Oh Dear I am a freak. Some people are so URGH.

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Shysmum

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Someone who I had a bad history with two years ago (him bitching about me and Shy) lost their horse this week . I went to tell him how sorry I am ( lovely horse), but nope, I was sent away as a FREAK. i really am not surprised, just shocked, and had just wanted to say I was very sorry, he was a lovely lad. . :eek:

For me it is closure. This man didn't want us as a fellow livery, and he gave me a hard time, but his horse was lovely, and i just wanted to tell him how sad I was. That was it. Human to human.

So there you go - and I am just going to let it go. Still feel sad though. I am a really NICE lady.
 
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Hugs Shysmum. Nice of you to go and speak to this chap. he probably wasnt in the best frame of mind and being in pain lashed out at you. Put it behind you. If you are a freak, there are plenty more of us here :)
 
When my GSD was a pup he was attacked by three fully grown GSDs belonging to a local guy who couldn't control them. My OH got very cross and words were exchanged. We avoided him, he avoided us, but nothing more was said. When our GSD died at 13, he stopped by our gate and said he was sorry that we had lost him. I was immensely touched. So shysmum you should feel proud that you tried, maybe when his grief lessens he will think on it and appreciate your gesture.
 
Why thank you. I meant no harm, but it was a step too far. The main thing is that is it closure from the past.
 
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Freaks are the best people ;-) coming from one ! Probably just raw and took it out on you . A very thoughtful thing to do lovely x
 
Ah bless you, abbie. thanks ! The horsey world around here is very small (teeside), and life is just too short to hold grudges. I'm moving yards next week, to a private house with a few lovely liveries, which is what I had when I lived in Cumbria. I'll be so glad to be off the "circuit", but will really miss my YO.
 
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Shysmum, you didn't have to say anything, but your kind words were thrown back in your face by this horrid, ignorant man who has no idea how to behave. I'm sorry that you have been upset like this.
 
maybe I should toughen up, but i don't want to.

I had to leave that yard 2 years ago because of this man, and his spiteful behaviour, and have been at a FAB yard since then. Only moving now to cut down the travelling time.
 
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He perhaps, due to your previous disagreement thought you were being sarcastic when you offered condolences. That would explain his reaction I feel. Don't forget, if he's grieving he may be a bit reactionary and touchy. I'm not exactly sticking up for him, name calling is ridiculous amongst adults and completely uncalled for, but he could have simply misinterpreted your intentions. Don't let it bother you! You've tried to reach out and he's not interested, leave it at that.
 
I do feel for you OP, but equally I might be feeling for the other person if they'd posted feeling as hurt as you, if you get my drift. A loved one has been lost, a lot to get over right now.
 
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Sprinkles, thanks. I know this ran deep, but it's over now. In future, I will be more isolated and will just keep my head down.
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I don't think you should be more isolated, you come across as a very caring, thoughtful person. If I was on a yard, I'd be looking to be sharing with people like you :) But, not everyone is like that and we don't know the reason why. Could be any number of reasons, you shouldn't blame yourself in any case. I'm the kind of person who always apologises even if it's not my fault .. well I don't think it is ;)
 
Closure is important but hey you are the person you are. since baby was pts 10 days ago i have found closure on abusive ex but i still cared how he was coping about baby going. Long story but at end of day im me the person who wears heart on sleeve :)
 
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