.
 
I think giving yourself the healing time before christmas will be good for you. You can allow yourself to grieve properly and have some time for yourself which is massively important (I lost one of my best friends tragically just before xmas last year and I had a very wobbly 6 months after).
I also think with how you are feeling towards her now bringing her home after xmas will be really good for you. Working with her will be fulfilling and also very healing. Plus you will get to have that bond again which for anyone who loves horses is something that makes us very very happy :)

I am so sorry that you lost your girl.
 
Leave her where she is for at least the winter, she can grow up being with other youngsters in a natural healthy way, you can have a break, get over your loss, have an easy winter both physically and probably financially. Get her back next spring when the weather is good and start preparing her for work.

I dont think she will miss out at all, plenty of time to be doing work with her later, over handled youngsters are not always the easiest to break, a well socialised one is usually no trouble as long as it has had some early handling and is not completely feral.
 
Am sure you'll get lots of varying advice on here too, but if I had had the same probs, then I'd leave her there till spring - give yourself time to re-establish yourself financially (as you have mentioned before now).
It will do her good to live in a herd over winter & save you stressing over management on the dark shortest days.
Then I'd bring her home for the summer & see how you go :)

Good luck in whatever you decide :)
 
I would be inclined to leave her there over winter and bring her back in spring. That is just my opinion though. You need time to heal from the loss of your mare, and as you say saving up will be beneficial. See her as often as you can and look forward to bringing her home in a few months time when you are feeling stronger. xxx
 
Thanks all - i wouldnt be moving her until spring - mostly due to lack of stable! - but also i know deep down i need time out- the place shes at is lovely i just miss her a lot :o

I think (as awful as it sounds) not seeing her until spring may be the best way as just thinkiing about her makes me want to drag her home....not because anythings wrong - just because shes mine and i miss her :o
 
Another saying leave her there for the winter and bring her back in spring. give yourself a breather and get some money saved and visit her at weekends so when she does come back you are financially mentally and physicaly recharged :)
 
Well i'm saying "bring her home!".

Why are you talking to us on here about it? Because you're fretting!

Your friends are right!
 
sounds like you couldn't bring her back straight away even if you wanted to so i would leave her until after christmas and then get her home:) As much as i long for a lie in or a week off from poo picking and the daily grind, when i go on hols for a week i miss them terribly and would rather be home:o
 
ive managed 4 days away from them....hence why im like wtf?

i was goign to join a gym - have money...time etc - but....to do WHAT?!

I could bring her closer to home if i found similar - but its such a nice place
 
Im still torn guys...

ive thoughtabout it none stop today.... there severe lack of decent yards (With winter grazing!) in my area and that was to be honest the biggest reason for not bringing her back/keeping her here last week

however....and i may regret this for my sanity... im viewing a (lovely) yard this week, that do winter turnout - they have no outdoor and its more expensive BUT i figured id be needing a yard next year anyhow (i was intending to sendher away for 18 months!) if i brought her back... so if the yards suitable shes coming home :o


wow i lasted.... 4 days lol... didnt i do well?!

if the yards not suitable for us both then she will stay put until spring....id like her home but im not compromising and being on a yard i dont like just to get her back sooner! :)

hope that makes sense and i listened to my heart not head :o
 
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