now i think about it :/ but can you help me?

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ok i dont know why i thought that was a good idea but now i understand all your points and just guna give it a miss for another few years :)

but i was guna ask i feel like im getting no were with ebs im having lessons and taking peoples advice but just feel like im failing :/
and i dont know what do know
 
I'm fairly new here but I've been around long enough to see that you're just not giving anything enough time to see results. What's your hurry? Seriously. You're young, you have the rest of your life ahead of you and there is no rush to get from point A to point B. Try enjoying the journey instead of looking to the destination.

Take some time. Really listen to your instructor. Practice what you've learned in lessons. But also just enjoy riding. That's so important and people seem to forget about it in their rush to be a successful competitor. It's about having fun. Relax and have fun.
 
Looking at your other post regarding people thinking they are 'IT' I think your main problem is that you see what everyone else is doing and you want to be doing it to. Thats totally understandable for someone your age.
What you need to do is chill and enjoy Ebony.
Remember WHY you started riding...was it to have fun and enjoy it?????
Or was it just for the rosettes?
 
Ok, you feel you're not getting anywhere, yet you went to that show the other day and did really well, you admitted that yourself! To be honest, you've been given the advice really recently, so of course you won't see any drastic changes yet. Sometimes people don't even notice how much their horses are changing and improving because they ride them and see them everyday, and it's only an outsider that notices that big changes are actually happening!

Get yourself a different instructor, as they don't seem very good if you need help off here, and maybe you'll see more differences. You have a great horse in Ebong, give her the time she needs to improve, stick at it, and don't give up.
 
Your in too much of a rush. You need to relax, listen and probably start having fun again! You sound like your always on a big mission to fix something but never want to put the hard work.

Everything will come together it takes time, patience and commitment.
 
You have been a member on this forum since May this year. That is less than 4 months. You need to have patience with your horse. She isnt going to have some miracle improvement over night. You have to appreciate the little improvements. Last time I read a post of yours I read that Ebony was going well on the snaffle ring of a gag? That is an improvement!

I think you really need an instructor who can help you see improvements. I used to feel better each week at the end of my weekly lesson when my instructor could say something like my horse was going the best he had ever seen.
 
Where, exactly, do you "want to get" and how do you think a more uneducated horse will get you there better than Ebony??

How long have you had her??

Do you judge your own performance on what everyone else is doing?

Just bear in mind that there will ALWAYS be someone with a better horse than you, who jumps bigger than you, that gets better scores at dressage than you, and can go faster than you.....thats life.....as long as YOU are having FUN (within reason!), then forget what everyone else is doing!
 
I'm really pleased that you are hanging on before getting another horse, it is far more sensible to wait a while and you are at the age when life will be getting increasingly hectic over the next few years.

Sometimes it is easy to look at what we haven't got instead of what we have. Ebony is a cracking little horse that I imagine many girls your age (and older!) would give their right arm for.

I agree that you should be enjoying her and that can mean enjoying lots of different things with her. I know you don't have transport, but even things like having a fun day out having a picnic, trying trec or long distance riding, a spot of dressage or something a bit different instead of focusing on your jumping all the time might help to freshen both of you a bit and help you to get the most out of her all round.

Then you can take the pressure off her and yourself a bit and work on schooling over the next year or so and see the difference in her and yourself.

It is easy to think that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence but give it time, and patience and perseverence will pay off working on improving Ebony and you'll be a better horsewoman because of it.
 
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And why don't you make an effort to be a nice person and give constructive advice, not be nasty over their spelling or anything else you can pick holes in.

OP, there are many people on here with brilliant advice and if you follow the majority I dont think you will go far wrong.
 
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once up-on a time when I was younger I had a 14.2 Arab mare who would jump for fun 5ft was nothing to her she's jump it at trot! I bought her and because I knew better......

I jumped, jumped, jumped her until she was clumsy started knocking down 3ft fences etc because her schooling was ruined. I just hadn't done enough of the basic flat work. If you can give your little horse some time off, hack and school her If she is anything like my little mare was she'll turn in to exactly what you want her to be. :)
 
It can take years to establish a good bond and successful competition record. My bay has only started consistently performing well in his later teenage years as he can be a boisterous ride, and back in his day use to be quite a handful. I have had him for nearly 14 years, it just took him a fair while to mature... I believe he is irish! :rolleyes:

Might be worth setting yourself small goals, but you don't want to set something that is miles out of your reach. I haven't followed any of your posts, and so do not know your abilities, but just for example:- if you are currently confidently competing over 2 foot course, aim to go to the next level, something in your reach, like competing over a 2'3 course. Don't look at others jumping 4 foot and wanting to be 'there' already. Smaller targets get accomplished easier and sooner, and you will feel the progress made. :)

Try to be patient, these things can't be rushed! xx :D
 
I can sympathise with yoy and it is hard to be patient (even or us older lot) :)
I often think oooh I could get Lord round a BN in X months but I know deep down he is not quite ready and if I push him too quick we will be back to basics, and yes it is frustrating having to play slowly slowly catchy monkey but it IS worth it :)


You need to think of the situation like a game of jenga, you try to build up to high to quickly and it will ALWAYS fall back down.
 
Chill.
You're the same as me or something? I don't know but I bought a horse, and after he's built up (mass muscle wastage like whoa) and had his teeth done, I'm getting lessons from the best in my area (some out of my area).
You have a lot of lessons and it gives you something to work on. I haven't read any of your posts so I don't know you or your horse, but lessons are a start I think...
Also, I gather you want to jump? Get your flatwork sorted before you jump again, because really, everything in jumping links back to flatwork.
 
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