Oh dear...crap start to new year.

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Going to have to give up riding after making a complete tool of myself today. I went to do a clear round,a TINY clear round,I couldn't even do that. There were people half my age popping round effortlessly and me,well what a disaster. Flumping all over the place and upsetting the horse. I have been considering giving up riding for a while,and this has just confirmed what a complete and utter failure of a "rider" I am.
 
would it make you feel better if I told you that I totally embarrassed myself yesterday at a show?
couldn't get my boy near the first fence :rolleyes:

it happens to us all - don't give up
 
Don't give up, I went for a riding lesson the other week and nearly didn't get on. My leg went to jelly and thought I was going to be sick. Then in the lesson the kid were bombing around and I was too scared to canter. This week it got better, It will for you too xx
 
Please don't give up, 3 years ago I had completely lost my confidence, and despite getting a horse the previous year being my dream come true - I was seriously considering selling the gorgeous George. I was so nervous i was making him nervous and upsetting him it was a disaster :(

Three times I tried to go to tiny clear round, but bottled out at the last minute :( i did eventually make it and these are the massive jumps (not) I managed (I was crying with nerves before I went in!):

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I got a really good friend and a trusted instructor to help me out, and it was a long slow road, but this is us now and it just makes it all so much more worthwhile:

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Good luck and don't give up, horses are such a pleasure :)
 
We all have really bad days when nothing goes right and you think what is the point to this,but things always seem far worse than they are. Horses can reduce you to tears sometimes but think of the good things that you have done and can do. Try and put this behind you and move on, perhaps you could have some lessons with someone to help the pair of you move forward. This was just a bad day,put it down to experience and try to move on from it.
 
Sounds like its time to go back to basics :) If jumping is worrying you - dont jump! Find a lovely, sympathetic instructor but one who will also not let you bottle out too easily. Have a few lunge lessons on the ploddiest horse you can find, and go from there. Ive not jumped for 8 years because the thought makes me want to go into hibernation, but as a result of doing the above I am hoping that once my boy is back into full fitness we might just pop a tiny crosspole! Where abouts are you? Im sure you could get plenty of support from people on here x
 
You sound like me!

March last year I lost my old girl. I could do anything on her. However, taking Leo anywhere was a disaster.

I forgot 2 w&t tests run by the Riding Club, having almost cried in both warmups - the first one I made my friend lead me for 1/2 hour when I first got on :D

Then went to a cr showjumping. He was a bit fizzy warming up and I completely lost my nerve. I went to find the owner of the yard as I didn't want to turn up, ride round, then go home, without doing a round as it seemed a bit cheeky. I offered to pay for a round so she didn't think I was taking the mickey - and just after I explained, I burst into tears :p

Luckily for me she was lovely, and one of her yard riders took him round the (massive) 1 foot jumps. I then got on, did 2, got leaped with all down the long side ending in "star jump" position, did one more, then gave up :D

But - I love him, I just need to find the confidence with him that I had with my old girl. He's a lovely horse but needs riding in a different way to her, and I need to get my butt in gear and just do it. So this year we will try again.

(By the way, I am almost 40, and used to be the most confident rider ever. The lead rein/tears stuff was mortifying for me. Hate the thought of seeing the people again who saw me in that state, but I WILL DO IT!!!)

Sorry this is an essay, but I just thought it might help that someone is in the same "place" as you, except more teary and pathetic :D
 
gorgeous george is lovely and please don't give up maisie06 - I too completely lost my nerve last year, its coming back slowly but still absolutely petrified to jump :rolleyes: after seeing gorgeous george's post I'm going to make it my mission this week to make myself pop over a couple of cross poles!
 
You will only be a true failure if you do give up.
I am a useless rider in my 50.s, scared to canter in case I fall off.
My lad knows better and does it anyway, most times I am the boss, but
whatever we do we ENJOY DOING IT, honestly relax and don't sweat the small stuff as they say and in time everything will fall into place
 
When I was trying out a saddle on Ali, I forgot how to dismount and had to be helped off! Total mental blank...very embarrassing!
I always say that I've made an art form of falling off over jumps, so you are definitely way better than me! Don't give up - ride for fun for a bit; trekking, hacking, that kind of thing. Enjoy the scenery. Then after a few months you can start retraining yourself with jumping. You probably just need a rest from it, not a complete exit from riding as a whole.
 
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