Not wanting to ride anymore

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When I was horseless I missed riding so much, then when i had two last year(before getting beau) , I never had time to ride!
Then I got a lovely girl who would come and ride my mare,and do what she wanted with her. we woud go hacking together etc.
Then I sold the mare and got Beau.

I wouldnt change having 2 but OH's interest in riding has gone it seems (because its winter!), he hasnt ridden in well over 2 months, and I dont know whether its because Ive had a lot of stressful stuff going on lately, but I have no motivation to ride, and Im not missing it at all.


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I still love being around the boys but the last thing I feel ike doing lately is riding.

I have told the girl who used to ride she can come and ride whenever she likes, compete if she wants, dressage, HT's, event even, but she has a loan horse now.

Im hoping this will pass when 'hopefully' things get better in the rest of my life.

does anyone else ever get like this?
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I really didn't want to ride this morning - but I made myself and my horse went so well so I was pleased I had made the effort.

Usually he is a complete plod, but this morning he walked out at a nice brisk walk, while being well behaved and he even stood still while I was trying to do a map for a lost lorry driver who could hardly speak a word of english - I wonder if he found the industrial estate he was looking for? He wouldn't find it around our lanes, he would have ended up stuck like so many before!

Cheer up - riding is supposed to be fun and everyone has off days.
 
I think sometimes we lose the motivation and drive if there's not much going on. After I did my last competition (july 06!) I lost my motivation, I really did need a good kick up the ar5e!! I still enjoyed riding but I didn't go into the school and I didn't jump, I just went through the motions.

After that my horse was sold and I had nothing to ride, Boo was in and out of work so there was no real enjoyment there. Then the eventing season kicked off............now all I want to do is go and compete, have missed the whole of this season (unheard of) and I bl00dy can't!
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I hope you find your mojo (
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I've been like this recently.... but I think in my case it is because I don't really click with my loan horse...

But is strange cos I've always been really desperate to ride - but lately not so fussed... but I am busy with lots of other things - so don't have so much time to spend riding - maybe that makes a difference?
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Sounds like you're missing the companionship of another riding with you. Do you have any other horsey friends to ask over to help you exercise your two? If you get out and about with others you might feel better.
 
I go through phases like this, but it always passes eventually. I love just spending time at the yard, pottering about and fussing my horses and get as much from just being round them as from riding, so it's not a problem. I haven't ridden for 4 months now, as I had a car crash in June and am also 7 months pregnant. I really felt I wanted to ride the other day, and am looking forward to getting back on board once the baby's born. If you're having a bad time at the moment you're bound to lose your enthusiasm for things. I'm sure you'll get back into it soon - don't beat yourself up about it!
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If you are feeling that negative about it,why are you looking for land? Seems that the relentless grind of working land and animals might do you more harm than good.

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as I said I still love being around them and I still love doing everything with them, I just dont have motivation to ride.

Im hoping its just exhaustion from being at the hospital every day, and the worry associated with that.

Also having lance lame for 6 weeks, now sound, but now beau is lame, well i know they say it comes in three's but its more like 10's LOL.

and Im looking for land because I want my own place for them, land has nothing to do with riding.
 
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I go through phases like this, but it always passes eventually. I love just spending time at the yard, pottering about and fussing my horses and get as much from just being round them as from riding, so it's not a problem. I haven't ridden for 4 months now, as I had a car crash in June and am also 7 months pregnant. I really felt I wanted to ride the other day, and am looking forward to getting back on board once the baby's born. If you're having a bad time at the moment you're bound to lose your enthusiasm for things. I'm sure you'll get back into it soon - don't beat yourself up about it!
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Thank you
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Thats how i feel, like Ive lost enthusiam, had a lot going on lately so i suppose its to be expected, being around them is about the ony unstressful thing i have going on at the mo
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I am a social rider..... if there is no one to ride with then I have less motivation. Unlucky that i am the only one at my yard...(only four of us anyway) that doesnt work full time!!

So yes sometimes/mostly I dont really feel like it.

BUT i did ride this morning and thoroughly enjoyed it... just the thought sometimes is a bit off putting.... once you get going etc

Anyway it rained as soon as i finished so i felt smug then!!
 
I feel like that sometimes. I would go months without riding because I couldn't find the motivation to get on with it. It usually passes after a while, luckily Chex is happy being a field ornament
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Gina, you have such a lot of stress in your life at the moment that I wouldn't worry about your lack of motivation for riding. You love your horses and I am sure it will come back. It is much more fun to go out hacking with someone else for company so I hope that you can find someone suitable when both boys are sound.
 
I have phases of feeling like this. I think that the less you do, the less you want to do. Then I had an enforced 6 month break as my horse was seriously ill & I eventually lost him. When he was first ill, I was climbing the walls, but then I kind of adjusted to having the extra time.

Sometimes it all seems like such a lot of effort on top of working f/t & studying etc, but I remind myself that I'm doing it cos I WANT to. I just get a touch of lazy-itis now & then.
 
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Gina, you have such a lot of stress in your life at the moment that I wouldn't worry about your lack of motivation for riding. You love your horses and I am sure it will come back. It is much more fun to go out hacking with someone else for company so I hope that you can find someone suitable when both boys are sound.

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((thank you))
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I'm sure it will come back when you have less upset in your life.
I won't even get on my lad if i'm in a bad/sad/stressed mood, i find he behaves according to my mood, and if i'm fed up he is a plonka, therefore don't expect him to put up with that.
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The longer i have out of the saddle, the less i feel the need to ride. Maybe take an hour or so for yourself, tack up and just set off somewhere. Even if you are only out for 10 minutes, it might be just the kick start you need. And if not, they will be fine, until you are ready to ride again.
Don't beat yourself up, we all go through it. Well i do anyway, lol
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Hope you feel better soon
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I know exactly what you mean. I love having a horse but have no desire whatsoever to get back on top of one. I had an "incident" almost 20 years ago which shattered my nerve and I have only ridden occasionally since then. To be perfectly honest (and I realise there are people out there who will pull faces and scratch their heads) but riding bores me witless, 10 minutes is more than enough to have me falling asleep with boredom. I've taken horses for walk on the end of a rope (bit like a dog really) as I can't be a*sed to even tack up!
 
I can't believe I am saying this, but riding isn't the be-all and end-all of life (although it feels like it in my life, right now). If the thought of riding adds another level of stress to your life right now, don't do it. The horses aren't footling around in their fields complaining that they haven't been ridden, they are just as happy having an enforced holiday.

I really must arrange to come and visit my friend up in GeordieLand and kill two birds with one stone, and ride one Lance into the bargain...!
 
Don't feel guilty about not wanting to ride! Its a natural feeling when you've stress in your life. I've been in the same boat as you and didn't want to ride for 5 months. So I roughed off my horse and once I'd got my life sorted my motivation came back. Just rough your horses off for a while. You can still spend quality time with them but without the pressure of feeling you've got to ride. Who says! Your horses, your life, they need to fit around your needs as well. You're just as important as they are! Stop beating yourself up.
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The question about land was more directed at the fact that managing your own place and being totally responsible (and possibly a bit more isolated) doesn't so much refer to riding as the additional stress it could place upon you in the management of it. The fact that you have at the moment lost interest in riding is an indicator that you are under stress.

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I feel a bit like this lately, and i truly believe the less you ride the less you want to ride and so on..

One day just steel yourself and get on and then maybe you'll get back into the routine! I'll let you know if it works for me anyway!!!
 
you have got so much going on at the moment it is no wonder you have no motivation to ride, you are probably finding that just being around the boys is a much better stress buster. Even as a new and excited owner I still sometimes ge to the yard and end up rushing around trying to muchk out groom, ride, tidy etc and I've realised that sometimes I feel better and calmer if I just hug, stroke, massage George - no pressure. Don't worry it will come back.
 
Last winter I rode both of mine everyday after college without fail, gave them one day off a week each! Couldn't face doing the same this winter so my coloured has gone on working livery at the local college, he is absolutely loving it there, he loves all the attention and the exercise
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He is coming back to live with me again this time next year, but it is nice to have a break and just have one to do!
 
I was like that this summer, partly due to the crappy weather and also because I was so unhappy at the yard I was at - I got very close to selling her. I had no motivation and no-one to ride with to spur me on, I felt I was ploughing money into her and not enjoying her. Since I have moved I have got all my enthusiasm back and am loving riding her again rain or shine. I feel so much happier and she is going better than ever. I have lessons with someone who spurs me and gives me confidence and encouragement and my riding is getting better and better.
 
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